Since the other thread (Do men feel we don't need them? www.catholicmatch.com ) got shut down before I had a chance to get responses to my questions...
My question: I just wonder- what sort of guidelines and advice would you give an adult woman who does not WANT to "be the man" and "do it all" but who has no man around to do whatever "man things" you deem inappropriate for her to do? How, when there is no one to fill the man's role, can a woman survive and take care of herself in the world without giving the impression that a manly man is not welcomed in her life?
Patrick-235584 said: does she have a father, a brother, a neighbor, a kid up the street who's cutting grass for 25 bucks? Look, I guess there's a fine line to all this, does she WANT to do everything, or does she HAVE to do everything. If she wants to do everything, then there's no place for men, however, if she has to do everything, find an alternative. Don't try to do it all, to me, and I"m sure to other men, it's very unbecoming for a woman to not show her femininity. Just my thoughts.
My follow-up questions for Patrick and any other men who want to give us gals some feedback:
So in real life, how do you men judge whether or not a woman is doing things because she wants to or she has to? Honest question.
Would you not think well of a woman who finds a fiscally responsible way to manage her household by doing easy things herself when she could have paid a man to do it for her? Honest question. Is experience running an efficient household not a good quality in a future wife and mother?
How can a woman who thinks it's more responsible to fix/do what she can easily fix/do by herself indicate to men that they would still be appreciated and she would quite gladly move over and make room for them in these currently un-filled roles? Honest question.
How many of you men are out there lending your support to single women around you so that they can more easily communicate to other men that they "don't want to do it all"? Honest question.
Would it make a difference if her toolbelt was pink and she was wearing pearl earrings while doing some of these "man-things" for herself? Silly question... based in reality. This is usually what I look like when I am fixin' what needs fixin' where I live. The reliable, affordable neighborhood handyman fairy keeps skipping my house, I have no brothers, my father lives 5 1/2 hours away, I earn a teacher's salary, and I like to save my money for a rainy day so to speak, such as when the big things that are definitely too much for me to handle need fixing/doing, or when my dog has to go to the ridiculously expensive emergency vet at 2 AM, or when I need to help out a friend in a crisis, or when some other sort of unexpected situation requiring money pops up.