(Quote) Victor-544727 said:
Maybe I come from a different school of thought, or maybe I'm just differen...
(Quote) Victor-544727 said:
Maybe I come from a different school of thought, or maybe I'm just different (as has been implied on MANY occasions ), but I just can't help but to wonder where the new boyfriend comes into the equation in regards to the financial arrangement between the new gal he is just beginning to date and the father of her child(ren). Regardless of her reasons for either receiving or not receiving monetary support, what business is it of someone she's just beginning to date, or anyone else for that matter, to be privy to this information and to be allowed input regarding her circumstance? Next thing you know he'll want to know who claims the child(ren) on their tax return! A new relationship doesn't entitle anyone to know that information any more than that person has the right to know how much money you have in the bank.
Too many people these days have a very bad habit of thinking that they are entitled to and have a right to know immediately far too much about things that do not involve them, nor are any of their concern, for no other reason than they want to know.
As sad as this is going to sound, from my own personal observations and experiences over the years, a man who places such a high priority and expresses such great concern over financial arrangements like this are usually calculating things like alimony and child support as a means by which to determine how much a relationship with a woman and her child(ren) won't cost him. I've actually seen men factor in whether the child(ren) attend public, or private school, and who pays for their tuition as well as which parent's insurance plan is covering their child(ren).
Sadly, it really is a sick world out there with very misplaced values and priorities.
Exactly what I mean. Why would any one of the beautiful women on here be willing to enter into a relationship with someone who thinks like that? From what I have seen so far, the women on here are good Catholic women seeking their St. Joseph. St Joseph would never have asked that.
Actually St. Joseph was not only put into a position where he had to raise another man's child, he was put into a position where the woman, Mary, had been his bethroved before she got pregnant. While he had hesitation and doubt, a prudent emotion and experience, once he confirmed that it was where God was leading him, he was in for the penny and in for the pound. He financed their journey to Bethlehem, the birth and even lead his wife and (foster child) to safety in a far off land away from his family.
That is where the thinking of the men on this board should be. On being St. Joseph. Is it any wonder that the only words in the bible and my favorite quote about St.Joseph is "Joseph was a JUST man." How can any woman view a man who thinks like that as just? Joseph is the poster child for Stepfathers. While we as women strive ot be your Mary strive to be St. Joseph for us.
While I am not looking for a man to financially support me OR MY KIDS, I am also not looking for a man who is factoring whether he needs to support me and my kids as a deciding factor. That is what I call a RED flag.
When did caring a for child that is not your own become a problem for us Catholics. Sure it is not ideal. However, should we who tout Adoption as the loving option place so much emphasis on only being responsible for or raising a child that is biologically ours. Where are we headed is a slippery path.