May 4th, 2013 - James-958540 said:
They, to be honest, do a pretty lousy job. I even wrote the Pastor at the church I go to, and mailed it twice, via the U.S. Mail. Neither time did he respond. At the old church I attended, they tried ONE time to form a singles group. Does the saying "went over like a lead baloon" ring a bell. Maybe it is selfish of me, but now I go to church on Sat morning. It is held in the old church, it is a shorter mass, and they do not take $$ collection.
April 25th, 2012 - Linda-374121 said:
I notice in our bulletin that there are some activities for singles but nothing directed at the over 50 crowd. Besides, in those rare occasions that there is something mentioned for the younger ones --- I have never seen anything that was happening in my area --- it's normally across town somewhere.
March 26th, 2012 - Bob-793475 said:
Seriously, all Parishes around the globe should be involved in a service like this. Here is the explanation: This website is for profit. However it would be in the best interest of the Catholic church to subsidize this site in order to make it free to users. This seems outrageous at first thought, but think again.. a little bit harder. People will shy away from a website like this because cost, fear others aren't fully subscribed, and other complications which are associated with online dating. So it its natural that people who are considering this site will avoid it and end up dating/marrying someone who does not share the same faith/interest/commitment to the faith. This results in loss of future revenue to the church for generations to come. Think of it as a business closing down and the church is the government who loses all future tax revenue. In today's society it is becoming more difficult for young Catholics to live according to their faith and has become too easy for us to take concessions in our faith when trying to compromise in relationships.
As young Catholics, we need to be brought together to support each other, especially when it comes to dating. The church needs to fight to make sure young Catholics are marrying other young Catholics.This will ensure future revenue for the church and happiness to catholic marriages. It is definitely in the Church's best interest to use this website as a tool to continue to unite and grow the faith... Otherwise our faith will continue to deteriorate as it has with the past generation.Society has pulled people away from the church...but has also given the church an unlikely tool to continue to grow: the internet. I plea for someone with power to act in the church to do something, on behalf of all young Catholics, please.
March 23rd, 2012 - Cathy-816258 said:
I just moved to Philly last August and have been looking for a Catholic church with a young adult group or something. So far, I've only found one church that even had any people my age (<30 excluding kids). I feel like my generation is expected to only use online sources for dating, no one seems to think we want to actually meet real people face to face anymore.
December 27th, 2011 - Sandra-413601 said:
My parish does not like to talk about dating or single Catholics. My parish is, I believe, an ethnic ghetto. Everyone is either Irish or German. My family is neither-we were never really welcome and although I have belonged there since I was born-they don't even know who I am. m I recall when shaking the priests hand which I do every time I attend-he asked me if I were new to this church or visiting to which I responded that I was not and have shook his hand and thanked him for the nice sermon almost every Sunday for years. I have been looking for a more welcome church, especially since I have volunteered for stuff for years as well. There are no opportunities for single Catholics.
July 25th, 2011 - Rob-362135 said:
My diocese has a group for young Catholics (18-35), which is for both married and single. Though I was 40+ when I relocated here, I thought how that would have been a great way to meet single Catholic women. On a side note, my parish has a group for 50 and over too, but if you're 36-49 NADA.
July 21st, 2011 - Joe-167248 said:
I highly recommend that singles who are truly Catholic Christians (and thus, hungry for MORE of the Lord), attend weekend retrats, a one time night program, Bible study, or the many spiritual growth events listed in the calendar of the diocese newletters. MOST, if not, many who attend are single, and I cannot think of any such meeting I attended that hasn't been a blessing...see you there!
July 4th, 2011 - Hilda-184281 said:
He doesn't address it, PERIOD There is no ministry for singles in my parish. There is a diocesan youth group - with an elastic upper age bound - and that's the closest thing. So, if you are a single and older than 40 or worst yet, older than 50 then you are out of luck.
June 28th, 2011 - Ben-634876 said:
There is nothing, I recently converted and there has been nothing at all, was very very surprised at this as I assumed the Catholic Church would be all up for Catholics meeting other Catholics, instead I tend to date non catholics because there is no way for me to meet other single ones
June 16th, 2011 - Richard-143340 said:
June 16th, 2011 Richard-143340 said:Many years ago our former bishop disbanded our divorce recovery singles club. He opined that the club glorified the divorced lifestyle. Unfortunately this sweeping move also netted the annuled and widowed parishoners. We said "too bad, padre" and carried on with our affiliation, away from church property. In subsequent years our group reached out to two non-catholic denominations, and exists to this day. Our thoughts on the bishop's action. "be careful of what you wish, for you just might get it".
June 4th, 2011 - Estelle-702826 said:
I already voted on this issue. The most neglected age group of singles is the group of singles from 45 to 60. What the church has still not realized is that many of us are on our own again after raising our family and being married for half of our life. Some of us are single because our spouse has died. Some of us are single because our spouse has literally just walked out on us. Afterall, in today's secular society, if one person wants to walk out their spouse is helpless to stop them. Unfortunately us Catholics sometimes get married to people who talk a good talk about never leaving. Now what do we do? I don't want to sit in a bar to meet people my age. I surely would not do what the other woman in my husband's life did. I would not go after my friends husband. Sometimes I feel alienated. Not invited to gatherings, because I would be the only single woman there. Not good. Why can't we have social functions at our church that are meant for Catholic Singles over 45.
June 3rd, 2011 - Brenda-527164 said:
I've been divorced for about 6 years and have felt the same way. LIKE AN OUTSIDER. WHY? And to find a single honest man is so very difficult that share the same Catholic faith. The sad part is that I came on this site to find a Catholic man and have not found anyone interested and so I gave up on this site. Until today I decided to try it again. I honestly do want to meet a a nice Catholic man that would love to attend church with me and share the trust in the Lord. I am tired a feel like an outsider in church.
June 1st, 2011 - Theresa-113844 said:
I've been divorced for over 20 years and in most of the parishes I've attended, I've felt like an outsider. Only one parish I attended in Oklahoma had a good singles program. Still, it was geared more toward younger singles in their 20's and 30's.......I was 42 but enjoyed the group anyway. There was actually a priest of the parish who was assigned to lead the group which made us feel like we were an acceptable part of the congregation. They also had a board that met once a month to plan activities, speakers, service projects, etc. Every other church I've been in, there was nothing or, if there was a singles group, we were on our own to manage it. They do a great job with families and ministering to the youth but I agree with Mary.....for the most part, singles are invisible.
May 12th, 2011 - Zhi-16063 said:
I enjoyed spending one week last May in this session in Greece:
Having, a whole week, twice a day, during a one hour a really deep exchange face to face with a person of the other sex is a tremendous experience (Father SONET says its successful when after one hour you have not finished and want to go on. Its most of the time successful). Its difficult to part after such a stay and people like to meet again.
There will be another week coming summer so more singles will beneficiate from it
May 12th, 2011 - Zhi-16063 said:
I appreciate Father SONET teaching singles being themselves, to love themselves first, to communicate and to do practical exercises of communication (He is around 85 years old and a practice of more than 40 years counselling married couples.). Its not talking about communication (The mistake most people do) but really communicating about oneself (He says the most intimate inside of us is the most widespread thing we share, and if we share it we become lovable) i.e. not saying one or they . but saying I and expressing what is deep inside of us).
Sessions last in general 3 or 4 days and the restriction is to have the same number of men and women (Difficult for women who are often at least 4 times more numerous in demand at the beginning) because for physical exercise, with the sound of music who get ride of inhibitions, (A dance teacher help Father SONET for musical, dance and physical exercises) and communication people are coupled, one man and one woman (different couple each exercise). to ensure being at ease with physical and communication intimacy A real lesson when some divorced people say they had as much communication in a 3 days week end with total strangers than in years of marriage with their spouse..
May 12th, 2011 - Zhi-16063 said:
I just read the forum who quote this poll
Even if I am geographically very far, and in a different country France, from most of you I agree that here the feeling was too that singles were not the priority of the Church to say the least. Except as say Linda singles having time to do things that need to be done
May 12th, 2011 - Tom-352850 said:
Part of the problem is the age gap. In my parish, there is a youth group (up to 18). That's fine for teenagers. We have a college nearby...that may help some. The nearest 20 to 40 group is 25 miles away. There are other singles groups around, but they are 50 to 75 miles away for the most part.
April 27th, 2011 - Bill-436176 said:
Unfortunately with the scarcity of priests the few priests we have are doing double and in some cases triple duty and they really don't have the time and in some cases the energy to do anything but the basics of catholicism for the dwindling number of church goers. Bill