(Quote) Marian-83994 said:
I am curious as to any questions you may have asked and what kind of topic the woman bega...
(Quote) Marian-83994 said:
I am curious as to any questions you may have asked and what kind of topic the woman began to speak on that led her to keep talking. I am sincerely curious. If you can recall an instance, do share it.
Now I got this part. I've been reading all the posts in this topic and I find it hard to get in because of the one question I got in mind that is very sensitive. Men would probably like but hesitate to ask women this question: "Are you financially secure?, What is your source of income," and many other questions related to the woman's possibility of being dependent on him or his income. I am writing a book about old age, and in my interviews. observations, and research, I found issues of money very important to old people. I see that even in a loving relationship, men tend to hide some money from their spouse ( I see this in my parents, relatives, neighbors and friends.) Men finds their spouse either generous, charitable, or extravagant, that because of this, their financial insecurity increases as they age. However, looking at this on the positive side, this is beneficial to both. Take for example my parents: My Dad would hide from my Mom his SS pension that when she asked him some money, he would say he has nothing. My mother would just laugh at him. sometimes make fun of him before their children saying he's hiding his money because he's afraid she might steal it, then she giggles. My father would then becomes defensive. When he died, the money he hid was spent on his funeral. Had my mother died first, the money my father saved would give him some feeling of financial security living by himself. Had he not saved, my mother would have given that money to her children, leaving them both broke. Reading the profiles of all the men here, I find that some men include their financial info. In the other dating websites that I signed up to, I learned that men who are financially secured tend to look for a homebound housewife that is willing to do the chores for him, including taking care of his health. Of course serving each other is what loving gives to each other. Men should not feel insecure about a woman'S capability to love and serve. I keep this quote in my memory bag: A WOMAN WOULD CARRY THE WORLD ON HER SHOULDER FOR THE MAN WHO LOVES HER.
However though, the issue about money (and other assets) would be complicated if there are children from previous marriages because the possibility would be that when one dies, the immediate relatives feel they have the right to inherit whatever is left behind.