March 24th, 2012 - Ana-840226 said:
Although you can say yes to being ready, but its more about commitment and letting go of your "single-life" activities for that special someone. That partner deserves time and attention more than any activity in the world. If the partner is confident in you, he/she will be confident in your favorite activities.But don't discard what your partner cares about. Always involve him/her. That's caring and success.
October 14th, 2010 - John-631631 said:
Marriage is one of the sacraments...You have to really be sure, as much as possible, that you have the right partner. And once you're married both of you have to work on it. Marriage is like a garden,...You (both of you) have to feed it, nurture it, and remove weeds in order for the garden to be prosperous and fruitful. God will help those who help themselves....The family that prays together, stays together. Peace and love to you all.
April 5th, 2010 - Bradley-266389 said:
I'm just trying to have "it" together by myself before someone else comes into my life. The word "it" summarizes a lot, but I'm trying to be like "Okay, Brad, you have married friends, but the grass ain't greener there. It's just a Different Chapter in life. Your chapter is being written now." For me, just focusing on "Now" (with its "sufficient evil", as our Lord Jesus put it) has been immensely helpful (though, there are moments when I'm not so cooperative with the grace needed to maintain that focus...ha ha).For instance....I gotta pay this bill right now. I focus on The Act of paying that bill. Then, I gotta make lunch. Well, lunch-preparation is what I need to do. Still: I feel this wistfulness for marriage at times, especially when I see Facebook-pictures of my married friends' Easter-visits to their inlaws.
So yeah....figured I'd not let that go without mention. Maybe that's helpful : ) ...if not, you always have the prayers and goodwill, and graces that come from my present single's walk in life!
April 2nd, 2010 - Kathy -525711 said:
Emotionally, we all like to think we are ready for marriage, but until you know who you are and have known the person your dating, their likes and dislikes,,, the environment, money, family discussions,,,, its got to be real, none of this fantasy.stuff.. (ie... like it shows on the Bachelor)
my thoughts are it comes down to trusting the Lord that we are ready and praying for His guidance; headed in the right direction...! being honest with yourself.. Put yourself outside the box by being humble;....open your eyes, heart & soul...
March 28th, 2010 - Jose-558635 said:
recuerdo haber visto en el canal de la madre Angelica EWTN, una pareja de espossos hablando sobre la preparacion al matrimonio y haber caido en la cuenta ahora de que un principio o cosejo que ellos daban para casarse es escoger una pareja que quiera vivivr el matrimonio catolico, de lo contrario su consejo (de los esposos expositores del programa) era no esperansarse en casarse con alguien que no tenia intencion de vivir tal matrimonio catolico tal como lo concibe la fe d ela Iglesia y la razon de ello era que casarse asi es peligroso pues uno puede pensar que la otra parte ya cambiara algun dia y en realidad tal esperanza resulta ingenua pues la gente no cambia o cambia muy dificilmente. en este sentido, la primera vez que visite los distintos profile de las distintas chicas de mi agrado encontre a muchas de ellas con problemas de fe o de moral. yo creo en la preparacion al matrimonio antes de casarse para toda la vida. pero reflexionando en el consejo de esta pareja de esposos, he encontrado ahora peligroso arriesgarse a casarse con alguien que no quiere o no tiene intencion de compartir la fe y las costumbres que al Iglesia propone para el matrimonio, pues me resulta sensato pensar que el consejo d eesta pareja d eesposos es correcto. la gente muy dificilmente cambia sus costumbres y maneras de pensar, asi que resulta una locura intentar convenserlos de lo contrario. por otro lado, me parece o algo me dice que no me atreva a casarme. razon por la cual quisiera retirarme de catholic mach, pues despues de mi discernimiento creo que el Espiritu Santo sopla en otra direccion. en este sentido, mi respuesta es mas cercana a la ultima opcion y aconsejo tambien tener cuidado al escoger una pareja que no este deacuerdo en vivir la fe y la moral de emodo radical como lo vi yo en la primera vez que visite los profiles de muchas de las muchachas que aunque bellas creo que tampoco estan preparadas para afrontar el matrimonio catolico. quiza el problema se deba a la falta de vida de oracion, pues hoy en dia se ora muy poco y se trabaja demaciado. hasta aqui mi comentario muchas gracias.
March 27th, 2010 - Sarah-449699 said:
I agree that you can only be truly ready to get married when you find the right person. Am I ready to get married tomorrow, no. But I am ready to find my helpmate and commit to marriage and raising a family with the right person. Who I will hopefully find sooner than later when God decides to introduce them to me. I am pass the let me go on dates with different guys who I would not marry and hang out with them. I'm more serious about it and don't want to play games. I get told by a number of people that I should go out more. If they don't have even remotely similar values to me or want similar things in life that I do, I don't see the point in dating them. So I guess what they should have put down is are you ready to find the person you want to marry and commit to a life long relationship in which you support each other through all the trouble that life throws at you. That would probably be too long though.
March 24th, 2010 - Mary-285153 said:
I agree with Daniel and Sarah. And I'm afraid none of these options apply to me. Because I can't be ready to marry someone when I'm not in a relationship with someone to consider being married to. At the same time, I'm not necessarily unprepared to be married. But as to the vocation, it cannot come to its fruition until I have someone to discern. I know I want to get married, and I believe that's my vocation, but this sacrament is so different to all the others. It doesn't just concern oneself and God. It concerns another person. so until then, how can I say I'm ready for marriage and yet I am not unready either?
March 24th, 2010 - Angela-559424 said:
There is a short little prayer that I say every night. I believe its powerful, and I highly recommend you say it too:
Jesus, through the power of the Holy spirit, go back into my memory as I sleep. Every hurt that has been done to me heal that hurt. Every hurt that I have caused to another person heal that hurt. All the relationships that have damaged in my whole life that I am not aware of heal those relationships.
But, Lord, if there is anything that I need to do if I need to go to a person because he is still suffering from my hand, bring to me awareness of that person. I choose to forgive and I ask to be forgiven. Remove whatever bitterness may be in my heart, Lord, and fill the empty spaces with your Love. Thank you Jesus. Amen.
March 22nd, 2010 - Jose-558635 said:
Entiendo por esta pregunta no una precipitacion imprudente, sino, enamorarse y proceder al noviasgo para luego casarse, aunque el proceso de discernimiento sea a corto plaso, si es lo mejor. pues por mas bella que sea la chica, primero esta Dios. en efecto, hay que pensar en las seguridades que ella te ofrece y fijarse sobre todo en si su amor es verdadero o esponde a presipitaciones y otros. disculpeme Reverendo Frank Pavone si no he captado bien la alternativa.
March 22nd, 2010 - Patricia-556296 said:
I answered no but will be sooner than later. It is spring and I am warm again. I think of being married again on Friday nights and in the winter when my butt is cold. That is the absolute truth. I was married for a long time and then he died. I think I am terrified of going through that again.
March 22nd, 2010 - MaryBeth-382377 said:
I am widowed after a happy marriage. I trust God will send me a soulmate again when the time is right. I am ready when the time is right. Until then, it is good to just date and and enjoy the date -- focusing on the now and the moments you are with the person. The rest -- time will tell and I'd be ready when the time is right.
March 21st, 2010 - Christine-559999 said:
I like to think that I'm ready, but I guess that God knows best. Since there's not a potential mate in my life, I would have to assume that God is not ready for me to be married. Until there is someone in my life I wouldn't even begin to think what "ready" feels like.
March 18th, 2010 - Steve-514454 said:
Am I ready? I'd say no, but if the right person comes my way then who knows? I've been alone all my life so far and have my Daisy to keep me company. I've had some passed issues, and I don't know if I can truly trust people again. With that said, I've also quit looking and in some ways have used CM as a last chance. I've got a decent job and great little companion and a roof over my head and food on the table, so its not like I HAVE to be married. I would love to be able to share my life and past experience with someone, but I don't know
March 17th, 2010 - Diana-555010 said:
Yes, at this point in my life I am ready for marriage. I have so much love to give and life is too short to spend it alone. But like others I must be patient and let God direct my path. I know if I'm patient he will send me the right person, all on his time.
March 17th, 2010 - Marino-344790 said:
I AM READY AS ANYONE CAN BE. THIS IS THE ONLY REASON WHY ONE SHOULD JOIN THE CM . ONE HAS NO BUSINESS JOINING IF ONE WANTS TO PLAY. THERE ARE OTHER SITES FOR THAT. IN THE FIFTY PLUS GROUP THERE IS NOT MUCH TIME TO LOSE. THERE SHOULD BE ENOUGH YEARS POSTNUPTIAL TO ENJOY EACH OTHER AS A COUPLE.
March 16th, 2010 - Angelo-555754 said:
We all come to that stage in our lives when we decide we want that special someone to spend the rest of our lives with and I realize now that I am there. Its very difficult to find that person but if we pray and be patient, it will happen. Good luck to us.
March 12th, 2010 - Daniel-550538 said:
I have learned a great deal from past realtionships, as well as this time of solitude. I feel this is the right time in my life to share what I have learned and am prayerful that my soulmate will be revealed soon. I miss sitting next to that special someone at Mass, and sharing all the wonderful blessings of God.
March 12th, 2010 - Maria-92259 said:
I think I was ready since I was 16! And I think we must never stop working on some things in our life...we better ask God to show us the way to follow and be happy with the outcome.The worst part is to find out how much time we wasted pursuing something that did not exist.
March 11th, 2010 - MarthaIsabel-108850 said:
I guess nobody IS ready marriage is really a path of sanctification, you change continuosly and grow in Faith and therefore you just have to be open to Godīs grace, gifts and proofs...you just need to adapt yourself and be open to Godīs grace and yes sometimes is painful because your will does not always match Godīs plans for your life. But He ALWAYS knows what is right!! God Bless you all!!
March 9th, 2010 - Barb-505508 said:
If you want to make God laugh tell him your plans! I believe that only God knows if I am truly ready and with His help and in His own good time, He will show me the way. I'm know there's someone out there for me, but like the song goes, "I just haven't met you yet".
March 9th, 2010 - Teresa-465497 said:
Who can say I am really sure about it. The persons can think that are ready, but the life is a great school, Till the situation push us to take that decision and in side the marrieage is where the person be the best and give the best in our self. when some there is no ready to give and share can be problem.