I am interested in finding out how people who have been raised Catholic feel about dating converts to Catholicism. Do "cradle catholics" only want to date each other? Why or why not? I am currently in the process of going through RCIA after developing a deep intimate faith in Christ in various Protestant traditions over the last 20 years. Consequently, I have a vested interest in this question, especially because it seems to me there are very few converts on this site!
In the last five months I've dived in deep, reading much and listening to over 100 hours of Catholic teaching cds as a means of "catching up." I have been most surprised to hear many tell me that often converts end up knowing more about Catholicism than many cradle catholics. I don't know if this, in fact, is or is not statistically true. If so, does this make a difference in the dating world? Or would dating be more impacted by differences in the aculturation that happens by growing up Catholic (if that makes sense)?
Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts! I look forward to learning from you all.
Greetings, Robyn -- You're one of the few people that gets more than one welcome for her first post.
We certainly welcome you to the CM forums. There's a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, sharing of experiences, and humor to be found here. Hope you will visit us often.
More importantly, we welcome you to the RCIA program, and your goal of joining the Catholic Faith. None of us will ever know everything about the Church, God and everything connected, but we do continue learning. You've been developing a deep faith for several years, and have continued to seek the truth.
Your question is certainly valid. There has been a lack of adequate catechesis among the "cradle Catholics". Another consideration is that a lot of what was learned has been forgotten. Attending Mass alone isn't enough to keep up our Faith skills. People who are coming to the Church from other faith groups devote time to learning and have enthusiasm about their newly found spiritual journey. There's an excitement about it that makes people want to learn all they can.
I would think that a "cradle Catholic" would be beneficial -- you could teach that person a lot. Well, just kidding a little bit, but it is possible. It might awaken the other person's sense of spirituality. If you would date a person knowledgeable about the Faith, he could probably help you with lingering questions you might have.
It seems like it would be an excellent opportunity to share your views and experiences -- great for long conversations. There shouldn't be any bias toward you -- it should actually work in your favor.
Blessings upon your spiritual undertaking, and for successful dating.
I agree with Ray: if the cradle Catholic is serious about their faith, or wants to become more serious about the faith, there should be no problem at all.
There can be problems when the cradle Catholic doesn't want to be bothered with the details and finds the cradle Catholic to be "too Catholic" (which, of course, is not the real problem).