January 18th, 2011 - Joseph-675792 said:
Anything including the "single life" can be a vocation. Putting all your effort and skills into being the best single person you know how to be is a vocation on it's own. Doing so and being the best believer of Christ takes much more dedication than many career choices out there because it is a 24 hour calling to do right by God and yourself.
December 5th, 2010 - Michael-211764 said:
In our fallen world, it's entirely possible that God calls an individual person for various circumstances (taking care of sick relatives, inability to find a mate, etc.) to remain single. But in the general sense of Vocation or states of life, the unconsecrated single life is not considered by the Church to be the fulfillment of a person's life, because God's calling for all of us involves a permanent commitment to love forever which takes the form of a vow: marriage or some form of consecration. This does not have to mean the traditional priesthood or religious life, but could mean taking private vows before one's bishop with the intention of living in the world, or perhaps joining a "secular institute." At any rate, at some point in your life, you're going to have to say "forever," and an unconsecrated single life does not fit that criteria.
November 20th, 2010 - AnneMarie-138069 said:
I think it's only a vocation if one chooses it as a permanent state. If you're waiting and hoping to be married, then you haven't chosen the single life. That would be like someone becoming a priest while he waits to make it into big-league baseball or something.....baseball would be his chosen vocation, not the priesthood. I look at marriage as my chosen vocation, even though I haven't achieved that state of life yet :)
November 8th, 2010 - John-615832 said:
Ok, I said what was on my mind regarding this question on 2 Nov 2010. But now I'm reading these new comments, and old comments as well. My question now is if those of you who say a single life IS a vocation..How come you are on this site?,,My vocation is the Dominican Laity, not to live a single life, my marraige is annulled and I'm quite content with my life. The only thing missing is that 1 lady for me!
November 7th, 2010 - Donna-124681 said:
It is NOT a vocation!!! It is a state of life. A vocation is something we CHOOSE. God calls us to marriage or the Priesthood/Religious life and so we discern and then choose one. The fact that there are so many older single men and women has nothing to do with God and everything to do with the sinfulness of the world and loose morals surrounding our sexual conduct and/or pursuit of material goods rather than marriage and a family. With every sin there are always innocent victims. It seems older people, who have been living with debilitating anxiety, happily accept singleness as a vocation and that it is what God has planned for them. It gives them comfort. Young people who are still finding their way in life, also, view it as a (temporary) vocation. I was one of them. But as the years went by, my eyes opened, and I see it differently. We really need to drop this romantic notion of God and that He is grooming the perfect spouse for us!!!!! Wake up from the dream. There is no such thing as a perfect mate.
Figure out what key characteristics you need in a spouse and then do what you can to find that person. If you find that person, you will have to set your mind to overlooking their other flaws. If you can't do this, accept the fact that you will be single the rest of your life - NOT because God has a "plan" for you but because you are unrealistic and selfishly expect perfection!!!
November 2nd, 2010 - John-615832 said:
A vocation?, NO. if it where a vocation than catholicmatch.com, or the other "dating" sites out there wouldn't exist....or am I wrong?..my vocation is the Dominican Laity, finding the 1 lady God put on this earth for me will, eventually happen. I was married before and I'll marry again-its a matter of faith and persistant prayer, knowing that your prayers may not be answered as you asked but persistance in praise, thanksgiving, petition is the key, following Gods will and not your own helps as well!
November 2nd, 2010 - John-362098 said:
Cristina is exactly right. Priests and nuns and ordained religious have decided to be married to the church. Most single lay people haven't chosen to be single as a way to serve God, though they may serve God in a variety of volunteer or every day ways while single. Most single people don't want to be single, they want to find their best friend in the world, the person they can talk to about anything and both receive and give unconditional love. Unfortunately in today's me first world, where culture teaches that family and children are a burden, when compared to career and money and travel, it is hard to find those people who are still interested in the Catholic faith and able to trust, to open up and provide and receive unconditional love. Most people on Catholic match are scared to get into relationhips because they were shyer, quieter and more protected people growing up, and are just too plain afraid of failure in relationships, and getting hurt,instead of their ability to find a way to work things out with another person. That isn't a vocation, that is a condition in life. It is also an unfortunate condition that could be helped, but single priests and nuns are not the ones to lead a group or teach some social skills, it requires dedicated married volunteer lay people organizing groups in the parish to discuss ways to deal with OPEN communication with dates on your beliefs and your desires and goals in life and learning how to understand others when they inevitably let us down-it isn't always a crisis of trust, it may just be ongoing human frailty and making mistakes that each person has, and will continue to have, even after being married.
October 19th, 2010 - Danielle-429469 said:
How can you say it is NOT a vocation? It is a calling. Right now in life, I am single, so I am to live out my life as a person who is single until I find that God's will calls me live another way. Being single is a vocation to live out your baptismal vows. Whether it is just a temporary state in life or a lifestyle for your whole life, there are times in EVERY person's life where they live as a single person. In that time period, you are to devote all your time, energy, etc. into God's work in a way married or religious cannot. Single life is a special gift, a vocation that can prepare you for the rest of your life-- you learn talents, skills, etc. that you will use in the future.
October 4th, 2010 - De-315276 said:
Yes, the Single life can be a vocation. Please see below the following excerpt, taken from Pope John Paul II's encyclical on the Consecrated Life.
We are all aware of the treasure which the gift of the consecrated life in the variety of its charisms and institutions represents for the ecclesial community. Together let us thank God for the Religious Orders and Institutes devoted to contemplation or the works of the apostolate, for Societies of Apostolic Life, for Secular Institutes and for other groups of consecrated persons, as well as for all those individuals who, in their inmost hearts, dedicate themselves to God by a special consecration.
October 1st, 2010 - Theresa-123031 said:
I understand that most singles are singles not out of choice but because they don't find suitable partners in life. In this sense, it is not a calling or vocation, as such, let alone a vacation! But there are a myriad of advantages being single and one should take advantage of that to serve the Lord. In whatever circumstance, in fact, whether married or single, we should as Christians see it as opportune to make Christ known and to serve Him. God bless, Theresa
September 29th, 2010 - Jacqueline-198 said:
It is a Vocation which we need to take advantage of while we can, Lord knows what His plans are for us, I know of several persons who were single and that was their vocation and they were happy with it, and bammo, the Lord had different plans and all are now happily married, at ages where most thought..'you are too old' so...Trust in the Lord..ALWAYS!
September 29th, 2010 - Kenneth-524863 said:
All states in life are Vocations. Some are celebrated, some may only be a transition, some are short and some last a lifetime. Regardless of the state in life you find yourself it is a Vocation and we are all called to bring Christ and the Church to the world in what ever we do, however we do it. Living life in the light of Christ to do God's will is always a Vocation.