Well said and good reminder for all. Smothering not needed.
Also some persons can be very controlling. They don't see their partner as an individual person, I am afraid.
Right-o. "Terms of Engagement" are a bit of a dance - one might be too distant, the other too clingy... I would think a couple that has a foundation of mutual respect and loving trust could find "Terms" that meet both their temperament needs. Boundaries should always be respected. But if each person is entering into the relationship selfishly - "He needs to complete me" or "She's ok, but only at this distance." - it's just doomed.