I can relate to Michael's statements; and I find that it's wonderful to feel the fellowship of shared Faith here, and to find or be guided to information, resources, or perspectives that assist me in the continuing growth of my own Faith. I too, have made some connections wherein I experienced a withdrawal or rejection because I am commited to respecting the Church's teaching and position on Marriage, though I know in my heart that my Vocation IS to be Married.
And in so far as we are not (yet) "Free to Marry" then we can only truely be seeking friendship and fellowship... until or unless our status changes. And in this process, should two find friendship and later become eligilble for (re)marriage, then it can be so - and done on the wonderful foundation of existing friendship, and fellowship, and shared and followed Faith.
Yours is a wonderful message. Rejection is a difficult thing, especially when the ONLY Young Adults group in the area is frequented by an "ex friend" and I'll see her there every week. She was trying hard for marriage, which raised some immediate red flags. There couldn't be just friendship, and I didn't want to waste her time so I let her know where I stood up front. I wish her well with her boyfriend.
It is painful to know I've got to sit on the sidelines for awhile longer, at least, while good ones continue to "get away." Especially with the big 40 looming, things seem hopeless as I attend mass and see all the happy families there, while there is nobody on my horizon. My clock is ticking, too. Like David I know my vocation IS ALSO to be married, and to be a wonderful husband and father. I am learning the value of prayer, PATIENCE, and discernment as I get to know many faithful Catholics and build a new community of friends after a rough couple of years.