October 1st, 2011 - Kathy-355103 said:
In most cases---no. It can be very hurtful. Especially if the person is always being asked about this attractive friend. People try to be discreet, but you can usually figure it out when it happens over and over again!! I had an attractive friend in the same Catholic singles groups with me for years--and guys were always asking me about her. Not easy to deal with that, though I tried to act like it didn't bother me! She got married a few years ago though. Actually--my advice would be to not have friends in your pictures on a dating site!! LOL! In some rare cases it might be okay to ask about a friend in someone's pictures---like when one person is already dating someone, or when there is something very obvious that would keep you and the main person in the picture from being a good match anyway (one guy here mentioned the height discrepancy. I am very tall---so wouldn't mind a short guy asking about a short friend of mine.)
August 15th, 2011 - Dominic-86853 said:
I think it's OK. Let's say that they aren't a match, then why not? For example, I'm 5'8" and what if the gal is 5'11"? There's NO way that I'm a match for her and probably she wouldn't make sense for me. I don't see the harm in asking about a friend. After all, The Lord helps those who help themselves. The thought might not occur to someone, so a little nudge shouldn't be offensive...OK, so with that in mind any gals (that's is if you aren't interested... or guys) in this message chain have a girl friend for me? :)
July 4th, 2011 - Hilda-184281 said:
My answer for the this question is MAYBE, but is not one of the options :/ (who crafted this poll?). It all depends on the the context, on the relationship between you and the other (opposite gender) person. If you are just friends and totally honest andt clear about it, then "Sure why not".
June 21st, 2011 - Diane-323361 said:
I would say no. I've had that happen to me, where someone contacted me because I had an attractive friend. It actually made me feel like I was less than my friend. Also he had no idea she was not Catholic and actually engaged, he was basing his interest solely on her looks, nothing into her personality. It was incredibly shallow.
June 11th, 2011 - Mary-25961 said:
I have to agree with Donald - As long as the person you are contacting is not interested in you on a romantic level, why not. One never knows how you can meet someone.. Too many people get caught up in the box and that is why they haven't met someone yet. It is also a given that it is someone that is in your age group. I also am refererring to people who have a basic knowledge of the other through the forums or some contact has been previously made and not out of the blue.
June 7th, 2011 - Art-304336 said:
Some of you are reading into the question and making all kinds of judgements and insinuations. The question was very simple, and it didn't say that that you were actually already in contact with the friend of the romantic interest. If I have a single friend in a picture with me and someone is interested in him/her, it would be a wonderful for me to get them together, and who knows, maybe they will get married and be happy. Unless I'm a jealous, self absorbed person..which I try not to be.
May 27th, 2011 - Jonathan-612626 said:
I would say it's okay only If the person in question is not of the same age as the person's whose picture it is. I mean if you're 20-something and the person whose photo you're looking at is 50-something but the person you're asking about looks much closer to your age then I don't see why not. It might still be considered tacky though however.
May 25th, 2011 - Terri-724688 said:
Assuming that the "friend" in the photo was also someone of the opposite sex, I believe that this would show a lack of good taste. I know I would be offended if I was questioned about someone in one of my pictures. I do not post any pictures of anyone that I have not asked for their permission first. I wouldn't want someone to post a picture of me either without me knowing it either. However, if you're asking because you think that you know the person, that is a completely different situation.
May 24th, 2011 - David-629572 said:
I have never done this and most likely never will, but I see no harm in it. If you are so terribly offended by someone expressing interest in one of your friends, relatives, etc., my advice would be to lighten up and get over yourself. Would you run off and pout if someone at a bar neglected to pay as much attention to you as to your friend? Finding the right match is not easy, as I am sure most of us are aware-- how about showing some selflessness and generosity and helping someone else in their search? Instead of being totally focused in on your own feelings and sensitivities.
May 20th, 2011 - William-505707 said:
I would and I have asked complete strangers about a person in one or more of their photos, and I do so as I am seeking information on my Genealogy, but that is my search, and I agree with Antonio, if all you want is a date, then the request would be wrong.