I know before I say word one that I may be sticking my foot in my mouth, but all I have to say to that is: munch munch yum.
I happen to like my dresses. I also enjoy to the enth degree a fabulous pair of heels. And having a great manicure should be written into law. Oh, and pedicures, don't even get m started. A must. That is what is right for ME, personally. And, if a guy does not like my little black dress, or the out fit I wear jogging, well, no problem. All that means is thatthe guy is not right for me and vice versa.
As for shopping, what I choose may not be modest for some, or may be tasteful for others. Frankly, I wear what I know I feel good in. I love to shop, I love dresses, and I think stockings are second only to heels. If God has an issue with how I dress, well, He will be the one who will let me know. Now, FOR ME, I have a line in my sand that there are some outfits I would not where out with "just the girls". If I were dating someone, I would probably wear the outfit out with that guy...See, we all have our lines in the sand. I think this business of responsibility for temptations is getting put a little too squarely on the women's shoulders, too. What about the guys for ogling every thing who walks by and not controlling his thoughts?
And the bar scene. Well, I have never been inlined to go to bars all that much. But, it is perfectly fine for someone to go have a drink with friends after work. I see nothing wrong with that, and wouldn't judge them for doing so. If some guy has a picture of himself with a drink, well, maybe that was one night he was out with friends in a very long time and just happened to be having a good time, like the pic ad posted it. It doesn't necessarily mean he goes out drinking like a fish every night. Pictures are first impressions. Key word being "first". If it is right, well then you might be lucky enough to get impressions 2-??? and form your opinion of the person that way. I like to keep an open mind and give a person a chance before I make a snap judgement based on 1-2 pics.
Your desire to have a woman who dresses a certain way, etc. is totally fine. But, just rememeber that what is right for you may not be right for the next guy or girl. And, as for how a woman dresses and takes a pic? Again, who knows...maybe some girl put on an outfit and felt great in it and just posted a picture. One picture does not a whole life describe. It is a snapshot in time. Nothing to make far reaching assumptions about.
And the Wii at home? I have one but unplugged it so my kids would stay off. There is nothing wrong with going out dancing and have a decent time. It all depends on how one conducts oneself - is the person having full body dirty dancing contact, or is it tasteful with little to no contact? You don't know if you are not there. We're not meant to live in a vacuum. That is why there is the commisioning at the end of Mass. We are supposed to go out into the world and make a positive difference. Being stuck at home playing the Xbox is not going out and making a difference. It is hiding.