January 6th, 2010 - Elle-521624 said:
I think New Year's Eve is one of the times you wish you were not alone... as it's nice to have a partner to dance with... I went out to a the New Year's Eve dance anyway...It also happened to be a stag and do for a young couple in town and my girlfriend and I went, and we had a blast...
January 2nd, 2010 - Bill-526651 said:
Looking at the demographics I can see the progression ---there are more missing people in our lives which used to be the Family in our lives around Christmas. It's a beautiful Holyday that still remains special in my life and one I look forward to each year.
January 1st, 2010 - Peggy-450771 said:
roasting chestnuts on open fire, jack frost nipping at your nose, yule tide carols be sung by a choir.......I love this song by Johnny Mathis, I would like to cuddle with someone who loves the Baby Jesus as much as I do! I love going to church, the movies, walking in a park or on the beach. The Fontini Nativity, a fire in fireplace and an honest to good honest and kind man, how great!
December 27th, 2009 - Valerie-104200 said:
It is difficult for me because I go to my daughter's house to celebrate with her family on Christmas morning. In order to make it easy on her, we celebrate with everyone at her house . . . including my ex husband, his wife and her son. I just keep quiet and stay in the background . . . and feel so uncomfortable because everyone is a couple except me. I've been doing this for six years and I've been divorced longer than I was married. Will it ever get easy? sigh . . .
December 27th, 2009 - MariaElena-485060 said:
This is my third Christmas as a widow and it's not getting any easier. I don't like being alone. Holidays and special occasions are especially hard even though my children and I have my family for support. Hopefully things will get better in the coming years.
December 26th, 2009 - Michelle-407188 said:
I think all holidays are bad without someone special to share them with, but I have my family for most of them. I would have to say the worst is New Years. New Years is for being with close friends! I is way more fun to share it with someone special then alone!
December 25th, 2009 - Donna-496117 said:
Christmas was very hard. I've been a widow since April. All the other holidays were OK. But Christmas was very difficult. Going to midnight Mass alone was the worst. I sing in the Choir and had a very difficult time getting through it. Having someone to be there with me as my husband was for 38 Christmas would be a wonderful thing. Maybe next year that will be the case.
December 24th, 2009 - Elaine-275060 said:
Daniel is so right, re Midnight Mass. I joined the choir at church, so I go to Midnight Mass with some very nice people,, but sharing Mass with a loved one. Coming home after, and having Hot Chocolate, and Christmas cookies. I really miss that. This is the fourth Christmas since my sweet Tony joined our heavenly family. I know he's in a beautiful place,, but I still feel sad that we arent' together.
December 21st, 2009 - Brenda-492841 said:
December 21st, 2009 Brenda-492841 said:
Well, I'm surrounded by the love of my daughters and family on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. These holidays are always celebrated as a family unit. I can always grab a daughter to join me as my Christmas or New Years date for the evening if there is a party to attend. Yet, on Valentines Day, it is a day for just concentrating on just that one special person in your life , and showering him with love ; be it a special romantic dinner and a movie, flowers ,or a box of chocolates, it should be a day to celebrate your love. I think it is on this day when I feel particularly lonely.(Ok, go ahead and play that violin. LOL!)
December 17th, 2009 - BettyLee-406210 said:
My large family gatherings during the Thanksgiving-New Year season make that a joyful time of the year for me. Valentine's day, however is different; it is much more of a "couples' day. I do, however, enjoy it in a different way by sending a Valentine to each of my fifteen grandchildren, and receiving cards from them also!l
December 10th, 2009 - Amy-62101 said:
I think holidays in general are hard when single. Regardless of the event or time of year, when you are the only one that doesnt have someone special .... even in a room filled with family and friends... there is still a feeling of being alone... an empty feeling.
December 6th, 2009 - Lisa-358013 said:
It's hard for me to answer this interview because all but Thanksgiving are hard for me personally. I've had engagements start on Christmas & New Years Eve (different men & it never worked out); and I never like Valentines Day even if I'm with someone. My grandmother had the stroke that took her life on Valentines Day when I was only 6 years old. She was the grandmother I was named after and I was born in her month. She told me I was the answer to her prayers. So that's my reasoning. I can't pick just one.
December 6th, 2009 - Marcia-211099 said:
My family lives out of town and I was widowed 3 years ago from a man I loved deeply and who was my best friend. Because my sons are in college they want to come back and spend their Christmas break with friends (which I totally understand). I feel like there's no one there for me anymore, though we do spend Christmas Eve with dear friends.
December 4th, 2009 - Daniel-228472 said:
I chose Christmas cause you go to your families and you see all your cousins and everyone engaged, or newly married with newborns. It gets depressing year after year not being able to share One of the most Special Holiday's with nobody significant. I guess I'm just at that age right now where everyone is starting new life's. I always feel left out or like the third wheel.
And as far as the jewelry commercials. Lame! A TRUE woman is worth more than just jewelry. And the RIGHT woman doesn't care what the man gets...as long as they have eachother!
December 2nd, 2009 - America-312924 said:
Edwin-what a profound comment ! It is quite evident that The Holy Spirit has touched your heart.mind and soul. My personal experience has taught me that even though I too come back home to an empty house, I at least am not miserable compared to when I was married and did not have God in my life.
Just keep my eyes on " The Prize" and look forward to a real future without lonliness
December 2nd, 2009 - Steve-514454 said:
Well, This is one year this question doesn't apply since our shift is lucky enough to work all the major holidays this year. Yeah... One positive thing is that it wont happen again for another 3yrs. But I've worked many holidays before so to me there just another day.
December 1st, 2009 - Lee-513782 said:
It's particularly hard to watch the TV commercials at Christmas time wherein the man gives a woman a special jewelry gift symbolizing their love and they bond or seemingly renew their love for each other all over again.
Although sometimes I find myself choking back tears, I remember that God has a plan for me. Every journey, especially the painful ones, has lead me to this point in my life. Now God can bring me where I'm supposed to be in life. That's the moment I stop and say a prayer and ask Him to guide me.
November 30th, 2009 - Debra-502386 said:
New Year's Eve is very difficult for me. Marking the beginning of a new year, realizing you are without a significant other is hard to overcome. Fortunately, the symphony has a New Year's Eve concert and it is very easy to attend alone and blend in with the crowd. I have made it a new tradition!
November 29th, 2009 - Susan-400419 said:
Valentines Day is the most difficult. I have children, and sharing other holidays with them is very uplifting. But Valentines Day, as much as I try to make it about them, still has a bitter sting as a reminder that no one see's me as special enough to love in a romantic way.
November 24th, 2009 - Michelle-501804 said:
Maybe I'm odd, but I wish there had been a choice of "none of the above." I look forward to Christmas [awesome decorating and holy season!]; Thanksgiving is a time to be with family and those less fortunate; New Year's I go to midnight Mass with my housemates and even Valentine's I hang out with my closest girlfriends and watch chick flicks and bond. ;-)
November 23rd, 2009 - Kay-510249 said:
Isn't interesting how the numbers came out for the Christmas result.† Men find it a harder holiday to be alone and 51+ really feel the loneliness of the day.† I find Christmas the hardest to be alone but I just hang in the kitchen and cook.† It is great therapy to relax and create a feast.† I let my siblings outwit each other in the other room while my I laugh at them playing the same games as when were kids.
November 23rd, 2009 - Rebecca-496598 said:
This Thanksgiving is the first anniversary of my husband's death, so it will be very difficult. However, I will be surrounded by family and friends who will hold me up. Christmas was his very favorite time of the year. Last year I was still in a fog, but I think this year will be the most difficult time. I will immerse myself in church activities and allow Christ to carry me through this storm as He always has done.
November 22nd, 2009 - Lori-510406 said:
Christmas was very important with 3 children and they enjoyed going to midnight mass. I today miss all the family gathering of having my parents and sisters and her family over . Once my dad passed away 21 yrs ago. My oldest daughter had Christmas. I missed my Dad very much. but life goes on
November 22nd, 2009 - Daniel-373291 said:
We could only vote for one , but I feel lonely during all the Holidays
I'm 52 and I guess because I love people especially family gatherings its hard
Sometimes its hard to get into the spirit of things. I pray and think of something nice I can do for someone else, maybe less fortunaste than I
God bless everyone and enjoy the Holidays
Just one more time to be grateful for life
November 22nd, 2009 - Mike-370396 said:
I agree with Paul. Those of us who have been rejected by a spouse, and her/his subsequent extended family, are suddenly without at holiday time. If we can only realize our own value and how much we are wanted by countless other souls, it will inspire us to provide holiday cheer rather than lacking it.
If we think loneliness we will be lonely. Our thoughts, ultimately, become our destiny.
November 21st, 2009 - Timothy-296611 said:
Christmas hurts for me because it has become so commercialized so I feel alienated but at least I have family. Valentine's Day is painful because there seems to be so much personal pressure to pledge your love to someone and if that someone is missing it is like the whole day is salt in the open wound of your heart. But New Year's is the worst because the day seems already to be predicated upon the phony premise that things will be so much better the next day despite the likelihood that most people just wake up hungover and commited to nothing more than their same old routines.
November 21st, 2009 - Maryeileen-87994 said:
Every Christmas I ask for some spiritual gifts. They have come in a variety of ways but always touch deeply into my spirit. One Christmas it was an owl hooting at midnight and a bright star peeping through the skylight. Another Christmas it was a very impromptu piano player playing Christmas carols in a hotel lobby. Last Christmas, it was a random person who handed me a $50 bill in an IHOP in Anderson SC. I will never know why except I told her as a visitor why I loved their town! Life is full of unexpected gifts.
November 21st, 2009 - Wilma-412583 said:
I think New Year's Eve is the worst. The new year is a new beginning and it would be nice to have someone to start the new year with. At midnight when the whistles blow and the fireworks go off, especially if you are out, is a little awkward if you are with couples.
November 21st, 2009 - Cole-326018 said:
Saint Valentine's Day is always the hardest day to be alone. ever since I was a teenager I dreamt of the day when I would be in a relationship and spend the holiday with that special someone. Year after year has gone by and when I had a girlfriend, we broke up before St. Valentine's Day. There's still hope for next year!
November 19th, 2009 - Dottie-493908 said:
New Year's eve ... It definitely seems like a "couples' night ... I am usually invited to a neighors' party (which is nice); but being by myself, there is an awkwardness when the ball drops and everyone is kissing their spouse ... then, I am able to joining in the hugging and kissing that takes place among firiends.
November 16th, 2009 - Mary-285153 said:
steriotypically, Valentine's is the holiday I hate, and I can't conveniently forget it because it's smack in the middle of a gpa's birthday and mine. other than that, I usually don't mind the holidays as I'm either with friends or family. except on New Year's which I always seem to be at home for.