(Quote) Linda-624584 said: I remember one of my first post in the widows room was jumped on by a woman who was divorced. I simply s...
(Quote) Linda-624584 said:
I remember one of my first post in the widows room was jumped on by a woman who was divorced. I simply stated that I pray to my husband daily for guidance (on the advice of two Nuns) and help to get me through the day. Well this woman came in and jumped all over me for praying to my husband. She was finger wagging about not praying to others, that I should be praying to God. I was very gracious in my response to her, but I can tell you it was a long time before I ever posted in here. I went away crying and licking my wounds. My point being.....we do come from a totally different place than others who have not had to live through the devastating loss of a spouse. When a person gets divorced, there's always a good chance they'll see that person again (whether they want to or not), I know I will NEVER see my husband in this life again. BIG DIFFERENCE.
I well remember that first post of yours, and the ensuing ill effects and injustices that were said....I recall the empathy between several widows/widowers that followed, and the private support that occurred as a result....
I well know the dual face of Divorce and Widowhood...but I relate my identity with Widowhood--it has been FAR MORE compelling and life altering.
FOR THE RECORD, and not that it should matter to anyone but me, God, and a possible future spouse...like Nilda, I also experienced Divorce in my early 20's. It was a painful experience; it was a loss; it left emotional and spiritual emptiness; it impacted families, finances, and faith....I discerned and endured the agony of internal and external scrutiny, and the timelessness of the anullment process... I was later blessed to enter into a sacrimental marriage, and create a new family. I experienced the grave illness and death of my husband, and believe me, it was no where the same as the loss of my first marriage. The recovery process from the end of both marriages involved wounds of grief, anger, fears, and hopelessness, BUT THE DEPTH AND PERMANENCE were vastly incomparable from death to those from divorce.
I feel an immediate bond with those in the widowed ranks. However, unless you've walked that path, you may have empathy and words of wisdom and encouragement/support (which are very humbly and gratefully received), but it just isn't as complete of a union of feelings and experiences.
God bless each of you, who reads this. Let us offer compassion and prayers for ALL of us in our daily walk---we are different members, but ALL ONE BODY in Christ.