November 28th, 2011 - Alan-388552 said:
I find the ladies are not responding, not willing to write back! One in twenty or more can get discouraging! Other men have reported similar results on the forums. The next roadblock for me is distance. I'm looking for a potential spouse, not a penpal on the other side of the globe. I live in Suffolk County of Long Island with over 2.7 million people, but few CM members. Yes it is a bit frustrating but I have faith my soulmate is out there!
July 10th, 2011 - Christine-740923 said:
Not enough local members. Possibly some advertisement in local Catholic Churches Sunday Bulletins would assist with this. Plus I would like to limit the people that search me ie: I do not want a 60 yr man looking at my profile when I am only 39yr old. Plus I do not want people out of my are looking at me either as I am not willing to travel and do not want a long distance relationship. So basiacally when I enter my search criteria, I do not want someone that does not meet that criteria to be able to search me.
July 5th, 2011 - Suzanne-741267 said:
I don't think my temperament is very accurate. It calls me pessimistic and I am anything but...and as Peter as said, a common obstacle seems to be open to communicate. I'm finding that difficult. I'm afraid to ask someone to message me. I feel really awkward. Maybe because I haven't dated for over thirty years. There don't seem to be too many local members. What I get are very distant profiles.
July 4th, 2011 - Peter-588094 said:
I think the most common obstacle for people to share and get to know one-another is to be open to communicate. I have found that people are more willing in long distance stuff - perhaps it's less threatening. CM offers the opportunity to review and make some basic choices in romantic interests. However, I have found in the real world - interest and romance takes on a whole other level. Living in a rather small community my social circle is likewise limited.
June 30th, 2011 - Diahann-472491 said:
Expensive to pay month to month and their 6 months require us to pay a lump sum as well. There are also a lot of inactive members am sure. There should be a feature which would allow us to know that this person has not renewed membership. Few local people who are faithful to the teachings of the church.
June 29th, 2011 - Shina-736179 said:
Well you sign, update your profile and get in then when you are about to chat - subscription fees comes in. So that result to complete profile but not active. So no one can really start to communicate. Maybe alot does not subscribe so left with few local members. The rest just profiles.
June 29th, 2011 - Irene-477602 said:
i agree with annie..require everyone to have one photo posted. define some terms...slender, athletic, average...(american average is not what it used to be)..also set up some sort of "health" section related to "activity" level. I am a very young & active XXy/o & love to hike--not just walk from the car to a view spot....etc. I met someone f2f who mentioned they are active...they have breathing problems, foot problems, & can't hardly hike at all. Price is ok here but not enough local members...i think your advertising is good in the church bulletins..
June 28th, 2011 - Virma-723934 said:
I completely agree with John-146319: "Brian, I think we can all appreciate rising costs over the past 11 years. But so has the volume of members who have joined CM. To date, CM has recorded over 725,000 members and I would imagine that 25% of those are active. And the real revenue as with most social websites lies in on-site advertising, which CM seems to being much more of in recent years. While I understand that CM is still primarily a business and not a non-profit entity, I think CM would realize more paid memberships if the 1 and 3 month membership fees were to drop to an average of at $12-$15 per month. CM does it for the 6 month subscription (specials lower the rate to $10 per month) why not offer specials of $15 for one month and $35 for three?"
June 28th, 2011 - Virma-723934 said:
It seems to be the order of any online dating website I have been. I will pay subscription, but there is not enough men that have done the same so communication always is a challenge because not many are willing to pay even for a month. Advertising it in churches as Ben said, should work.
June 26th, 2011 - Hanh-618245 said:
I find there is not enough local members. I'm from Sydney. And if there are some local members, then they may have different views with me on pre-marriage sex, or going to mass once a month or ...... . However, reading the forum, I learnt that many members have been with CM for quite a long long time and still searching for their life partners. In addition to Frank's comment, I wish I would be able to have an autoresponse to say sth like that person is currently not an active member. Ultimately, I guess I just continue to trust in God's will. God bless
June 25th, 2011 - Frank-736329 said:
What Justin said:" Maybe it's because people don't have paid subscriptions, and that's understandable, but there should at least be a way of showing that when you view a profile so that you know that the person can't respond." Someone may think you are ignoring them but it's that you are not a paid member and I'm not paying $35 to read or return one message.
June 24th, 2011 - Ellen-600029 said:
I agree with Tina. I have found more responses to my posting on this match site then others. But finding a person in my area is what keeps me from finding someone to share my life with. I have receive numerous responses from men all around the country but I am not looking for long distance relationship and maybe God is trying to broaden my horizons but I need to be open and willing. The few I have found in my area are definitely open to pre-martial sex which is against the Catholic teaching and amazes me. May everyone find what they are looking for Peace Be With You.
June 24th, 2011 - Angel-348616 said:
i think the biggest issue keeping me from finding a potential spouse is that my paid suscription expired. I also feel that there aren't enough local people from my are (I live in semi-rural IL, an hours drive west of Chicago). A lot of the people I've felt would be good matches are from Chicago, other states, or even other countries! Forgive me Lord for venting. I have made a few new friendships from this great site, and I believe that aside from the two issues I mentioned this is an awesome Catholic Christian website. I love the "Faith Quiz", I think that's what it's called. I guess I'm a Catholic geek, lol, but I love learning about my faith and taking the quizzes and competing against other CM' ers :-) God bless everyone and always put Christ first! It's hard many times, but God left us His Son Jesus, His Church, the Sacraments, His Word, and each other to love and support each other!
June 24th, 2011 - Dacia-470964 said:
I have never posted a comment on here, but Trace's ignorance on divorce is outrageous. Maybe some of us didn't choose divorce, maybe some of us did everything possible to make our marriage work. I did not take my marriage lightly. I even converted to Catholicism to marry my husband. Then the "good" catholic that he was became an alcoholic, cheated repeatedly and left with all of our savings. I have been raising our daughter alone and providing. Maybe before you crucify all us who are divorced you should walk a mile in our shoes. I believe the bible says in Romans 14:12-13, " Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumbling block or an occasion to fall in his brother's way." I am so excited for you Trace that you live a perfect life with absolutely no mistakes ever. For all of us who are less than perfect maybe you could lighten up. It must be a beautiful view from your glass house.
June 24th, 2011 - Paul-668055 said:
how do you vote on this poll ? for me not enough local members , very few responses . and i pay ! Trace nailed it. i am divorced, ( not proud of it ) working on annulment , I'm not perfect ,' I'm not Ken, I do pray for forgiveness, and for a fresh new start. with a nice Catholic Girl , with at least the basics of the faith. Thank you , God Bless .
June 24th, 2011 - Justin-562610 said:
It wouldn't let me vote in this poll either, but I think the biggest hurdle is lack of response, granted I'm not as active as I could be on here, but in over a year I've gotten 0 responses to anything I've sent and the only things I've really received are from people far away from my location. Maybe it's because people don't have paid subscriptions, and that's understandable, but there should at least be a way of showing that when you view a profile so that you know that the person can't respond.
June 23rd, 2011 - Trace-446731 said:
Ditto...what's up with all the DIVORCED people on here? God bless them, but should they even be considered for this site? As Rose stated, isn't this a site for Catholics? I don't expect perfect Catholics but divorced...pro-abortion? This site is too secular. I would love a site that requires all "7" questions be answered in the positive to continue with the profile and all to be free to marry in the Church. How wonderful it would be to come on this site knowing that all believe in at least the basics of the very faith this site propagates. Isn't that the goal of this site???
June 23rd, 2011 - Rose-732524 said:
What really suprises me is the answers of some of the guys, such as they don't have a problem with pre marital sex or they are not pro life. Isn't that a pretty standard Catholic belief? Some never attend Mass, whas up with that? I joined to find a good Catholic guy only to find out some are just out for sex. The ones that respond to me are too old or not quite attractive in my eyes, no offense but I have to have Chemistry. The reason I don't post my picture is because I send one when I'm really interested in a guy. I was hoping my $25 would at least go to a good cause if I don't meet anyone. There aren't many locals on here.
June 20th, 2011 - Ramona-652361 said:
The Hidden List, when you're looking at matches (sarcastic snicker) and you know there's no way no how & click on the "x" right corner the site is suppose to remove the profile from you matches & place them on a hidden list to make room for more matches, and you're not suppose to see them again. If you have too many matches (I have no idea what the count is) you can't have new matches added to the list (or there's a limited number). So, you need to remove people you're not interested in contacting but then there was my complaint if your hidden list is full how do you make room for new matches.
June 20th, 2011 - JoBeth-598183 said:
Not enough members in my area or close to 50 miles away. Many do not respond to your mail and the ones that do are arrogant and/or ego crazy. There is not enough information in most profiles nor pictures.search or matching does not work well enough. I also have seen from the comments that there is a hidden list that becomes full. where is this list and how does one get to it? It would be nice if we had more men on the site that is above the 60 YO range.
June 20th, 2011 - Timothy-686008 said:
@Ramona: Hi. I agree with you. The Temperament test should be mandatory. That way I think only the serious people would join. I am from Australia 36yo and if I do a search just for Aus for girls between 28 - 38. I only get 250 profiles. Put in active in the last 14 days and it goes down to 60. So in saying that I am searching world wide but it is hard to find someone willing to put the time in for someone so far away.
June 19th, 2011 - Ramona-652361 said:
oh yeah! another thing about the site. I've got so many people on my hidden list & was told no more could be added. Why are they still there anyway? I contacted support & they said that I couldn't get any more matches unless I moved the ones that were sitting there. Well where was I suppose to put them if the hidden list was full. I was told add the matches to my favorites so I can make room to get newer matches. I moved 15 to favorites and got 3 more matches. geeze people upgrade the software please
June 19th, 2011 - Ramona-652361 said:
For the site I think the temperament test should be mandatory. The other part would be the men in general. I find that they're just curious not serious. And I'm so disappointed with the number of men looking for a sleazy hookup. I was hoping on a religious site the numbers would be less. Then again we all have free will. It's not the site it's the people and the age in which we live.
June 7th, 2011 - Jessica-688682 said:
I agree with James that said "members without photos are really crippling their chances". As a female, I think it is nice to be able to see the person that I'm interacting with. Looks are not everything but there also needs to be some physical chemistry between both parties. Having said that, I don't understand why guys post a pic that doesn't show them in their best light. You only have one chance for a first impression. Posting a pic is also a small confirmation that the person is being true to their profile... if they say that they are very active and exercise often but their pic shows otherwise, that is very telling. I don't mean to sound conceided but I've talked to other females that feel the same.
June 5th, 2011 - Anthony-705133 said:
I don't fault the site. I think the reality is that I am an average man. There is nothing about my looks, my job, my personality, etc. that jumps off the e pages. I do not expect better results in cyberspace than I do when I meet someone face to face. I am focusing more on enjoying my own experiences-trying new things. If half the profiles are genuine, most of the people are far more active than I am. Yet I still see myself as someone deserving of someone as special and right for me. Due to this, I know I am not going to match with most people. I do not think I am unusual; maybe many people do not realize how choosy or selective they really are. I am more selective than the match component of this site can compute. I do believe I am missing out on an opportunity to meet a good woman. To sum, I think like any tool, this site to match Catholic men with Catholic women is only as good as the users. Start with a person's honest reflection on what traits are important to them-really. If a Catholic woman is important to you but you just want to date, why does she need to be Catholic? Besides these comments, I agree there are few members in the area. And I don't like that sites automatically re-enlist you. If I want to subscribe again, I will. That disturbs me more than the price.
June 3rd, 2011 - Brian-278516 said:
@John you are guessing at the numbers and the math. If it was really that simple I would have been able to take an early retirement. :) It is not an easy business very competitive and the cost to acquire new customers has risen enormously over the last 2-3 years. Finding single Catholics is not as simple as it sounds there is just not many good mediums for it Thus we have to pay for a lot of waste. It is just a reality of dealing in the Catholic market. In terms of 1 or 3 month memberships. Our data suggests people do not join more for short term and they tend to be more active and more satisfied when they join for 6 months.
May 30th, 2011 - John-146319 said:
Brian, I think we can all appreciate rising costs over the past 11 years. But so has the volume of members who have joined CM. To date, CM has recorded over 725,000 members and I would imagine that 25% of those are active. And the real revenue as with most social websites lies in on-site advertising, which CM seems to being much more of in recent years. While I understand that CM is still primarily a business and not a non-profit entity, I think CM would realize more paid memberships if the 1 and 3 month membership fees were to drop to an average of at $12-$15 per month. CM does it for the 6 month subscription (specials lower the rate to $10 per month) why not offer specials of $15 for one month and $35 for three?
May 28th, 2011 - Zhi-16063 said:
James said "members without photos are really crippling their chances, perhaps by 95% or even more".
I totally agree concerning quantity of contacts.
As I am looking for quality this is the reason why I won't add my photograph and won't ask for.
My exchanges online were great
May 22nd, 2011 - Collette-708096 said:
The problem I have always had on dating sites is members contacting me from across the nation. Who wants to do long distance relationships?? Not very many people. I'd like to be able to see a format where it shows your distance you are willing to have a relationship. I don't like to be rude and not answer someone but when they live 1000 miles away I am wondering why they bother, when they only send you a smile.
May 14th, 2011 - Jacqueline-102692 said:
There are not enough members who are local. It is also a problem that people don't post pictures or recent pictures. It is dishonest to post your main picture that is from 10 years ago too. Or even 5 years ago. I agree with the comment about matching someone who is conservative to someone who is liberal. I have also met people who have lied about their age in their profile. I also agree with the comment about people not completely filling out their information. It is hard to get an idea if you might be a "match" with someone if they don't take the time to give you a good idea of who they are and what they are looking for.
May 3rd, 2011 - Julie-17317 said:
what about lowering membership costs to encourage more users to join especially in areas where this is a lower cost of living and thus a lower overall income. We don't all live in Chicago or some other big city. The cost has double since i first joined... the first couple years my yearly membership was the same thing as a current 3-6 month membership!
April 30th, 2011 - James-239305 said:
(1) I think it would be helpful for CM to give more advice to members on information and ideas they ought to include in their profiles. For example, members without photos are really crippling their chances, perhaps by 95% or even more. There's a digital camera in almost every household; if the member does not have one, surely a friend does. Like it or not, we are presenting ourselves and if a person is too embarrassed or shy or otherwise incapable of presenting him/herself, what is he/she accomplishing? And I've seen several profiles with no information in the "Seeking" section. If a woman does not know what she's looking for -- well, we all have to do enough guessing even WITH info for each other about whom we're seeking. (2) I have no idea why CM's search considers women who identify themselves as "Liberal" politically as any kind of "100 Match" for me, who is "Conservative" politically -- and I marked this trait as most important. (3) It would be nice to have guidance on various ways to handle first "in person" meetings, especially for people who are traveling a great distance to meet. There's tremendous pressure to just relax and be yourself (yeah, it's weird) on top of inordinate expectations of how much will, won't, should or shouldn't be "accomplished" in an initial meeting -- especially as the next meeting cannot be for weeks or months in the future.
April 28th, 2011 - John-403959 said:
The local count for opportunity matches are minimal, biggest problem. I can't imagine what one is thinking, contacting me from across the nation, heck, I won't drive more than 30 minutes locally. If one is not a subscriber, they should be able to alert the inquirier as such and offer more communication other than a "happy face" Inquirer is left cold by non-response and thinks they are snubbed . I pass by on those with no picture, they are either hiding something, or hiding from someone. Pictures need to be current, had some bad experiences. All sites share these same problems.
April 26th, 2011 - Grace-686446 said:
My major problem is lack of local men (Read African men). I have received many responses from men in other continents. However, a long distance relationship has its own unique challenges which require both commitment and finances,(just to mention but a few) for it to suceed. Hence, I am thinking of calling it quits once my subscription is over. All the same, I commend the Catholicmatch site for the good work they are doing for the Church.
April 25th, 2011 - Jerry-691334 said:
i joined this so called catholic match.
back ion 3/8/2011. and so far i can not log in here after you have charged my credit card.
and have left me with nothing but hardship. and no one can seem to find any knowledge
of me on this site. but yet my card was charged. so u go figure.................not happy........... gerald macey.4/25/2011
April 24th, 2011 - Peter-44842 said:
Not enough active local profiles, small turn-over, low response. (Not all of us can dash across continents regularly.) CM hiding all but the outlines of peoples' profile activity takes caveat emptor a degree that seems excessive. Like a prospective buffet menu offering few clues how often or much is ever there. I find brief, infrequent subscriptions accomplish the same as long expensive ones (which isn't much). That said, the variety of features and searches is nice.
April 20th, 2011 - Marc-50187 said:
I think the biggest reason there isn't much success here is that people judge right away by picture or lack of one, and are thinking there's someone better out there. All the while missing out on finding great friends and getting to know some pretty fantastic people.