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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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01/03/2013 new

(Quote) Rachel-731570 said: ok, Patrick -- what should I have done?
(Quote) Rachel-731570 said:


ok, Patrick -- what should I have done?

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It's in the past, but do what you want to do in your mind. laughing I'm pretty blunt.

01/03/2013 new

(Quote) Victor-544727 said: All of this is nice and all, but... I don't want, nor could ever accept being wan...
(Quote) Victor-544727 said:

All of this is nice and all, but...


I don't want, nor could ever accept being wanted on the condition that I'm needed. I want and could only accept being needed on the condition that I'm wanted.


Ok... off my Carry on!

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What Victor said.

I find it interesting that some women are looking to fit a man into their lives by finding the appropriate chore for him to do.

Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because you value and respect my counsel. Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because you are jealous of my ability to have entire conversations with my brothers using only lines from “Seinfeld”. Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because what I add to your life has intrinsic value.

Need your lawn landscaped or roof replaced? That is what Angie’s List is for.

01/03/2013 new
(Quote) Steve-650539 said: What Victor said. I find it interesting that some women are looking to fit a man into t...
(Quote) Steve-650539 said:

What Victor said.

I find it interesting that some women are looking to fit a man into their lives by fi nding the appropriate chore for him to do.

Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because you value and respect my counsel. Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because you are jealous of my ability to have entire conversations with my brothers using only lines from “Seinfeld”. Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because what I add to your life has intrinsic value.

Need your lawn landscaped or roof replaced? That is what Angie’s List is for.

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Well said!!!
01/03/2013 new
I prefer not to see men in dresses, but help with the household chores is always welcomed. :)
01/03/2013 new

I have learned to do things on my own because it saves money. I have taken a class on ceramic tile and tiled a back pourch and bathroom. I have painted, plastered, conquered wall papaer and removal, installed a kitchen sink and a little bit of electrical as well. The way I look at it if someone else can do it, than I will give it a try. I have many tools and several electic saws, drills etc. However, no tool belt.

01/03/2013 new

(Quote) Laura-896845 said: I prefer not to see men in dresses, but help with the household chores is always welcomed. :)
(Quote) Laura-896845 said: I prefer not to see men in dresses, but help with the household chores is always welcomed. :)
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I like bagpipes and kilts!

01/03/2013 new

(Quote) Mary-924110 said: I have learned to do things on my own because it saves money. I have taken a class on ceramic tile...
(Quote) Mary-924110 said:

I have learned to do things on my own because it saves money. I have taken a class on ceramic tile and tiled a back pourch and bathroom. I have painted, plastered, conquered wall papaer and removal, installed a kitchen sink and a little bit of electrical as well. The way I look at it if someone else can do it, than I will give it a try. I have many tools and several electic saws, drills etc. However, no tool belt.

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Rock on, Mary!

If a man rejects a woman because she is capable of doing chores and repairs around the house, he has his own issues and I can do well enough without him. Trust me, any man would know he is needed in my life. Aside from minor repairs, how about helping me make decisions on parenting, buying vehicles or job choices? Would you like to lead us in prayer and be a model of humility, service and gentlemanly behavior to my children? Will you get us laughing during a game of golf and keep your temper when you land in the pond? Will you be the one to drive us to church on Sunday? Please do. Then there is the fun of planning vacations, arranging outings and buying those tickets to see the MN Twins. I'd hate for you to don a dress (don't need the competition) but would appreciate it if you helped out with an occasional meal, be it take out or your mom's secret recipe. How about I cut the grass and you do the weed whipping? We could be done in no time and have time to cuddle and watch the sunset.

Just because I am able to do those things on my own (except the weed whip - still haven't figured that thing out) does not mean I wouldn't want to share the joy with someone that deserves my love and respect. I don't know a thing about cars, but I know tools and wouldn't mind handing them to you if you. And, surprise...I can shower, dress and be ready in an hour for wherever you want to go. Or would you rather watch hockey while I hem your new jeans?

This isn't the dark ages. We aren't damsels in distress. We are educated, loving, well-groomed, good smelling, able to survive women and we will always need men, for your strength, your wisdom and your humor. Plus, who else but a true love will lie when we ask if our butt looks good in these jeans?

01/03/2013 new

(Quote) Steve-650539 said: (Quote) Victor-544727 said: All of this is nice and all, but...
(Quote) Steve-650539 said:

Quote:
Victor-544727 said:

All of this is nice and all, but...


I don't want, nor could ever accept being wanted on the condition that I'm needed. I want and could only accept being needed on the condition that I'm wanted.


Ok... off my Carry on!


What Victor said.

I find it interesting that some women are looking to fit a man into their lives by finding the appropriate chore for him to do.

Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because you value and respect my counsel. Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because you are jealous of my ability to have entire conversations with my brothers using only lines from “Seinfeld”. Show me I am important/needed/wanted/insert your favorite word because what I add to your life has intrinsic value.

Need your lawn landscaped or roof replaced? That is what Angie’s List is for.

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Exactly, Steven!


The idea of a man being a man goes well beyond the laborious/physical/financial way they provide support to a woman. Rather, it's about how they lead in the little things in a relationship. How do they provide comfort when I've had a long day? How do they challenge me in my Faith? How do they bring joy in the right moments (maybe by sharing those Seinfeld lines, Steve)? scratchchin How does he help me become a saint? How does he handle the little problems in life?


My brother-in-laws (brother-in-law?) have been great examples of this. With each of my three married sisters, each sister is working and is doing well financially and can handle the daily chores in life/gardening/fixing a flat tire, etc. However, these men show great support in other ways.


In one instance, one of my sisters, the husband isn't Catholic (yet) but he still encourages her to go to Mass each Sunday and has gone with her more recently because he knows he wants to raise their future children in the Faith, since it's important to provide direction and guidance.


In another instance, one of my sisters accidentally threw out her entire keychain - house keys, car keys, etc - in the garbage while at work. They way he gently but confidently handled that situation helped put my sister at ease and made the situation much better than it could have been. He guided and "led" but with his disposition and character, not with material goods.

Even some of the guys I've dated here have been good leaders and have helped me become a better person - from encouraging me to show my lighter side instead of always being so serious, to challenging me with my future career goals.

I guess what I'm saying is, even though society sometimes distorts the role of men and women, the men who "get" what it means to be a man will continue to be that type of man. And the women who are in their lives are going to take note of that and hopefully thank the men for being who they are.

01/03/2013 new

(Quote) Rachel-731570 said: ok, Patrick -- what should I have done?
(Quote) Rachel-731570 said:


ok, Patrick -- what should I have done?

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I'm just kidding!!!!!! sheesh!!!!

01/03/2013 new
Different with me after all the limitations I have from bran cancer treatments. Let's just work together!? OGMBC
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