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Hi MaryAnn, I feel your pain. I, too, am open to long distance as I feel that if God wills it, there will be a way! However, it seems some folks are set on searching only within their area or 10 miles of their home (haha). Keep on keepin' on and have faith that God will place our prospective spouses in our paths when the timing is right. In the meantime, nothing wrong with making new Catholic friends, wherever they may be right?
Some would rather not be bothered with travelling. It's just a matter of preference and personal choice.
Of course, there will be the regular contingent who will chime in with their opinions that will state something along the lines that people must obligate themselves to "extendend beyond their comfort zone", which is codespeak for doing something you don't want to do in order to satisfy someone else's wishes rather than your own. And, of course, it'll all be predicated on "being open to God's will", which the preachers in this fora espouse at every turn, yet themselves have a list of "musts" and "dealbreakers" long enough to fill a phone book.
Whatever. It is what it is. It's alright and normal to be disappointed, but don't take it personally. It certainly isn't worth stressing yourself over. It'll just make you bitter, as it has many others. If travelling to meet is an issue for a first date it'll be an even greater issue on the second date, and every date thereafter.
I understand exactly what you're feeling. I've been on here since July, and I have the same issue - there's hardly anyone in my area! I am also open to long-distance, but I am old-fashioned in the sense that I will not drive out to another state to meet a guy. I think most guys are just fine with this and will go meet the lady on her "turf," but that doesn't mean it will happen right away. Also, either because of school, job, family, or money issues, most guys don't want to make that effort, and that's fine. My thought is, just don't lead the girl on. :) I wish you luck in your search and I'll be for you.
I've been here for years and have seen some LDRs work but many don't. I for one have never had luck in that department but who's to say it won't work for someone else. I can't afford to travel real far myself. A few hours or half days drive would be possible but hard I've found a lot of people have trouble with just an hours distance let alone more than that. Last year I was in a relationship where the guy live 45 minutes away and distance was still a big issue because neither of us had a lot of money for gas luckily he would take the train but still it was difficult. The only answer really is to meet as soon as possible and see it there's chemistry then maybe an LDR is possible but they have to be open to it in the begining and willing to put in the work and the simple truth is many people just aren't ready to do that.