Okay first, women are not going to call some guy at some unknown time on his cell phone...God only knows where you are, who you are with, and what you are up to. NO WAY. Don't expect us to do the work of the scary first phone call.
Offering up the gentlemen's number is gracious...it gives her one more piece of info about you (that she will immediately take to the internet to check up on you!) and a way to get hold of you. It also makes her feel more comfortable saying, oh, that's okay, you call me.
Here's how it's done:
He: I would love to talk to you on the phone [thus indicating his interest, being a leader, being to the point and not vague]. Would you like to do that?
She: [If she wants to]: That would be lovely!
He: Would you like for me to call you, or if not, you can call me-- my number is xxx.xxx.xxxx.
She: No, that is fine, my number is xxx.xxx.xxxx.
I am not really comfortable giving out my phone number quite yet, so I would be happy to call you. [okay, it's *67 people to block your number to caller ID].
He: When would it be convenient for you to talk? Can I suggest XXXday at X:XX pm? [Have an actual plan, not just, 'I will call you sometime...NO that does not work].
She: that would be great.
He: great it's a "phone date." [Again, telling her exactly where his thinking is at...no wondering, why is he calling, what does this mean, does he like, etc.]
Oh, and then actually call her. Don't forget, don't blow her off, don't cancel at the last minute. It is the same as an in person date. Keep it, absent illness, accident or death. Seriously.
Okay, it's a new year...let's get out there and make some real connections, y'all!