No, this is not a binary solution set. Now we need to find a middle ground.
Here's the deal: in Muslim countries a representative government is, shock and and surprise, going to be composed of a lot of Muslims. Some of them will be nut cases, some of them won't. Assuming that ALL Muslims are nut jobs is not helpful.
Wouldn't the "middle ground" have been letting them deal with the situation, without Obama's buddies stirring things up?
Failing that, perhaps benign neglect?
At this point, it can be rightly said, "don't mess with the U.S., or will bomb you into democracy."