Good points on the opposite spectrum, Rachel! Women are very giving and just as love is given, love also has to be received otherwise it is a one-way street. Women become enablers to self-centered men. I was married to a man who was an only child and he didn't stop to think who he was marrying but rather how he could program and manipulate me into what he wanted me to be which was in essence a slave to him. I was, however, not allowed to do the "guy" jobs and in reality they are actually the "fun" jobs ... mowing ... wow, that's exercise! So when I was out on my own I felt like I had to prove to myself that I was capable.
As a single mom of 4 children for the past 10 years, I have been thrown into having to do my work as a mother, as well as work full-time and part-time, and to do the work of the husband/father since he moved far away. I was thrown into survival mode -- that doesn't mean that's what I want but what I HAVE to do. I don't have the money to pay someone and in working on my home, which included changing out light fixtures, refinishing hardwood floors, ripping up floors so my brother-in-law could lay ceramic tile, helping to finish off a basement (I did have help) but had to do all the spackling, sanding, and painting, not to mention replace the belt on my dryer. I have 5 brothers some in the construction field but try to get one to help is tough!
I have never had men think my capabilities were negative traits whatsoever. I would hope they see it as a woman being capable and not needy; strong and not weak; making choices and not settling. I think some of the men who are "rescuers" seek out needy women but also SOMETIMES those men are the controlling/manipulating ones.
Everyone on here has good insight and I'm enjoying reading them!