(Quote) David-364112 said:
Thanks so much Shara! St Josemaria Escriva is a hero of mine. I was in "the wor...
(Quote) David-364112 said:
Thanks so much Shara! St Josemaria Escriva is a hero of mine. I was in "the work" for many years. Got much of my formation in Opus Dei.
We all need to stop fussing about the people around us. The holier we ourselves become, the better the world around us becomes. Simple as that. Witch hunts, gosspiing, tattling, and so-called "fraternal corrections" are usually nothing more than pride, spite, envy, and ego. All things we should try to remove from our beings, not nurture and strengthen.
David I knew that there was something special about you.
I agree. While admonishing the sinner is a work of mercy it should always be done in a spirit of love. We should always examine our motive in the correction and if it is anything other than I love that person and want so much for them to go to heaven we should stop. If that is truly our motive then there is a way to do it and a process that always involves intense prayer and a spirit of deep humility.True virtue looks inward to weed out sin in ourselves in order to radiate Christ more to others. It never seeks to exalt itself above the sinner. We should also never be concerned about what people think about our friends but of what God thinks of us and how we are working with him to get them to heaven. Don't let others or your desire to please others cause you to fall into the trap of becoming self-righteous. Love, love, love
I once heard a beautiful sermon on fraternal correction and it centered on Christ's intervention in the stoning of the adultress and how it serves as a perfect example of what true fraternal correction ( there are many distorted forms out there) should be.
He starts examining how Christ stumbles upon the scene and and takes in what is going on. He then forces himself into the middle of the circle where the lady is standing and begins to write in the sand. Can you imagine the crowd standing there calling for blood and then this guy comes and forces himself in the center and begins to, of all things, write in the sand? The crowd must have been confused and wondering what he was doing and that was his entire purpose; to take the attention away from the woman's action to his. We therefore should always seek not to expose the sin of the sinner or try to expose them to cencure by slander even when true but to approach in prayer and be private whenever possible in our approach. Then Jesus, now after getting their attention, asks the one without sin to throw the first stone. They of course all leave. That is a lesson of how we should approach by first examining our selves that we may approach the situation with all humility by recognizing our own sinfulness. He then goes through the process of telling her who she is and where she is from which can be confusing. He is really letting her know that he knows who she is, that she is not a stranger to him and that he loves her. Therefore, we should always get to know someone in order to be able to approach them in love and friendship unless it is a grave sin that will cause immediate peril of their soul and others. The final thing he did do was to tell her what her sin was and why it was bad for her and then he tells her that the action must stop. " Go and sin no more" So while admonishing the sinner is a work of mercy, it should be done in a spirit of mercy for it to be charitable and mirror Christ's action.
THERE, BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD, GO I.