February 5th, 2012 - Carmel-605444 said:
If i thought so i wouldnt be here so I hope not. Life is all about ur family not your brothers or sisters family. But its really hard to find people to actually meet up with....i cant understand the reticence of men to meet....anyone any ideas on this??
December 28th, 2011 - Eugene-772245 said:
Definately. For others its a lifelong commitment a close relative to celibacy, but for others its transitional. Just like other vocations, we need divine providence to sail through.We struggle with challenges associated with it and are called to make the best of this situation.
January 18th, 2011 - Joseph-675792 said:
Anything including the "single life" can be a vocation. Putting all your effort and skills into being the best single person you know how to be is a vocation on it's own. Doing so and being the best believer of Christ takes much more dedication than many career choices out there because it is a 24 hour calling to do right by God and yourself.
January 8th, 2011 - Christine-304525 said:
for mesingle life is not a choice, just the way my life has played out. I pray daily for me to accept my current situation and I try to find the good in it. I struggle with loneliness and often wonder if I missed or continue to miss what God is trying to tell me.
I have a strong faith but lately loneliness is my best friend and I hate it.I try to offer it up, but some days are so hard.
December 5th, 2010 - Michael-211764 said:
In our fallen world, it's entirely possible that God calls an individual person for various circumstances (taking care of sick relatives, inability to find a mate, etc.) to remain single. But in the general sense of Vocation or states of life, the unconsecrated single life is not considered by the Church to be the fulfillment of a person's life, because God's calling for all of us involves a permanent commitment to love forever which takes the form of a vow: marriage or some form of consecration. This does not have to mean the traditional priesthood or religious life, but could mean taking private vows before one's bishop with the intention of living in the world, or perhaps joining a "secular institute." At any rate, at some point in your life, you're going to have to say "forever," and an unconsecrated single life does not fit that criteria.
November 23rd, 2010 - Mark-322722 said:
honestly single life is rather boreing, and a bit lonely, one must learn to be happy with the person they are before they can truely be happy in a couple. a partner should not be seen as someone to complete you, rather they should be seen as someone to share the great joy of the life God has bestowed upon you with.
November 20th, 2010 - AnneMarie-138069 said:
I think it's only a vocation if one chooses it as a permanent state. If you're waiting and hoping to be married, then you haven't chosen the single life. That would be like someone becoming a priest while he waits to make it into big-league baseball or something.....baseball would be his chosen vocation, not the priesthood. I look at marriage as my chosen vocation, even though I haven't achieved that state of life yet :)
November 15th, 2010 - Thomas-626921 said:
Getting that question now puts alot into perspective. I have been single for 3 years, since the divorce. Since than I have been scammed twice by 'girls' claiming love, but wanting only money. I have come to grips that God has a plan for me. I intend to do my best at whatever I do to help spred the Kingdom of God with what God has put before me. If I have company, or only the clothes on my back, I am ready to follow God's path, were ever it takes me.
November 10th, 2010 - Adam-645316 said:
As Catholics and as Christians we are called to open our hearts to whatever God has in store for us. If that means we are called to be single in a Vocation then so be it. If we are called to be married then so be it. If we are called to live a single life as a good Catholic then so be it. It would only be a sin if we were purposely going against Gods calling for us.
November 10th, 2010 - ErlindaRefe-634408 said:
i say "yes" because vocation is a personal choice/decision with the grace of god. the vocation of priesthood, becoming a religious nun, getting married and remaining single (for the lay person) entails one to practice & live the state of life thant god demands us to. all these leads to our sanctification (and the sanctification of others as well) if we live according to our chosen vocation. should there come to point in time, where one decided to change prior decision, we have appropriate legal & cannonical remedies to put our status not to be legal, not to be immoral. it is a vocation because no vocation ever chosen will bring us away from god nor reach our eternal life if we remain docile and faithful to the teachings of the catholic church and to continue the struggle it entails to remain pure & clean. it is also a status in life but the question refers not its status but as a vocation - an elevated level to our divinity thru our humanity, as it is a call from our creator himself. vocation is a divine calling via human means for us to reach heaven, which is our final destination
November 8th, 2010 - John-615832 said:
Ok, I said what was on my mind regarding this question on 2 Nov 2010. But now I'm reading these new comments, and old comments as well. My question now is if those of you who say a single life IS a vocation..How come you are on this site?,,My vocation is the Dominican Laity, not to live a single life, my marraige is annulled and I'm quite content with my life. The only thing missing is that 1 lady for me!
November 7th, 2010 - Jeannie-174677 said:
I have heard it described as a vocation. And I believe that some people may choose it as a vocation. But I believe that for me and many other people like me, it is more of a state in life. At some point in our future, we may be called to a vocation of how we are going to live out our life (Religious, Married, or Single). And some may have already been in a vocation and felt called to make a change. The scenario of making a change doesn't do much for the definition of a vocation. However, this is the circumstances of our humanity. But, I have not yet made that choice, even though I was engaged once.
November 7th, 2010 - Donna-124681 said:
It is NOT a vocation!!! It is a state of life. A vocation is something we CHOOSE. God calls us to marriage or the Priesthood/Religious life and so we discern and then choose one. The fact that there are so many older single men and women has nothing to do with God and everything to do with the sinfulness of the world and loose morals surrounding our sexual conduct and/or pursuit of material goods rather than marriage and a family. With every sin there are always innocent victims. It seems older people, who have been living with debilitating anxiety, happily accept singleness as a vocation and that it is what God has planned for them. It gives them comfort. Young people who are still finding their way in life, also, view it as a (temporary) vocation. I was one of them. But as the years went by, my eyes opened, and I see it differently. We really need to drop this romantic notion of God and that He is grooming the perfect spouse for us!!!!! Wake up from the dream. There is no such thing as a perfect mate.
Figure out what key characteristics you need in a spouse and then do what you can to find that person. If you find that person, you will have to set your mind to overlooking their other flaws. If you can't do this, accept the fact that you will be single the rest of your life - NOT because God has a "plan" for you but because you are unrealistic and selfishly expect perfection!!!
November 3rd, 2010 - Claudia-635473 said:
for me?, No. because in the bible God said every man should have Ur own wife and a wife must there own husband.. But to those who are widow and Single i prepared for U to stay single but if U re married for those widow and to married for single you did not commit a sin. So i do believed that single life is a vocation. For me it's a choice..
November 2nd, 2010 - John-615832 said:
A vocation?, NO. if it where a vocation than catholicmatch.com, or the other "dating" sites out there wouldn't exist....or am I wrong?..my vocation is the Dominican Laity, finding the 1 lady God put on this earth for me will, eventually happen. I was married before and I'll marry again-its a matter of faith and persistant prayer, knowing that your prayers may not be answered as you asked but persistance in praise, thanksgiving, petition is the key, following Gods will and not your own helps as well!
November 2nd, 2010 - John-362098 said:
Cristina is exactly right. Priests and nuns and ordained religious have decided to be married to the church. Most single lay people haven't chosen to be single as a way to serve God, though they may serve God in a variety of volunteer or every day ways while single. Most single people don't want to be single, they want to find their best friend in the world, the person they can talk to about anything and both receive and give unconditional love. Unfortunately in today's me first world, where culture teaches that family and children are a burden, when compared to career and money and travel, it is hard to find those people who are still interested in the Catholic faith and able to trust, to open up and provide and receive unconditional love. Most people on Catholic match are scared to get into relationhips because they were shyer, quieter and more protected people growing up, and are just too plain afraid of failure in relationships, and getting hurt,instead of their ability to find a way to work things out with another person. That isn't a vocation, that is a condition in life. It is also an unfortunate condition that could be helped, but single priests and nuns are not the ones to lead a group or teach some social skills, it requires dedicated married volunteer lay people organizing groups in the parish to discuss ways to deal with OPEN communication with dates on your beliefs and your desires and goals in life and learning how to understand others when they inevitably let us down-it isn't always a crisis of trust, it may just be ongoing human frailty and making mistakes that each person has, and will continue to have, even after being married.
October 30th, 2010 - Cristina-510210 said:
Priests and Sisters choose to be single because they are married to the church; however, I don't think a person who is single has chosen to be single by vocation. I'm still single because I'm searching for the right man to fall in love with and hopefully marry and live the rest of my life with. Therefore, I don't think that being single is a vocation.
October 28th, 2010 - Joshua-635279 said:
At all times and stages in our lives we are called to love Christ and our brothers and sisters. I strongly believe making being single a vocation will discourage healthy relationships and social contacts that would lead one to being married or joining a religious group.
October 21st, 2010 - Sylvia-610177 said:
The single life is a choice. My opinion is that people who want to remain single and are happy being single, more power to them. For myself, I do not want to grow old alone and sad. I have no children from my previous marriage. At my age-50 plus-I want a man to share what life God has left for me to live. God has been good to me and my family. I have faith that He knows what is best for me and I will accept whatever His plan is for me.
October 19th, 2010 - Danielle-429469 said:
How can you say it is NOT a vocation? It is a calling. Right now in life, I am single, so I am to live out my life as a person who is single until I find that God's will calls me live another way. Being single is a vocation to live out your baptismal vows. Whether it is just a temporary state in life or a lifestyle for your whole life, there are times in EVERY person's life where they live as a single person. In that time period, you are to devote all your time, energy, etc. into God's work in a way married or religious cannot. Single life is a special gift, a vocation that can prepare you for the rest of your life-- you learn talents, skills, etc. that you will use in the future.
October 18th, 2010 - Steve-514454 said:
It all depends on the person... If they live a celebrant life while doing works of charity throughout their lives while devoting themselves to God, then I would say yes with a capital V, but on the other hand if they continually date with the purpose of finding a partner, then I would say its just a state in life. Just because your not a priest, brother, sister of a particular order, doesnt mean you cant have a vocation. Even marriage can be a vocation, so if God brings you a partner, then your vocation can change from your works as being single to works where you are involved with your partner. As long as you allow God to do his work through you, I feel that is what a vocation is all about rather you are married to a person, a church, or just being single working with all those around you
October 12th, 2010 - Bradley-266389 said:
I've been single. I'm in grad school for theoretical physics, and will prolly be a professor someday. Since getting tenure is such a demanding time-intensive process, I'm wondering if I'll ever have time for a wife and family. But I'm worried that I perhaps should take that as a sign from God that I should be a priest instead. But I'm kind of scared of committing to never ever having children, period. Does that mean I'm afraid of commitment? :-P
October 10th, 2010 - Patrick-624504 said:
Mariana I think you need to look up the meaning of vocation. Even Christ called being married or single a calling to a vocation (to paraphrase) To say only religious life is the only vocation denegrates the 90% of the world who are not called to a religious life. That sounds amazingly close to Mormon and Seventh Day Adventist beliefs where only a small number of humanity is chosen.
I would argue that all life is a vocation, as I said before, but some are still searching to reach our chosen vocation, after all as Mike said thats why we are here
October 9th, 2010 - Patrick-624504 said:
Its not a curse but an opportunity.
Buts what with the lowercase/ uppercase class discrimination???!! Christ was a carpenter, Peter was a fisherman, Paul a tentmaker, and Ignatious Layola was a womanising letcherous soldier! So lets not judge lest webmasters be judged!!!
Single life is a vocation if done by choice but a state to bear for the Holy Souls and the Glory and Praise of God if you seek mariage and family.
Personally while I bear my single aloneness for Christ I hope He soon gets around to lifting my single cross ofmy shoulder and helps me find my better half. But In'shah Ahalla as our Moslem brothers would say.
October 4th, 2010 - De-315276 said:
Yes, the Single life can be a vocation. Please see below the following excerpt, taken from Pope John Paul II's encyclical on the Consecrated Life.
We are all aware of the treasure which the gift of the consecrated life in the variety of its charisms and institutions represents for the ecclesial community. Together let us thank God for the Religious Orders and Institutes devoted to contemplation or the works of the apostolate, for Societies of Apostolic Life, for Secular Institutes and for other groups of consecrated persons, as well as for all those individuals who, in their inmost hearts, dedicate themselves to God by a special consecration.
October 1st, 2010 - Theresa-123031 said:
I understand that most singles are singles not out of choice but because they don't find suitable partners in life. In this sense, it is not a calling or vocation, as such, let alone a vacation! But there are a myriad of advantages being single and one should take advantage of that to serve the Lord. In whatever circumstance, in fact, whether married or single, we should as Christians see it as opportune to make Christ known and to serve Him. God bless, Theresa
September 30th, 2010 - Mark-615635 said:
I have come to realize that the single life is a Vocation. A Vocation in which one can do the Lords work, where as someone who is married, their Vocation can be of God's service in a different way. Each Vocation calls use to do God's work, and in the Vocation we come to learn the specific of what God wants us to do.
September 29th, 2010 - Jacqueline-198 said:
It is a Vocation which we need to take advantage of while we can, Lord knows what His plans are for us, I know of several persons who were single and that was their vocation and they were happy with it, and bammo, the Lord had different plans and all are now happily married, at ages where most thought..'you are too old' so...Trust in the Lord..ALWAYS!
September 29th, 2010 - Kenneth-524863 said:
All states in life are Vocations. Some are celebrated, some may only be a transition, some are short and some last a lifetime. Regardless of the state in life you find yourself it is a Vocation and we are all called to bring Christ and the Church to the world in what ever we do, however we do it. Living life in the light of Christ to do God's will is always a Vocation.