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This room is for supportive and informative discussion about divorce and/or the annulment process. All posters must have been previously divorced or annulled.

Saint Eugene De Mazenod is patron of dysfunctional families & Saint Fabiola obtained a divorce from her first husband prior to devoting her life to charitable works.
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Nov 26th 2012 new

(Quote) Donna-83441 said: I have not always gotten along with my two ex husbands, but to their face, in a family setting, I ...
(Quote) Donna-83441 said:

I have not always gotten along with my two ex husbands, but to their face, in a family setting, I smile and make nice.. The children are so much better off for it. Now that my kids are grown they appreciate it. My DIL Angie's divorced parents don't get along at all even though their two kids are grown.. My son tells her "I'm SO glad my parents act like grownups." I really appreciated him saying that, because his dad left us for another woman and it was tough to keep my mouth shut sometimes.

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Wow Donna, you certainly are forgiving. I don't know that I could be in the same room if my x had treated me that way. However, in our situation, we have played "so" nice that when we told our children we were divorced one asked if she could be the flower girl at the "next" wedding, lol, and the rest ran off to play. Thanks to God we have chosen them over ourselves, but it is still heartbreaking. It's over now, thank God! Until Christmas at least.

Nov 26th 2012 new

(Quote) AnneMarie-641597 said: I have only had to deal with this once, but it was like pulling teeth for everyone involved. ...
(Quote) AnneMarie-641597 said:

I have only had to deal with this once, but it was like pulling teeth for everyone involved. I have gracefully backed out of other situations since. As a single parent whose father was NEVER a part of my daughter's life, as a child of a single mom whose father was absentee for close to 15 years...trade ya!

All kidding aside, it is not an easy situation. I can tell you where I am at though. My parents both gave me a great gift in not disparaging the other, ever in my presence. They never played tug of war, jealous nastiness, none of it - they just loved me. I appreciate that beyond all words, especially when I hear of how other children are yanked around so much. Insofar as my daughter's father is concerned, two parts: first, I will never understand how anyone could deliberately hurt a child in any fashion - his being neglect. While I can not forget, I have forgiven. It has been his loss. The second piece is that the only thoughts or feelings I have for him are gratitude for the amazing gift that my daughter has been. It took a LOT of years, but I finally got there.

I wish those blessings for you, AND for your children. Until then, I will pray for God's grace for you as you journey there.

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Thanks AnneMarie,

it's over now, thank God! I concentrated on what he brought to the situation and it made it much easier. Thanks for the support.

Nov 26th 2012 new

(Quote) Carmen-910629 said: Wow Donna, you certainly are forgiving. I don't know that I could be in the same ro...
(Quote) Carmen-910629 said:

Wow Donna, you certainly are forgiving. I don't know that I could be in the same room if my x had treated me that way. However, in our situation, we have played "so" nice that when we told our children we were divorced one asked if she could be the flower girl at the "next" wedding, lol, and the rest ran off to play. Thanks to God we have chosen them over ourselves, but it is still heartbreaking. It's over now, thank God! Until Christmas at least.

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Well..His 'next wedding' was only 4 mos after the divorce was final.. Our children were 9, 6 and 5.. They attended the wedding, but I would have drawn the line (of being nice) at flower girl and ringbearer.. mischievous The wedding plans were being made while we were still married.

Nov 26th 2012 new

(Quote) Donna-83441 said: Well..His 'next wedding' was only 4 mos after the divorce was final.. Our chi...
(Quote) Donna-83441 said:


Well..His 'next wedding' was only 4 mos after the divorce was final.. Our children were 9, 6 and 5.. They attended the wedding, but I would have drawn the line (of being nice) at flower girl and ringbearer.. The wedding plans were being made while we were still married.

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OMgosh Donna that is so awful! You are so strong!

Nov 27th 2012 new

(Quote) Donna-83441 said: Well..His 'next wedding' was only 4 mos after the divorce was final.. Our chi...
(Quote) Donna-83441 said:


Well..His 'next wedding' was only 4 mos after the divorce was final.. Our children were 9, 6 and 5.. They attended the wedding, but I would have drawn the line (of being nice) at flower girl and ringbearer.. The wedding plans were being made while we were still married.

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that is so disgusting! my children and i would have been far away in another state when the wedding day arrived.

Nov 27th 2012 new

Donna did absolutely the right thing and I know that her children appreciate her taking the high road. I do with my folks. heart

Nov 27th 2012 new

(Quote) Carmen-910629 said: OMgosh Donna that is so awful! You are so strong!
(Quote) Carmen-910629 said:

OMgosh Donna that is so awful! You are so strong!

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In the end she made his life miserable for the next 16 years until she decided she wanted a divorce..(My kids think she swings toward women) His third wife is a quiet mousy type.. SHE has the best husband and he probably has the best wife for him.. With his second wife he was always walking on eggshells..

Nov 27th 2012 new

I guess we all have our share of horror stories... some worse than others, some with visible scars, others have left heart aches and pain.

The Lord is healing us all... If we're closer to Him, then it's our Divine Duty to pray for them - well, maybe I'll start now... hmmm... What did I just get myself into??? eyepopping

The Holiday Season is still long... Maybe if we offered the "discomfort" for the Souls in Purgatory, in Thanksgiving for our Faith and that we may pass it on to others... all those will be worthwhile!!

Just another Cross to bear that will help us achieve Holiness!!! theheart

Thank you all for sharing,

Mari

Nov 27th 2012 new

(Quote) AnneMarie-641597 said: Donna did absolutely the right thing and I know that her children appreciate her taking the h...
(Quote) AnneMarie-641597 said:

Donna did absolutely the right thing and I know that her children appreciate her taking the high road. I do with my folks.

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i am just thinking the high road for me would not let my children see their dad with another woman, esp. at this occasion. cause dad was just with mom, and now this. myself, i think the children were too immature to see this. but again, these are my thoughts. no hard feelings? just thinking out loud.

Nov 27th 2012 new

(Quote) Donna-83441 said: In the end she made his life miserable for the next 16 years until she decided she wa...
(Quote) Donna-83441 said:


In the end she made his life miserable for the next 16 years until she decided she wanted a divorce..(My kids think she swings toward women) His third wife is a quiet mousy type.. SHE has the best husband and he probably has the best wife for him.. With his second wife he was always walking on eggshells..

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Wait, I remember this story. Read it in another post. Serves him right. What goes around...

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