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07/22/2012 new

(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: Ok I just went to a wedding last week and another the week before and saw a few things. Things I never th...
(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: Ok I just went to a wedding last week and another the week before and saw a few things. Things I never thought about before but now am wondering.

1. The bride walked herself down the aisle and didn't wear a veil. Granted she was married before (widowed) but if it's a first time bride does she have to wear a veil? does she have to wear a veil covering her face called a blusher? Does she have to have someone walking her down the aisle? As I understand it the bride walking with her dad started as a Protestant thing. Also, as an aside I think it is wonderful the ceremony doesn't include obey, though many churches are getting rid of it(as they should).

2. Another bride (first marriage)and her groom put flowers on the Virgin Mary. I understand this is common? My mom said she did it.

3. The second bride did the garter toss at the wedding. I never gave this much though but isn't it kind of sinful because it sort of implies certain things?

There's other things I was curious about but these are the ones upfront.
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i think the garter thing is real TACKY AND CHEESY. My youngest sister refused to have it at her wedding and i commend her for it. i even remember at her wedding dance that night the dj started in something about the garter and she went and told the dj he could shut up or pack up and leave right there. i guess he shut up and listened to her because he must have needed a pay check. i would be offended if my future bride did the garter thing. In the bedroom when we are alone ok it might be a little funny but not at a wedding with the relatives and good friends. i was at a wedding once where they auctioned the garter. to me that almost implies the bride as beng some cheap whore or fluzy

07/22/2012 new
(Quote) Chris-577148 said: i think the garter thing is real TACKY AND CHEESY. My youngest sister refused to have it at her wedding and i ...
(Quote) Chris-577148 said:

i think the garter thing is real TACKY AND CHEESY. My youngest sister refused to have it at her wedding and i commend her for it. i even remember at her wedding dance that night the dj started in something about the garter and she went and told the dj he could shut up or pack up and leave right there. i guess he shut up and listened to her because he must have needed a pay check. i would be offended if my future bride did the garter thing. In the bedroom when we are alone ok it might be a little funny but not at a wedding with the relatives and good friends. i was at a wedding once where they auctioned the garter. to me that almost implies the bride as beng some cheap whore or fluzy

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I've never heard of auctioning but nothing surprises me anymore. I do know having been at many receptions often the DJ makes comments which I find inappropriate, mainly about sexual things. Yes we all know the bride and groom will consummate the marriage either that night or on the honeymoon but the DJ doesn't have to announce it.
07/22/2012 new

(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: That is just disturbing on many levels. I think the garter toss can be sleazy but that just turns it even...
(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: That is just disturbing on many levels. I think the garter toss can be sleazy but that just turns it even more sleazy. Either that or I am a prude but I am not sitting on the best man's lap.
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Aren't there enough Dr. Phil shows on the bride going after the best man? lol

07/23/2012 new
True, and same with maid of honor/groom stories. Those make me question why they got married, having these feelings for others. I hope when I marry there is no lingering doubt or wondering about anyone else.
07/23/2012 new
(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: Ok I just went to a wedding last week and another the week before and saw a few things. Things I never thought abou...
(Quote) Dawn-758914 said: Ok I just went to a wedding last week and another the week before and saw a few things. Things I never thought about before but now am wondering.



1. The bride walked herself down the aisle and didn't wear a veil. Granted she was married before (widowed) but if it's a first time bride does she have to wear a veil? does she have to wear a veil covering her face called a blusher? Does she have to have someone walking her down the aisle? As I understand it the bride walking with her dad started as a Protestant thing. Also, as an aside I think it is wonderful the ceremony doesn't include obey, though many churches are getting rid of it(as they should).



2. Another bride (first marriage)and her groom put flowers on the Virgin Mary. I understand this is common? My mom said she did it.



3. The second bride did the garter toss at the wedding. I never gave this much though but isn't it kind of sinful because it sort of implies certain things?



There's other things I was curious about but these are the ones upfront.
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My sister did not wear a veil at her Nuptial Mass, and my dad did not escort her. Instead, he and our mother (that is, of course, his wife) processed early in the wedding procession together. Or at least that was how I remember. My brother, the pianist, played "Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring" for the procession of everyone, up to my brother-in-law's entry, then when my sister (that is, the one getting married) processed, he played "Prince of Denmark's March".
07/23/2012 new
(Quote) Marissa-529206 said: I don't normally care for the garter thing because alot of the time they make it extremely sexual. Of co...
(Quote) Marissa-529206 said:

I don't normally care for the garter thing because alot of the time they make it extremely sexual. Of course I don't like that. However, my sister and brother and law did it very respectfully. Although he pulled out first....car keys, a cellphone, and a credit card......it was pretty funny.

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I had read an article about your very reservation on the matter. truthandcharity.net

This is but one alternative.
07/23/2012 new

(Quote) Patrick-861636 said: I had read an article about your very reservation on the matter. truthandcharity.net.
(Quote) Patrick-861636 said:

I had read an article about your very reservation on the matter. truthandcharity.net

This is but one alternative.
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I read about this! I mentioned it to a few guys just to see their reaction, and they all said, "That's weird."


Yeah, next.... lol

07/23/2012 new

(Quote) Tara-539245 said: I read about this! I mentioned it to a few guys just to see their reaction, ...
(Quote) Tara-539245 said:


I read about this! I mentioned it to a few guys just to see their reaction, and they all said, "That's weird."


Yeah, next.... lol

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I heard about it, I think in this post. Add the photo and the tears in her eyes....how absolutely beautiful!!! Thanks for sharing this Patrick!

07/23/2012 new

(Quote) AnneMarie-641597 said: I heard about it, I think in this post. Add the photo and the tears in her eyes....
(Quote) AnneMarie-641597 said:


I heard about it, I think in this post. Add the photo and the tears in her eyes....how absolutely beautiful!!! Thanks for sharing this Patrick!

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If I get married, I will DEFINITELY NOT do a garter toss. I think I knew that at age 8. lol I could see myself doing this, but I'd want an explanation to be read prior to it. I know that some not-so-religious people would be totally dumbfounded. I love the symbolism, and I'd want everyone to understand it 100%. :)

07/23/2012 new

My daughter got married this past weekend and it was a beautiful wedding!! She did not wear a veil..it is uncommon now.. she just did not want to , nothing more then that..her brother walked her down the aisle because her Dad is deceased ... it was very touching and beautiful...they chose to do the Unity candles..so myself and her fiance's mother lit the 2 small candles and later they lit the large candle and extinguished the small candles ...the priest who married them spoke about the Unity candle and suggested that they not pack it away but leave it in a prominent place and when they are troubled and or celebrating...light the candle and have those tough conversations or those celebrating times! It was beautiful..he also suggested that they invite him to their home 5 years from now to see how tall or short the candle is! It was wonderful! What is most beautiful is that they actually got married in the Church..which seems to be the exception rather then the rule now. It is really about the Sacrament of Matrimony.

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