And, this is terrible to say, but I could care less if my preferences for drinking and smoking were met. . . for singles under 40, particularly in a metropolitan area, if we had a choice that said drinks several times a week, I'd expect to see it----all my single friends in Kansas City, when I was mobilized, usually went to a cocktail hour a couple times a week and then had beer or drinks with a barbecue or home-based card party on one of the weekend nights.
If someone otherwise met my criteria, but was a social or occasional or light smoker, or went out with the girls or co-workers regularly, it wouldn't bother me, and I'd adapt. . . Sad to say, but unless you are well connected, there's not a lot of group activities in some cities. . .