This room is for supportive and informative discussion about divorce and/or the annulment process. All posters must have been previously divorced or annulled.
Saint Eugene De Mazenod is patron of dysfunctional families & Saint Fabiola obtained a divorce from her first husband prior to devoting her life to charitable works.
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My years in darkness are over and the Church acknowledges it was wrong, false, invalid. My former marriage plagued my heart rather than healed it. But healing comes through God's grace and last year, I met someone. Oh I met someone! But he's far off.
Is putting my heart out there worth the risk? 75% divorce rate for second marriages. And yet, I'm here - waiting, watching, waiting some more. Do you see this? Can you accept all these children coming in and out of my life? Can you support me in all the things I do? Can there be freedom as well as oneness? I admit I'm a little afraid. What if I'm wrong again?
Or should Christ be my Spouse? Am I to live in His love alone or....or will His love flow through me to another?
What a beautiful, sincere and candid post. I certainly know where you are coming from and I had many of the same questions. From one formerly divorced person to another, you might want to be cautiously optimistic until you have a better sense of who he is and if this is something God wants. When I met my husband-to-be 13 years ago, I became friends with him little by little and did a lot of observing. I saw how he treated other people and what kind of values he had before we ever dated so I was able to get to know him without him being on dating best behavior.
I will keep you and your future in my prayers!
Sincerely - Lisa Duffy
A wonderful and beautiful post. What makes your commentary so powerful is that if one gets into a LD, the things you mention are hard if not impossible to see beforehand. I am not discouraging LD's but what you state cannot happen unless you are around a person several times a week. Otherwise, you must have lots of trust in the other person. By being around the person on a regular basis, if they have any large cracks in their personal armor that could affect your relationship at a later time, then those cracks will be exposed. You can't fool someone all the time. Eventually, our true self will be exposed. Those of us who have been divorced don't care to live that life again.
Just my opinion.
Joanna and Kat, thanks. Yup yup... depend on Him alone. Yup yup...
Maybe I will be an old hermitess in a studio apartment with 12 cats. I like cats.
No. I get it. God first. I just need to go chomp down some ice cubes and all will be well.
Truly, I am abundantly blessed. A little tongue-in-cheek about this romance nonsense, but wow - life is good. Praised be Jesus Christ, now and forever!