June 30th, 2010 - Todd-296463 said:
Boy it really is hard! I try to send emotigrams, messages, Chats to people! And no one responds backl! Man, I'm beginning to feel and question myself. Does my profile appear that bad! I am very cordial and polite in the messages I send. Am I that scary looking! Guess I'll have patience and pray. You think I would get at least an occasional response.
May 18th, 2010 - Robert-3483 said:
The Gentleman Saint, St. Francis de Sales, has lots to say about this issue in the "Introduction to the Devout Life" or "Vida Devota". As a Doctor of the Church, he speaks with strong authority on the topic of male/female relations. I recommend finding the small sections on friendship and also the section on society and solitude. As laypeople, we *require* holy friendships to survive in the world, and Jesus had many friends, including women. The friendships we choose will impact our lives and the lives of others, especially when through the grace of Our Lord, Jesus Christ.
May 5th, 2010 - Lenny-554115 said:
I need help in understanding why people are so afraid to let go and let live. Im 72 going on 55 and love adventure. I stay in good mental and physical condition so that Im able to do things that most 55 dont do, come on gang let's get with it.
e-mail me and lets do some chatting. give me some comments on this issue.
May 3rd, 2010 - Anne-575204 said:
I feel so out of touch. I don't know how to begin again.... all I know is that I would love to have a close relationship/ companion, friend, and partner to travel with through the rest of this life path. Just need to know where to begin/ chatting and getting to know someone is a challenge after being married for 20 years and now being alone. The world has changed so much. Anyway I am here, hoping this may bring a start to something wonderful... Anyone have ane suggestions?
May 2nd, 2010 - Elisabeth-296513 said:
Men are often afraid of me because I look them in the eye, say what's on my mind, argue my point, and am pretty well-educated. But, I think I'm starting to figure out that it's okay if I scare them initially as long as I am myself and I let them be themselves. They have a right to be where they are in life, and so do I. If it's meant to be, we'll meet somewhere in the middle and figure it out. If it's not, we'll meet somewhere in the middle and become friends. No big deal. I've been able to relax around guys a lot more since I've figured this out.
April 27th, 2010 - Carasia-552780 said:
April 26th Carasia-552780
When people have light in themselves, it will shine out from them. Then we get to know each other as we walk together
in the darkness, without needing to pass our handss over each other's faces, or to intrude into each other's hearts.
April 17th, 2010 - Carmen-460986 said:
Hi to michael..... I was wondering why are you so shy? With your looks you could do anything your heart desires including that of talking to women. Just saying Hi could lead you to being friends. Try it and with prayers... you could overcome your shyness.
April 16th, 2010 - Anna-507830 said:
I really command the comment John made. It is true that for the most part females seem to be dating with one foot in and the other out the door at least that is my situation. What I try to do is that instead of feeling suspicious about anything I will ask and await a response. However, this is where the unexpected plays a role because I dont think that many of us have the time to spend it around people that are not honest and upfront. This is where the decision is made should I stay or should I invest? So as one can see I am willing to give my time but for to the person that will appreciate it. To sum it up I dont think the feeling of getting hurt is what keeps one skeptical of dating but also the big question of "is this worth my time"?
April 10th, 2010 - John-362098 said:
My experience with dating women is that dating involves risk, you just have to decide what risks have small danger and what risks truly are dangerous. most people we date we are going to break up with. You can't be afraid to get hurt anymore than when you play football. No risk, no reward. Trust your instincts if something seems wrong, but try to give people a chance at the begining, until they prove they aren't worthy of your trust. Too many women start out scared and suspicious, and as a result, their hesitancy to get to know guys wears the guy's patience out. When women write about "players" "serial daters" and getting hurt, or they want to e-mail instead of calling for more than a week, it comes across as unwelcoming and many times immature. Follow the Golden Rule- Do unto others as you would have then do unto you-treat men in a pleasant welcome way, unless your sense of danger comes on. Good luck with the process-it's long, but each person we get to know brings us one step closer to our destination.
April 4th, 2010 - Gina-549339 said:
i see advice on a approaching to dating is on top of list. its pretty obvious members on this website are scared of sending more than an emotionagram. its pretty sad people cannot even reach out on this website. guess members are very hurt or something. life is tough, get over it and move on and make better choices.
March 28th, 2010 - Paul-398305 said:
I feel, that since all of the people on this site, have been in a long term relationmship already. It would be helpful to ask someone for help to restart a personal relationship. Business and professional relationships are different than these and are not as deep and intimate as these.
March 11th, 2010 - Robert-3483 said:
Gentleman Saint and Church Doctor, Francis de Sales gives really good advice for male-female relationships (biblically known as friendship). In the book "Introduction to the Devout Life", read the small sections on true friendship, false friendship, and in particular the section called "Society and Solitude". The practice of virtues is required and requires God's grace: prudence, temperance, fortitude, justice, faith, hope, and love. -- http://catholic-lifetime-reading-plan.blogspot.com/2008/08/introduction-to-devout-life-by-st.html