October 26th, 2013 - Luara-1021251 said:
When both parties discovered lately that they are not compatible in many things because of many reasons, and I believe that some working couples are both busy and they sometimes forget to pray and have time together as couples. Some might forget that there are lots of challenges in marriage and these stages are crucial. The couples should face it toggether in God's grace. The main reason is, it is being legalized.
October 21st, 2013 - Anayo-918761 said:
1) society; western society has the highest rate just cos the society encourages it while in africa it's seen as abormination which makes it very difficult and remains the final way of resolving problems b/w couples.
2) unforgiven spirit.
August 27th, 2013 - Michele-989480 said:
I think if people were following the Word Of God there would not be civil divorce because active believers and followers would work with their spouse and find a way with God's divine assistance to overcome the difficult issues ----- and they would do it in God's own time. Therefore, I think the biggest reason for civil divorce is not living the doctrine of our Catholic faith in our daily lives.
April 16th, 2013 - Jacques-961161 said:
I know infidelity is the main reason, and that infidelity stems from individualism. Some people do not belong in marriage, because they cannot commit. They cannot commit because once that commitment starts being a "burden" to them, then they want out. They are married, yet they are still "looking".
April 6th, 2013 - George-816506 said:
forgiving love that is able to renew bonds made at the altar. we all fall short of perfection, God forgives us thousands of times, but why can't those who have committed to marriage forgive and help the other half grow instead of leave and "move on" the grass is never greener than the grass that stays at home to form a beautiful lawn..even with weeds...they will soon be overgrown with lush lawn if we fertilize with commitment and with loving forgiveness!
February 13th, 2013 - Joan-529855 said:
For those that said, "pornography" (and/or other addictions) you hit the button, however I believe those would fall under lack of committment because if someone is suffering from an addiction their priorities are scewed and they are no longer committment to the marriage. Also, for those that said their spouse told them "they were no longer attracted to them" I can promise you they are looking at pornography and have a distorted image of "true beauty".
February 13th, 2013 - Joan-529855 said:
Lack of committment is clearly "no. 1" when it comes to the biggest reason for divorce. Infidelity is obviously "no.. 2" but lack of committment occurs before infidelity. Without committment, infidelity will eventually occur; some marriages end in divorce because of lack of committment before the infidelity occurs. People today have a greater sense of entitlement and less of a sense of committment than in the past, therefore things like infidelity are a natural result. All I can say is PRAY, PRAY, PRAY for the future because it doesn't look good.
February 1st, 2013 - Myra-928452 said:
Being of the same faith is so very important. When the believes or the same in faith that helps any relationship grow deeper & faster. I can not understand the need for drinking or doing illegal drugs or smoking to wash a way troubles or to help cope w/ problems. I turn to God for my help, & giving him control of my life causes great sense of security for me & relieves so much stress. Dealing w/ a person that was not happy w/ himself & jealous of my abilities & able to be self assured of my self was really a very hard thing for him. He was not as matured as me & he was unfaithful thru the whole 20 yrs of marriage & refused to seek or accept help w/ the marriage. I finally realized that it took 2 to make a marriage & when one partner is not open for outside professional help there is hardly a thing left to do. And he was not Catholic & rarely went to church as a kid. This was another stumbling stone. He wanted to be w/ me while I was in Confession so he could find out what I was having trouble w/ & to see if I was unfaithful like him (I WAS NOT). But since he was 12 older then me I thought I was safe w/ him being srttled. But not true. So maybe older is not always better. Hopefully God will guide me to the right life partner, for He is my true SOUL MATE!!!!
January 31st, 2013 - Donna-891798 said:
Lack of commitment, religion and finances (no particular order) -- my ex pulled away from our marriage 10 years ago -- I finally had the guts to say enough is enough. His biggest issue was that he was no longer attracted to me and I guess (thinking back) I suffered emotional abuse. I was willing to try but he gave up way before I did --- seems strange that he was already going away for the weekend with a "friend" a week after I moved out. So be it ----
November 15th, 2012 - Carolyn-900456 said:
It seems to run in certain families. If at all possible check in the family history for mental problems or abusive problems or alchohol problems or what ever else problems. I like the temperment test given on Catholic Match. Helps to see if we are compatible. Everyone should take the premarrital testing for compatibility. Wait for atleast 1 year before making a permanent commitment to get to know the family you will be marrying into. You don't just marry the person but the family as well.
October 5th, 2012 - Daniel-903533 said:
Sandra: I had a similar problem. I don't think it matters what state you live in, but you need to get some kind of parenting time with your son. I had 2 step-daughters that were snatched away, I had no legal right. Biological children are different, you have the right to see your children! All the cards, emails, and gifts are very important. I would contact a good attorney and get your options. I know they are expensive but I've found that most family attorneys are empathetic to parents not getting time with the children. A lot of times they will help with the $ or point you to organizations that can help. You may be able to get help from a charitable organization or the church. I spent all of my money, savings and borrowed from friends and family just to get regular parenting time. Not boasting here but, I am a great dad and love my 2 biological daughters that I fought for, it was about 6 months. I had to hire an attorney to represent them too. I made it thru and no one can get between my daughters and me anymore. Got to pray too, and trust in God, I promise you, HE'S THERE WITH YOU!
October 5th, 2012 - Daniel-903533 said:
Psychological disorders cause by our "liberated" society. Misguided guilt for what society say is ok. Objective sin has guilt and consequences too. It destroys the mind's ability to reason in a logical way. This destroys families, then society. We all need to examine and inform our consciences more often. The Church has the answers, we just need to except them. (not saying anyone is guilty here, just my general rule)
September 21st, 2012 - Cheryl-900360 said:
To Sandra: My heart goes out to you! I cannot imagine the pain you're going through! Like Terry said: you need to make a really big effort: call, write, email, send cards...just keep trying , one day he will soften up and find his way to you. you cannot give up and not feel sorry for yourself! Please!
August 22nd, 2012 - Terry-889149 said:
I also believe not having God in the relationship is vital. My ex converted from a Lutheran. But as the years went on, she slowly drew me away from the church for "funner" things. Near the end of the marriage, I found my faith again. She found someone 15 years younger than her. The sad thing is, she picked up and left our two children to live with him two states away and only sees them once a month for a couple of hours.
There has to be a grounding point. If your don't have the same beliefs, then you're doomed to fail. Love is a combination of all the feelings you have.
As for you Sandra, the only thing I can say is you must keep an open relationship with your son. Call, write. Do whatever you have to. Most importantly, you have to talk to your ex, yes communicate and let him know that you're not interested in his life (forgive him) and remind him that your son needs you, no matter what the terms are. Always keep an open line of communication.
August 18th, 2012 - Sandra-384576 said:
Communication and Trust are the top key factors. This is based on my parents divorcing after 20 years of marriage!!! Also, I am speaking from experience after 2 failed marriages. Both my ex-husbands were work-a-holics!!! My last one was just plus an alcoholic. I annulled the first marriage due to adultery on his part which he later married her, had 4 children with her and has now divorced her!!!! My second husband was married twice but he treated me like his queen and I loved it!!! We have a son, 14 years old, which whom I raised by myself...we celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary back 8-10-2006 which he bought me a beautiful diamond ring, took me to dinner, and went dancing!!! Here is the real kicker...I was served with divorce papers on that following Monday, I was crushed. He divorced me and re-married his previous wife that cheated on him!!!! He also brain washed my son to go and live with him. I live close by to them and my son won't come over to see me. Any ideas on what to do? I haven't seen my son since June of 2011.
April 1st, 2012 - Daniel-381050 said:
This poll is difficukt to take because infidelity is a symptom of poor inner strength and faith as well as lack of commitment. They are all internal factors working together. Incidentally, the other 3 choices are external factors (finances, politics, and children)