A self-fulfilling prophecy combined with a false sense of beauty: she believes this, so it (or the converse) becomes so. Being in love is neither being loved or loving. In most cases it waxes and wanes (or worse). What is the result of building even a portion of our self-esteem on such shifting sands?
True beauty comes from living the life God has planned for us: in general and specifically. In many cases the reason we don't have what we want right now is because God knows we're not ready for it and has other plans for us today. The longer we resist doing things His way, the longer it will take to get to the point we're ready to be given what we desire.
hmmm -- let me tell you about my Franciscan formation director, now 8osome years old -- she is still in love with Jesus and our faith, but 30 years ago she was really truly deeply into her faith and spent most hours awake in communion with God -- and she felt beautiful!! She felt thin, young, sparkling, glowing and thought she was! And I'm sure that glow 'showed' to others around her! But she said that when she looks back on pictures of herself during those glowing years, she was 'just herself' -- not thin, not young, not 'beautiful' -- just herself -- that is the 'beautiful' I'm referring to. You don't have to 'be outwardly beautiful' to 'be beautiful'!!!!!!!!!!!