OK, this is for thoughts and general discussion. I've been single forever and have no idea what my mom does regarding gifts for me, my siblings and their spouses. However, I have a dear, dear divorced mom friend who frequently pointed out to me over the years that she was being shorted! Seems her mom spent x amount on her, the same on her sister, and then the same on her brother-in-law. So, to her way of thinking, she was getting less than her sister.
I've got two sons and it makes sense to keep things "even-Stephen," but now, I am faced with a similar dilemna. I'm joyfully buying gifts for one son and his girlfriend (who we all hope will become his wife in the near future) and then there's my other son. What's fair for him?