About annulment -- I would feel that to go down that path, I would need to twist truth, and that I will not do. I have read carefully the clauses for an annulment and I do not feel that they meet the facts of my ex-marriage. We were strong catholics, understood what we were doing, were sincere and were without pressure or misunderstanding. Our strong marriage lasted many years, but alas, an affair ended it (his). Are there others who feel that they also had well founded marriages that somehow feel apart many, many years later?
Jocelyn..There could possibly be underlying issues that you were never aware of that caused him to have an affair after many years.. Maybe a family member did when he was young and that always stuck with him, maybe there was some history in his teen years that you were never aware of.. I always tell people, just tell the truth, even if it makes you look bad.. As part of my annulment procees I had to visit a counselor.. At the end of our two hour meeting I spilled my guts about things that had occured when I was growing up with an alcoholic dad that I hadn't thought about in years. And I certainly never told anybody about. This guy would ask a question and that would send me off on a topic line that might never have been broached had he not asked.. He revealed to me as I was leaving that he was curious at first why the Tribunal sent me to him..He was an alcohol and drug rehab counselor and I didn't drink or use drugs ever.. He said "Now I understand."
BTW.. The Tribunal decides what the grounds for annulment our..That isn't our pick..At least not in my Archdiocese..