(Quote) Celia-821539 said:
That's me with my ignorant face on. Being a recent convert, could someone please tell me what...
(Quote) Celia-821539 said:
That's me with my ignorant face on. Being a recent convert, could someone please tell me what happens if you meet, fall in love with, and decide to marry someone of a different denomination? Say, oh, for example, Baptist.
A. Do I get kicked out of the church? Just kidding. But, is it frowned upon?
B. What you decided you wanted to marry this person? Is there some kind of procedure where you can marry outside the Faith, but still take vows in your church? Or are you forever giving up the idea of getting married in the Catholic Church?
It really makes a difference to me, so I suppose I need to know if it is worth meeting the person if it goes in any way against those confirmation vows.
Hi Celia, I agree with Jerry. If you are dating for possible future with this guy, and he requires an annulment for you two to have a sacramental marriage, it can be lengthy process. I stayed with my former BF for over 4 years, his annulment was not granted, it was devastating for me, but I learned that although we loved eachother, he wasn't what I needed. I prayed throughout the whole process for God's will, because God knew my heart. So I have no doubt that God protected me, (I've since learned some other things that would have caused problems if we had married) When you are "in love" you can't see some of the things that could cause problems later.
Be a good witness to your Catholic faith, understand scripture and why Holy Mother Church teaches what she does, and it is not to hurt us, but to keep us holy, which is her primary mission. The cop out that "God understands" doesn't fly . . . He has His Holy Word to tell us and His Church to guide us and His Spirit to enlighten us. No where in these institutions does it say, "sure go ahead if you love eachother, God understands."
I see a lot of people who marry non-Catholics either leave the Church or suffer in misery because their spouse didn't understand, didn't care about or hated the Catholic Church. And yes, there are people who married non-Catholics who were wonderful people, but just think how much more wonderful if they could have deeply share their faiths and beliefs? And for me that is the key, people of other faiths do not understand what the Catholic Church really believes and teaches, if they did, they would become Catholic. I want someone I can really share my faith with, discuss scripture from a Catholic perspective and experience the sacraments with me. But those are my needs and may not be yours.
And no, you won't get kicked out of the Church and we here will all still love you no matter what your decision.