David, I can't speak for all Trads, but I do feel I represent many (especially as I have seen in my own parish) and these people do not fit the stereotype and criticisms presented. As I have said in a previous comment, some Trads do seem to act like Pharisees, and this requires an increase in the virtues of charity and humility. I deal with some of these people in the parish I regularly attend and have attended for 7 years, and I will admit I didn't find them welcoming when I first came to the TLM. Even so, I saw what was truly lovely about the TLM and have learned much about my faith from all in the parish, including from those I find a little difficult to bear sometimes. Within the church, we are all sinners in need of redemption and we need to bear with one another as brothers and sisters in Christ.
I find many who attend the OF/NO just as difficult at times. Some are so anti-TLM, anti-Trad, that they "throw out the baby with the bath water". Just mentioning that I often attend the TLM has caused others of the OF/NO to judge me and box me into a preconceived category they hold without actually letting me speak for myself. There is one parish in my city that is very "Charismatic" (very Protestant in reality, they call themselves "St. ... Catholic Community" not "...Catholic Church"). I was there to be a sponsor for a teen receiving their Confirmation. In a conversation with the new, young priest, I mentioned that I attended the TLM. He practically walked away from me mid-sentence with a look of disgust on his face. I had not said anything critical of how they worship at that parish - I figured I would take the advice of St. Ambrose to St. Monica when she first arrived in Milan - and yet there was an instant barrier that was almost impossible to overcome.
To repeat (as it is in previous posts above): Both the TLM and the OF/NO are valid masses. There are some elements in the NO liturgy which are problematic as they have gone too far from traditional church teaching and there are efforts from the Vatican to remedy this. The TLM (though it's parishioners are not perfect themselves) has preserved much of what is reverant and traditional and sets a good standard to follow. I have met many who have started attended the TLM in the past 7 years and it often leads to those individuals learning more about the faith and traditional church teachings. The fruits are evident. I have attended the NO for many years prior and, in my case, have learned little of the true faith in that time. It seems that many things were taken for granted and there was an "it's all good" attitude. I do agree that we ALL need to act in charity and humility more often and this is the most important thing. In wanting to follow Jesus and wanting to truly please him, I tend to look to the traditonal teachings as these were them that were set originally by Him or those very close to Him. He knows what is best for the salvation of my soul and the souls of others, and He would not lead us astray. Unfortunately there are others in the church, though perhaps not always deliberately, who seem to be doing just that.
Very well stated, Rose. Thank you.