Well, since conversation seems to be dominated by the ladies, allow me to jump in!
Marian, as to your original post and question therein, I really can't say that in my experience it's that much of a problem! Whenever I'm getting to know someone or am out on a date, I always find myself asking questions! In fact, I sometimes worry that I ask too many!
But I understand your concern if this is a trait shared by men you have seen/dated. But for me, it's hardly a problem! Though I am probably more gregarious than most men! So, if you find that this is a problem, I would recommend you try to find someone more like me...though after he's done grilling you, you may want to return to the men who never ask you questions!