(Quote) Laurie-523231 said:
'Tis the age, Cari. Welcome to the teen years. I have nine kids. I homeschooled the oldest 6...
(Quote) Laurie-523231 said:
'Tis the age, Cari. Welcome to the teen years. I have nine kids. I homeschooled the oldest 6 through high school and I ran into the same issue with the boys that were homeschooled and the teenager still at home who's been in regular school the past 4 years.
This one, I tied his xBox use to his grades. Drop below a B in anything and he loses his xBox until he brings his grades up. I get weekly progress reports which makes things easier. I know some people might think I'm being a little demanding. But, I know there's an A student in there, he just doesn't want to do his homework, he wants to stay up late (even though classes begin at 7:45 a.m.), doesn't bother to write down his assignments, leaves big projects for the last minute (and then of course can't figure out why his grade was less than stellar)...
Then I have an 11 yr old boy and an 8 yr old girl at home. They are incredible perfectionists. My daughter is motivated to get everything right because she wants perfect papers. The 11 yr old doesn't care about the perfect papers, he just can't stand the idea of a bad grade.
With the guys who were homeschooled....it was just tough. At some point, they realize that a lot of their schooling is important and they shape up and get the work done. That happens sometime in high school. My teen in school....he can't understand why I keep fussing at him. Most of his friends are failing multiple classes so what's the big deal about a C or even a D. GOOD GRIEF, CHILD! ARE YOU REALLY MINE? I don't really say that but that's what I'm thinking!
Just keep the dialog going....that grades are going to start mattering soon. College applications, scholarsips.... Start talking to him about what he'd like to do when he's an adult and how education factors in. I had one son...and a daughter, come to think of it...that felt like if they knew the material, that's what was important, they didn't have to prove it to anyone by displaying decent grades. Hard work convincing them that no one is going to take their word for it that they are capable of college level work. They'd have to back up their claim with hard evidence. Geez.
Hang in there, Cari.
"he just doesn't want to do his homework, he wants to stay up late (even though classes begin at 7:45 a.m.), doesn't bother to write down his assignments, leaves big projects for the last minute (and then of course can't figure out why his grade was less than stellar)... "
Laurie- man, this is awesome, i am getting something relevant from everyone!!!
i held off on every gameboy, gamecube, DS, Wii, etc, etc.... he was the last to get one, every time and now he had saved up enough money to buy himself an Xbox and i finally, albeit begrudgingly, gave in, hmmf!!! this is what i think has contributed and because he is so good behaviour-wise, i was letting it slide a bit... not good, but at least i have it as leverage, right?! i took your advice and had a conversation w/him on the way to school about what he might want to do as a career, um, computers?! too funny
he is working on earning Xbox privileges back and i am learning Latin (helped him study last night, the only Latin i know are animal names, go figure )
i will refer back to this thred ogten, you guys are all such amazing people....aww.... xoxoxo