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I am joining a gym!

06/24/2012 new
As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who plays both parental roles. The ex is not in the picture. I have no every other weekend. I get no child support, either. Because of this, and lack of time, I do not do things for myself. There are numerous doctor appointments to the kids specialists, so I constantly am traveling to the nearest metro city. This takes time off work and money.

In order to take care of my kids, I must take care of myself. There are times when I sacrifice that for a number of reasons. Sometimes it is just guilt. I need to clean, I shouldn't spend the money, I should be doing something else...

I evaluated my budget. I cut a few bucks here and there because a local gym is offering a really great deal through my employer. I really need to get back in shape. My asthma, side effects from medication, and the fact that I didn't take the time to keep up with myself have added weight.

I have decided to do this. The fact that my 12 year old wants to go helps. I feel less guilty about spending the money and time. I will be spending time with her and I will be a good example. It is indoors and won't affect my allergies and asthma. If I take my inhaler before I excercise as my NP said, I should be okay.

I am going to take a tour today and join on Thursday.

Anyone else doing something for you, the single parent? Do you struggle with your self talk in justifying things for you?
06/24/2012 new

(Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one...
(Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who plays both parental roles. The ex is not in the picture. I have no every other weekend. I get no child support, either. Because of this, and lack of time, I do not do things for myself. There are numerous doctor appointments to the kids specialists, so I constantly am traveling to the nearest metro city. This takes time off work and money.

In order to take care of my kids, I must take care of myself. There are times when I sacrifice that for a number of reasons. Sometimes it is just guilt. I need to clean, I shouldn't spend the money, I should be doing something else...

I evaluated my budget. I cut a few bucks here and there because a local gym is offering a really great deal through my employer. I really need to get back in shape. My asthma, side effects from medication, and the fact that I didn't take the time to keep up with myself have added weight.

I have decided to do this. The fact that my 12 year old wants to go helps. I feel less guilty about spending the money and time. I will be spending time with her and I will be a good example. It is indoors and won't affect my allergies and asthma. If I take my inhaler before I excercise as my NP said, I should be okay.

I am going to take a tour today and join on Thursday.

Anyone else doing something for you, the single parent? Do you struggle with your self talk in justifying things for you?
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First off.....good for you clap highfive party clap


When my kids were about 3, 5, and 7, I joined a gym that had a fantastic free childcare area. I also splurged and hired a personal trainer for a handful of sessions so that I had some sort of routine and dedication for attending. BEST thing I did for myself. So good for you!


My kids are now 13, 15. and 17 and I still work out on a semi-regular basis, though at a different club. I even took dance lessons there last year, just because.....

06/24/2012 new

Yes, good for you! clap Time is the worse thing for me...I desperately want to go back to the gym...but the guilt & time are my down falls. Just need to suck it up like you & say it has to be done!

06/24/2012 new

Good for you. No matter what, it is vital to keep yourself interested in other areas. highfive To avoid althsiemers' they say we need to watch diet, exercise, activities, and rest. and vary what we do all our lives. Going to a gym is a great way to do that. It's just good for our well-being. Don't allow it to fall to the bottom of your budgetary list. (that's what I did, and I regret it) Start out a little slow to avoid injury, and have fun!

06/24/2012 new
Thanks ladies! It is nice to get your view on this. I started walking in the mall. It is a like a ghost town. Hardly any stores left. Some areas are completly empty. It is a little creepy. Now if I can master reading and walking at the same time....
06/24/2012 new
Theresa, good for you. As a personal trainer/PE teacher, can I give you a few pieces of advice? Go to the gym on the way home from work or on the way to work. Once a person goes home, they won't want to go back out. Take your kids on the weekends and down times and just play with them--ball, swimming, equipment. As you get into a routine, it gets easier. It is also a good place to meet people. If you are unsure of the equipment, ask staff. You might even want to hire a personal trainer for 3-5 sessions. Take notes as you work with the trainer. Spread out the sessions so that you can adopt skills and make them familar before adding to them. You got this. I can be your own private Jillian--move it! You should be sweaty and tired when you are done. If you aren't, you aren't working hard enough!
06/25/2012 new
(Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who play...
(Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who plays both parental roles. The ex is not in the picture. I have no every other weekend. I get no child support, either. Because of this, and lack of time, I do not do things for myself. There are numerous doctor appointments to the kids specialists, so I constantly am traveling to the nearest metro city. This takes time off work and money.



In order to take care of my kids, I must take care of myself. There are times when I sacrifice that for a number of reasons. Sometimes it is just guilt. I need to clean, I shouldn't spend the money, I should be doing something else...



I evaluated my budget. I cut a few bucks here and there because a local gym is offering a really great deal through my employer. I really need to get back in shape. My asthma, side effects from medication, and the fact that I didn't take the time to keep up with myself have added weight.



I have decided to do this. The fact that my 12 year old wants to go helps. I feel less guilty about spending the money and time. I will be spending time with her and I will be a good example. It is indoors and won't affect my allergies and asthma. If I take my inhaler before I excercise as my NP said, I should be okay.



I am going to take a tour today and join on Thursday.



Anyone else doing something for you, the single parent? Do you struggle with your self talk in justifying things for you?
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Good for you, Theresa!! clap My work out time is my stress-reliever time! You must take care of yourself so you can take care of everything else! I started working out about 17 years ago, and it changed my life! My advice is to not overdo it at first. Get a trainer to help you with a manageable routine. My sister is a personal trainer, so she helped me get started way back when. Three days a week is plenty! Not sure if your gym has classes, but you can alternate classes with weight machines and free weights. It is important to incorporate strength training and cardio to get the most results. If you have any questions, feel free to PM me :)
06/25/2012 new

Great Theresa! I understand you fully. I am also a single mother who doens't have any support from the ex, and also have given everything (time, money and efforts) to this little precious kid I have. I also have forgotten myslef in the rush of working and taking care of him. So now... ta ta!!! I have decided to learn how to dance salsa...ok...I supose to know how...but I mean the real movements, not only the steps. Maybe my son will join me (if he behaves....haha) because he loves this tipe of music, so there! enjoy!! good for you!

06/25/2012 new
(Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who play...
(Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who plays both parental roles. The ex is not in the picture. I have no every other weekend. I get no child support, either. Because of this, and lack of time, I do not do things for myself. There are numerous doctor appointments to the kids specialists, so I constantly am traveling to the nearest metro city. This takes time off work and money.



In order to take care of my kids, I must take care of myself. There are times when I sacrifice that for a number of reasons. Sometimes it is just guilt. I need to clean, I shouldn't spend the money, I should be doing something else...



I evaluated my budget. I cut a few bucks here and there because a local gym is offering a really great deal through my employer. I really need to get back in shape. My asthma, side effects from medication, and the fact that I didn't take the time to keep up with myself have added weight.



I have decided to do this. The fact that my 12 year old wants to go helps. I feel less guilty about spending the money and time. I will be spending time with her and I will be a good example. It is indoors and won't affect my allergies and asthma. If I take my inhaler before I excercise as my NP said, I should be okay.



I am going to take a tour today and join on Thursday.



Anyone else doing something for you, the single parent? Do you struggle with your self talk in justifying things for you?
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Gyms can be great for Treadmills and swimming....Look to your hobbies to loose weight...Join a running club or a sailing Club or a hiking club.....try http://www.meetup.com to meet new friends...Then add all those outdoor photos to your profile!!!!
06/26/2012 new
(Quote) Jim-397948 said: (Quote) Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a singl...
(Quote) Jim-397948 said:
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Theresa-857196 said: As a mother, my attention and thoughts are constantly on my children. As a single mother, I am the one who plays both parental roles. The ex is not in the picture. I have no every other weekend. I get no child support, either. Because of this, and lack of time, I do not do things for myself. There are numerous doctor appointments to the kids specialists, so I constantly am traveling to the nearest metro city. This takes time off work and money.





In order to take care of my kids, I must take care of myself. There are times when I sacrifice that for a number of reasons. Sometimes it is just guilt. I need to clean, I shouldn't spend the money, I should be doing something else...





I evaluated my budget. I cut a few bucks here and there because a local gym is offering a really great deal through my employer. I really need to get back in shape. My asthma, side effects from medication, and the fact that I didn't take the time to keep up with myself have added weight.





I have decided to do this. The fact that my 12 year old wants to go helps. I feel less guilty about spending the money and time. I will be spending time with her and I will be a good example. It is indoors and won't affect my allergies and asthma. If I take my inhaler before I excercise as my NP said, I should be okay.





I am going to take a tour today and join on Thursday.





Anyone else doing something for you, the single parent? Do you struggle with your self talk in justifying things for you?





Gyms can be great for Treadmills and swimming....Look to your hobbies to loose weight...Join a running club or a sailing Club or a hiking club.....try http://www.meetup.com to meet new friends...Then add all those outdoor photos to your profile!!!!
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That is great advice, Jim! I'm all for gyms, outdoor walking/running, and hobbies. tongue But, with some women who are single mothers with young children at home, a running, sailing, or hiking club will not suffice. Lots of gyms have childcare which helps.
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