Psychological abuse is real abuse, and its scars go deeper than physical abuse. My bruises healed. But the feelings that accompanied them took a lot longer to fade. He may be feeling out of control right now and, for a control freak, that can trigger an escalation (hence the increase in unwanted communication). Yes, you are doing the right thing. Just beeeee careful, guard your personal info, don't let him manipulate you, and get that OFP filed if you are afraid of him! Prayers...
Alice - You are very right about the psychological abuse. I did look at the Catholic website, and it DOES list that and verbal abuse as forms of abusing another person, so I feel even more comfortable - no, justified - for what I'm doing as far as throwing every legal tool at him to put a stop to this.
My counselor that I started seeing for my own healing said the same thing - that this type of psychological abuse is much harder to get over.
And, I agree that he is feeling out of control and thus the many texts and email and phone call today. I honestly believe that it will get worse next week when he is sevred with the perps for the restraining order and the additional motion being put in about our daughter limiting all contact with me so he can't use the contact about her to scare/terrorize me.
He has this way of making me feel crazy, like I'm imaginging all this. But, the more time that I am away from him, the more I know I'm not imagining anything, and , I also now understand why my family has been expressing their worry and concern for years. I have called and filed so many police reports, but, if they don't see an actual mark on you, there is nothing they can do. That's why I have chosen to have a private attorney handle this - the police actualky told me that might be the only way to stop it.
It just helps a lot to know someone else has been through this type of thing and I am not the "only one". You sound like you are one "tough cookie" and dealt with it well. I really think that it takes a lot of courage and really admire you for that!