Happy Birthday, Brian!
Your concerns about modesty are legitimate, so thanks for bringing up the elephant in the room. For years into my conversion, I couldn't for the life of me understand why some Christian women dressed so scantily. There was absolutely no judgement in my desire to understand it; I was simply confounded. Within minutes of my conversion I felt compelled to dress modestly, but gradually I've learned that conversions come in many different shapes, speeds, and sizes, and God reveals His Truths when we are ready to embody them. Cliche, but true, we are all works in progress. Having said that, what a disappointment it was for me to step back into church after 28 years and see what I saw. I naively thought people were going to be expressing the greatest reverence toward God, in their actions and appearance. See EWTN's Father Dominic Mary's homily on Youtube: Dressing Modestly (especially at Mass). Coming from a priest, it's a mind-blower.
Sadly, our young men and women aren't learning about the beauty and necessity of modesty, but it needs to be addressed on so many levels, and any one of the members of the Body of Christ has a right, indeed a responsibility to discuss this charitably. First, purity in all its forms (including modesty) is demanded of us by Christ. Practicing modesty is an expression of charity toward others. There are males out there who ARE trying to order their thoughts according to God's will, and we women must honor and facilitate that. Men owe us the same courtesy as well. If my very presence encourages a man to lust after me, I have sinned against him and against God. And you're right, dressing in full Ninja wear is ridiculous-one needn't dress like a school marm to please the Lord.
I think there's widespread ignorance as to the full meaning of modesty, and that's partly a result of an individual failing to realize her dignity and identity in and through Christ. Jesus wants modesty for us because it's GOOD for us. He doesn't want us to reveal the sacred aspects of our physical bodies to anyone who doesn't have a legitimate right to our bodies. For lack of a better analogy, I've taught teens that you can shop sidewalk sales at Walmart, but you'll never see Neiman Marcus having one. Why? Because Neiman Marcus knows it doesn't have to display its goods outside to get your attention. I think it was Muhammad Ali who taught his daughter that some of the most precious elements are hidden and aren't extracted easily: gold, diamonds, and pearls. Precious, beautiful, rare-that's what we are. Unfortunately, we bely that truth when we reveal ourselves to those whom have no legitimate right to behold us. With self-love and true knowledge of our worth comes a refusal to reveal what is sacred to anyone but our spouse. That's wisdom, not prudishness.
As Matthew Kelly writes in Rediscovering Catholicism, we Catholics have a NEED to be part of something authentic, something REAL, something totally acultural. We want to enter the sanctuary of our churches and other Catholic institutions and experience something so radically different than what's "out there." This is the place we make face-to-face contact with the King of Kings. We love Him so much we know He deserves the greatest reverence. It can actually cause physical pain when we see the lack of respect given Him. Our frustration over the lack of modesty and the fact that it's rarely addressed isn't about judging others; it's about every soul's deep aching for the sacred, pure, and beautiful. You might have been a bit harsh in your post, but it was honest. You were letting the women out there know that their profiles are all about first impressions. To attract the opposite sex we need to distill down our best attributes in a very small space. I think you were simply trying to say that the written word and photos can be SO EASILY misinterpreted. It's common sense to conclude, (even if it's incorrect) that bar room photos could easily be MISinterpreted because most of us assume we're displaying what's MOST important to us, in other words, this is what I want others to know about me at first glance. Of course, anyone with a brain knows that there's nothing inherently wrong with bars, and they CAN be great places to eat, socialize and unwind with friends.
Best of luck,