March 24th, 2012 - Ana-840226 said:
Although you can say yes to being ready, but its more about commitment and letting go of your "single-life" activities for that special someone. That partner deserves time and attention more than any activity in the world. If the partner is confident in you, he/she will be confident in your favorite activities.But don't discard what your partner cares about. Always involve him/her. That's caring and success.
April 5th, 2010 - Bradley-266389 said:
I'm just trying to have "it" together by myself before someone else comes into my life. The word "it" summarizes a lot, but I'm trying to be like "Okay, Brad, you have married friends, but the grass ain't greener there. It's just a Different Chapter in life. Your chapter is being written now." For me, just focusing on "Now" (with its "sufficient evil", as our Lord Jesus put it) has been immensely helpful (though, there are moments when I'm not so cooperative with the grace needed to maintain that focus...ha ha).For instance....I gotta pay this bill right now. I focus on The Act of paying that bill. Then, I gotta make lunch. Well, lunch-preparation is what I need to do. Still: I feel this wistfulness for marriage at times, especially when I see Facebook-pictures of my married friends' Easter-visits to their inlaws.
So yeah....figured I'd not let that go without mention. Maybe that's helpful : ) ...if not, you always have the prayers and goodwill, and graces that come from my present single's walk in life!
April 2nd, 2010 - Kathy -525711 said:
Emotionally, we all like to think we are ready for marriage, but until you know who you are and have known the person your dating, their likes and dislikes,,, the environment, money, family discussions,,,, its got to be real, none of this fantasy.stuff.. (ie... like it shows on the Bachelor)
my thoughts are it comes down to trusting the Lord that we are ready and praying for His guidance; headed in the right direction...! being honest with yourself.. Put yourself outside the box by being humble;....open your eyes, heart & soul...
March 27th, 2010 - Sarah-449699 said:
I agree that you can only be truly ready to get married when you find the right person. Am I ready to get married tomorrow, no. But I am ready to find my helpmate and commit to marriage and raising a family with the right person. Who I will hopefully find sooner than later when God decides to introduce them to me. I am pass the let me go on dates with different guys who I would not marry and hang out with them. I'm more serious about it and don't want to play games. I get told by a number of people that I should go out more. If they don't have even remotely similar values to me or want similar things in life that I do, I don't see the point in dating them. So I guess what they should have put down is are you ready to find the person you want to marry and commit to a life long relationship in which you support each other through all the trouble that life throws at you. That would probably be too long though.
March 24th, 2010 - Mary-285153 said:
I agree with Daniel and Sarah. And I'm afraid none of these options apply to me. Because I can't be ready to marry someone when I'm not in a relationship with someone to consider being married to. At the same time, I'm not necessarily unprepared to be married. But as to the vocation, it cannot come to its fruition until I have someone to discern. I know I want to get married, and I believe that's my vocation, but this sacrament is so different to all the others. It doesn't just concern oneself and God. It concerns another person. so until then, how can I say I'm ready for marriage and yet I am not unready either?
March 24th, 2010 - Angela-559424 said:
There is a short little prayer that I say every night. I believe its powerful, and I highly recommend you say it too:
Jesus, through the power of the Holy spirit, go back into my memory as I sleep. Every hurt that has been done to me heal that hurt. Every hurt that I have caused to another person heal that hurt. All the relationships that have damaged in my whole life that I am not aware of heal those relationships.
But, Lord, if there is anything that I need to do if I need to go to a person because he is still suffering from my hand, bring to me awareness of that person. I choose to forgive and I ask to be forgiven. Remove whatever bitterness may be in my heart, Lord, and fill the empty spaces with your Love. Thank you Jesus. Amen.
March 22nd, 2010 - MaryBeth-382377 said:
I am widowed after a happy marriage. I trust God will send me a soulmate again when the time is right. I am ready when the time is right. Until then, it is good to just date and and enjoy the date -- focusing on the now and the moments you are with the person. The rest -- time will tell and I'd be ready when the time is right.
March 12th, 2010 - Daniel-550538 said:
I have learned a great deal from past realtionships, as well as this time of solitude. I feel this is the right time in my life to share what I have learned and am prayerful that my soulmate will be revealed soon. I miss sitting next to that special someone at Mass, and sharing all the wonderful blessings of God.
March 12th, 2010 - Maria-92259 said:
I think I was ready since I was 16! And I think we must never stop working on some things in our life...we better ask God to show us the way to follow and be happy with the outcome.The worst part is to find out how much time we wasted pursuing something that did not exist.
March 9th, 2010 - Barb-505508 said:
If you want to make God laugh tell him your plans! I believe that only God knows if I am truly ready and with His help and in His own good time, He will show me the way. I'm know there's someone out there for me, but like the song goes, "I just haven't met you yet".