January 2nd, 2010 - Bill-526651 said:
Looking at the demographics I can see the progression ---there are more missing people in our lives which used to be the Family in our lives around Christmas. It's a beautiful Holyday that still remains special in my life and one I look forward to each year.
December 27th, 2009 - Valerie-104200 said:
It is difficult for me because I go to my daughter's house to celebrate with her family on Christmas morning. In order to make it easy on her, we celebrate with everyone at her house . . . including my ex husband, his wife and her son. I just keep quiet and stay in the background . . . and feel so uncomfortable because everyone is a couple except me. I've been doing this for six years and I've been divorced longer than I was married. Will it ever get easy? sigh . . .
December 27th, 2009 - MariaElena-485060 said:
This is my third Christmas as a widow and it's not getting any easier. I don't like being alone. Holidays and special occasions are especially hard even though my children and I have my family for support. Hopefully things will get better in the coming years.
December 25th, 2009 - Donna-496117 said:
Christmas was very hard. I've been a widow since April. All the other holidays were OK. But Christmas was very difficult. Going to midnight Mass alone was the worst. I sing in the Choir and had a very difficult time getting through it. Having someone to be there with me as my husband was for 38 Christmas would be a wonderful thing. Maybe next year that will be the case.
December 24th, 2009 - Elaine-275060 said:
Daniel is so right, re Midnight Mass. I joined the choir at church, so I go to Midnight Mass with some very nice people,, but sharing Mass with a loved one. Coming home after, and having Hot Chocolate, and Christmas cookies. I really miss that. This is the fourth Christmas since my sweet Tony joined our heavenly family. I know he's in a beautiful place,, but I still feel sad that we arent' together.
December 21st, 2009 - Brenda-492841 said:
December 21st, 2009 Brenda-492841 said:
Well, I'm surrounded by the love of my daughters and family on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. These holidays are always celebrated as a family unit. I can always grab a daughter to join me as my Christmas or New Years date for the evening if there is a party to attend. Yet, on Valentines Day, it is a day for just concentrating on just that one special person in your life , and showering him with love ; be it a special romantic dinner and a movie, flowers ,or a box of chocolates, it should be a day to celebrate your love. I think it is on this day when I feel particularly lonely.(Ok, go ahead and play that violin. LOL!)
December 10th, 2009 - Amy-62101 said:
I think holidays in general are hard when single. Regardless of the event or time of year, when you are the only one that doesnt have someone special .... even in a room filled with family and friends... there is still a feeling of being alone... an empty feeling.
December 2nd, 2009 - America-312924 said:
Edwin-what a profound comment ! It is quite evident that The Holy Spirit has touched your heart.mind and soul. My personal experience has taught me that even though I too come back home to an empty house, I at least am not miserable compared to when I was married and did not have God in my life.
Just keep my eyes on " The Prize" and look forward to a real future without lonliness
December 1st, 2009 - Lee-513782 said:
It's particularly hard to watch the TV commercials at Christmas time wherein the man gives a woman a special jewelry gift symbolizing their love and they bond or seemingly renew their love for each other all over again.
Although sometimes I find myself choking back tears, I remember that God has a plan for me. Every journey, especially the painful ones, has lead me to this point in my life. Now God can bring me where I'm supposed to be in life. That's the moment I stop and say a prayer and ask Him to guide me.
November 30th, 2009 - Dan-251705 said:
I dislike the question. There's nothing "wrong" with being single--even if there IS occasional loneliness. Would you ask married people which holiday they find the most difficult to endure as a couple? No. Being single is not an inferior state. It's a different state, even though likely temporary. Why automatically assume that holidays are difficult?
November 29th, 2009 - Susan-400419 said:
Valentines Day is the most difficult. I have children, and sharing other holidays with them is very uplifting. But Valentines Day, as much as I try to make it about them, still has a bitter sting as a reminder that no one see's me as special enough to love in a romantic way.
November 24th, 2009 - Michelle-501804 said:
Maybe I'm odd, but I wish there had been a choice of "none of the above." I look forward to Christmas [awesome decorating and holy season!]; Thanksgiving is a time to be with family and those less fortunate; New Year's I go to midnight Mass with my housemates and even Valentine's I hang out with my closest girlfriends and watch chick flicks and bond. ;-)
November 22nd, 2009 - Mike-370396 said:
I agree with Paul. Those of us who have been rejected by a spouse, and her/his subsequent extended family, are suddenly without at holiday time. If we can only realize our own value and how much we are wanted by countless other souls, it will inspire us to provide holiday cheer rather than lacking it.
If we think loneliness we will be lonely. Our thoughts, ultimately, become our destiny.
November 21st, 2009 - Timothy-296611 said:
Christmas hurts for me because it has become so commercialized so I feel alienated but at least I have family. Valentine's Day is painful because there seems to be so much personal pressure to pledge your love to someone and if that someone is missing it is like the whole day is salt in the open wound of your heart. But New Year's is the worst because the day seems already to be predicated upon the phony premise that things will be so much better the next day despite the likelihood that most people just wake up hungover and commited to nothing more than their same old routines.
November 21st, 2009 - Cole-326018 said:
Saint Valentine's Day is always the hardest day to be alone. ever since I was a teenager I dreamt of the day when I would be in a relationship and spend the holiday with that special someone. Year after year has gone by and when I had a girlfriend, we broke up before St. Valentine's Day. There's still hope for next year!
November 19th, 2009 - Dottie-493908 said:
New Year's eve ... It definitely seems like a "couples' night ... I am usually invited to a neighors' party (which is nice); but being by myself, there is an awkwardness when the ball drops and everyone is kissing their spouse ... then, I am able to joining in the hugging and kissing that takes place among firiends.
November 16th, 2009 - Mary-285153 said:
steriotypically, Valentine's is the holiday I hate, and I can't conveniently forget it because it's smack in the middle of a gpa's birthday and mine. other than that, I usually don't mind the holidays as I'm either with friends or family. except on New Year's which I always seem to be at home for.