When a person you meet tells you...he/she really means:
1. "I'm just dating, right now"
He is seeing others as well, not just you, although you are on the measuring stick, so you COULD be a possibility.
Cave In: Take it as it is and stay for the next insult.
Smart Move: Pick up your cell phone and pretend you are dialing your friend and say,while looking him/her straight in the eye, "Hey girl/dude, just exiting someone else's chance for a crappy future." And keep walking.
2. "I just wanna have fun!":
He/she has no intention of making you a permanent because all they wanna do is have FUN!
Cave In: Go have a fun time with this one-timer and hope you don't expect another date.
Smart Move: Tell him/her, "yeah me, too!" And walk away because they get bored easily and once the fun is over, so are you.
3. "My kids are important to me..."
Cave In: You think this is a sweet thing to say and believe how sweet and natural that he loves his kids and that makes him a great dad. You feel he would be great with your kids and therefore a great family man.
Smart Move: Think about the other side of the coin. Did he have to remind you that they only matter, not this date, nor you? FOCUS! Would he make a decent spouse, anyway to pin you as second in line? A good dad isn't going to remind his date that he loves his kids, 'cause eventually its going to show naturally. Dating talk tells it all, even on the first date. Next!
4. "I dont know..." You asked about where this dating scenario is going.
Cave In: I don't know is better than NO.
Smart Move: NO it isn't. I don't know means uncertainty and indecisiveness. He/she should be history when those words were spoken.
5. His/her profile has interesting statements and pics make him look as if he is the life of the party.
Cave In: You want to include yourself with someone who has interesting activities in his/her life because they make life an adventure!
Smart Move: They have to upsize themselves to attract dates. Most of those pics are taken when they did that activity ONCE. Ask him/her what they do for quiet or alone time.
6. "I'm busy alot"
Cave In: That is great! You are a self-made person therefore, you are a hard-working, worthy, productive person.
Smart Move: These words are telling you "I will make excuses when I get tired of paying for the dates." Ask, why are they ready to date if they are so busy?
7. You ask, "So when do I get to meet your friends/family?" He says, "in due time."
Cave In: You accept that he/she is right and that it WILL happen in due time.
Smart Move: If you have to ask that question in the first place, that means his family and friends are meaningful to you. But "in due time" means, not now and probably not ever because you don't fit the mold of the woman/man I would be proud to present to my family/friends.
more to come...