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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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07/02/2012 new

(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: I'm curious what you mean that people might get upset by you wanting at least one child. I don't ...
(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: I'm curious what you mean that people might get upset by you wanting at least one child. I don't find that offensive at all unless you are completely avoiding women your age because of that.

I joined because to be blunt I was striking out on the secular sites. I was finding much older men, guys who were divorced with kids (or worse men who never married the mom), non Catholics (or for that matter non Christians), guys wanting sex, etc. When I would mention my religious views I was often attacked on these sites. I put up a free profile here and got a few responses from guys who lived by me fitting what I wanted: never married, childless, around my age, etc. Sadly though most have faded. One got married I have since found out (but not from here).

I subscribed when I got a few messages from men who seemed like good potential mates. However after I did this I realized I was running into a lot of the same things I ran into on the secular sites. Oh sure I don't run into a lot of men just looking for sex (at least not that they admit to me)but I run into a lot of much older men, guys with kids, and guys who are LDR but sound like great guys if I did LDR. Meanwhile I have had guys my age often bypass me because of my age, when they are just to blame for being single as I am, only they seem to think it's my fault. Many of the men are way too extremist for me and I could never handle marrying a man who believes that I am not equal to him.

My membership expires next month and to be honest I highly doubt I will renew. Outside of a few great guys that could be potentials there's way too many that aren't. Oddly, I think the women here for the most part are much better than most of the men and I can't figure out why men are bypassing them outside of their age (which to me tells me the men doing this are superficial and no quality). Instead I will concentrate on finding a man near me through people I know and singles groups.
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Dawn, I'm sorry to hear you don't want to renew. I enjoy your posts in the forum.

07/02/2012 new

(Quote) Jeff-406043 said: Just curious why you all chose to join Catholic Match.
(Quote) Jeff-406043 said:

Just curious why you all chose to join Catholic Match.

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Well, I signed onto Catholic Match oh, about six years ago. I then promptly figured out that I was in no condition to start a family or pursue a romance. As time went on, I perceived the possibility of a religious vocation also in play, so I left.

I've had something of an epiphany last year, one that brought closure to a nearly forgotten corner of my past. Taking this as a sign, I started dating again. Sadly, I fell for a woman whose religious praxis and beliefs were, well, hostile to Catholicism. It had to be broken off.

So, not wanting to endure that sort of disorienting heartache again, I wanted to go somewhere to meet single women in which I was fairly certain were practicing Catholics. So, I'm back, better than ever.

07/02/2012 new

Jeff, this was the perfect venue for me. I love meeting new people.
It was a challenge of a personal nature because I never considered on-line dating before. And, becuase my faith has always come first, I thought here would be a good place to start. I love to share ideas and try to see different views.
I saw the add at my parish on the bulletin board.
It will be a year this August.
I have no regrets. Even the unfortunate things. I'm grateful because I've learn what not to be and that many of my ideals are fine with me...no matter what.

07/02/2012 new

(Quote) Richard-831657 said: I attended a meeting of a local Catholic Singles group. There were two people there, both seem...
(Quote) Richard-831657 said:

I attended a meeting of a local Catholic Singles group. There were two people there, both seemed and acted very old.

 


So I joined after I realized that the local Catholic Singles group was not going to provide me with a partner/spouse. It was kind of a response to frustration.

 


To my way of thinking, CM has worked pretty well for me. I have met some nice ladies. I have been favorably impressed with the quality of the women who I have met here. I really have not had a face to face meeting with any CM lady who left me with a bad impression. We will see how things work out in the longer term.

 


Of course, the demographics are in my favor. My current estimate for my age group on CM is that women outnumber men about 3 to 2. Honestly, I thought that the ratio would be even more lopsided.

 


Richard

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Attendence at CM events is usually 3:1 female to male.. With most of the male members being in their mid 40's.. Between people I know personally, it seems most of the marriages are people in their 40's..

07/02/2012 new

It's a lot easier then going to bars to meet like minded women in the faith and their is not too many single women at the church I go to.In this day and age it's hard to meet practicing Catholic women,so why not try a site dedicated to catholic singles

07/02/2012 new
(Quote) Jeff-406043 said: Just curious why you all chose to join Catholic Match.
(Quote) Jeff-406043 said:

Just curious why you all chose to join Catholic Match.

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To meet a great a catholic woman...she let me go..I pray she finds someone better than me.......She still walks on water in my book, now and forever....
07/02/2012 new

(Quote) Jeff-406043 said: Well, for starters, I am Catholic. ;) That's one reason why. Second, I have a friend who met h...
(Quote) Jeff-406043 said:

Well, for starters, I am Catholic. ;) That's one reason why. Second, I have a friend who met her husband on here a few years ago and they are now married with a son. They're not only hopelessly, helplessly in love with each other but they are each other's best friends. And she told me that I should try this site out so I did.

I've been off-and-on Catholic Match for the last two years. I've communicated with a few women. I have yet to meet anyone face-to-face although I did come close to meeting someone in New York last year. It didn't work out because she got cold feet and there were other issues going on in her life which caused the meeting to be postponed. Ultimately, the meeting never happened because she had a change of heart. I really wanted to go, too. So, as you can imagine, it was quite disappointing not to get to meet her after weeks of communication on the phone and through email.

I don't know why it is, but where I live in South Carolina is not a state where a lot of women are from on Catholic Match. South Carolina mostly has Baptists, but there are some Catholics and for some reason there aren't many of them on this site. My problem is that I'm now in this inconvenient age bracket. I'm 39 and I'll be 40. I'm too young for the older women and too old for the younger women. So, I'm kind of stuck, you know what I mean? I mean, unless I win the lottery, become famous or get elected to political office. ;-)

I've dated non-Catholic women and that's never been a problem for me. It's just that over time I decided that I want to marry a woman who shares Catholic values as I do. And we can then raise a child or children to be Catholic. And I know that some women aren't going to like me saying this, but I want to have at least one child with a woman. I don't mind if she's already got a child or children from a previous relationship. I just want us to have at least one child together. And I'd rather be honest from the get-go than to lead someone on and have them believing something that isn't true or real. If you don't want to have any more kids, fine. I accept that. Then I'm not your man. But I do want to have kids. And, believe me, I sure wish that I would have been married and had children sooner. But it wasn't always my fault or up to me. I got a late start in life and love because I was very shy when I was younger and didn't date much. I also concetrated on my work a lot more than relationships when I was younger. And I thought I had found my soulmate three years ago. She was someone that I would have married had things progressed in the relationship. But it wasn't meant to be.

So, that's why I joined Catholic Match. And I'm trying really hard to get my money's worth on here. :)

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First off,I really do feel for you.I too had dated men,whom where not Catholic.I realised that is now top of my list.So that is why I joined about 5 years ago.Though off and on this site.
A easy comparison would be finding the needle in the haystack--meaning that it is not an easy thing to find the right match yet.
I am a hopeful romantic and maybe one day it will happen.
So with that said do not give up.Good always wins,and is the best course!
God Bless you!

07/02/2012 new

(Quote) Donna-83441 said: (Quote) Richard-831657 said: I attended a meeting of a local Catholic Singl...
(Quote) Donna-83441 said:

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Richard-831657 said:

I attended a meeting of a local Catholic Singles group. There were two people there, both seemed and acted very old.


So I joined after I realized that the local Catholic Singles group was not going to provide me with a partner/spouse. It was kind of a response to frustration.


To my way of thinking, CM has worked pretty well for me. I have met some nice ladies. I have been favorably impressed with the quality of the women who I have met here. I really have not had a face to face meeting with any CM lady who left me with a bad impression. We will see how things work out in the longer term.


Of course, the demographics are in my favor. My current estimate for my age group on CM is that women outnumber men about 3 to 2. Honestly, I thought that the ratio would be even more lopsided.


Richard


Attendence at CM events is usually 3:1 female to male.. With most of the male members being in their mid 40's.. Between people I know personally, it seems most of the marriages are people in their 40's..

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So glad to hear those wonderful stats! So there is hope for us older gals like myself!

07/02/2012 new

initially to find a life partner, soul mate, significant other what have you but eventually the forums got hold of me and always drag me back. I'm probably not renewing either. As much as I like the forums the lack people making any meaningful contact has me thinking that for me it's a waste of time though it's fair to say I know many others who have had better luck online. It works for some doesn't for others.

07/03/2012 new

I always would see Catholic Match advertised in the Catholic church bulletins and advertised on Relevant Radio. After seeing and hearing these advertisements for the past several years I decided to become a member of CM last year. I enjoy the forums, updating my scrapbook pictures and attending the CM events. I have met some wonderful people both men and women. I am not sorry that I became a member. The people on CM are wonderful. I joined CM to find a good Catholic boyfriend that would be a potentional good Catholic spouse. It is all up to God now!

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