“I’d rather be alone than in a bad marriage.”
I agree with this one 100%. I don't get their problem with this.
“I’m not sure if I have a soul mate.”
I have always disagreed with the notion of a "soulmate". It creates a romanticized ideal no one can live up to. For some people there are thousands of people with whom they could have a fulfilling marriage, which negates the premise of a single soulmate. However others may not have someone who is right for them, or live in an area where there are few other singles. Maybe there isn't someone for everyone. Stereotyping singles and laying a guilt trip on them accomplishes nothing.
Some of these point are valid, and point to an overly strong orientation toward self or a lack of faith as hindrances to marriage. However the Catholic and Protestant clergy and lay people bemoaning the decline in Christian marriage need to take a long look in the mirror and ask: Are we creating an environment in which singles feel welcome and valued, or is our message geared entirely toward those married with families? Have we made an effort to introduce singles we believe would be compatible? Have I done what I can to help people along the path to marriage, or do I prefer to make them feel lacking and to blame for being single?