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Jan 20th 2013 new
(Quote) Marita-847688 said: The thing is I really WANT to get married and have kids, but I'm scared that if I pray about it God will l...
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The thing is I really WANT to get married and have kids, but I'm scared that if I pray about it God will lead me towards religious life. Religious life is a wonderful vocation, but I am hoping for marriage because that vocation is also beautiful. I would get God and a husband and a family. I know God puts desires in our hearts and if God was calling me to the religious life and I prayed about it I'd be happy to let Him lead the way. I'd love religious life, and realize I'd be happier there than I would be in marriage. However, I'm hoping that if I do pray for my vocation that it is marriage. I pray for my future husband, but I've never prayed for God's will on my calling. Does this make sense? Is this normal?

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Marita, Ask God for what you want. He may interpret your desire for marriage and family to be your image but He may think you may serve better married to Him with the world around you as your family. Let God guide and nurture you, take your worry from you, your anxiety. Live every day, enjoy the sun, people in your life and all that awaits you, Sweet Girl. You will see when He gives you glasses. Eileen
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(Quote) Marita-847688 said: I don't dislike the idea of me being in Religious Life, but I love the idea of marriag...
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I don't dislike the idea of me being in Religious Life, but I love the idea of marriage for me. I've prayed for my future spouse, but I've never really asked God what He wants for me. Does that make sense?

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You love the idea of marriage, you pray for your future spouse, you're on this site.....hmmm....I'd say you have a calling for marriage. Nothing wrong with that. I think what God wants is for us to share His Love with the people we encounter. I think if the reason that we choose our vocation is to help us fulfill this great commandment, then I think we have made the correct choice! biggrin
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In reading this thread, the Baltimore Catechism came to mind. Question number one: Why are we here? "God made me to know Him, to love Him, and to serve Him in this world, and to be happy with Him for ever in heaven."

I think the standard/answer for what we are called to be... single, religious, or married... is the answer to question number 1...Why are we here? Whichever of these will help us fulfill the answer to question number one is where we are to be at the time we ask the question.

Sometimes it seems like Vatican II muddied the water a bit and when answers become blurred, I go back to the Baltimore Catechism...good ole "black and white" theology. There are times when "grey" is just too blurry a guide.

- Elizabeth

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Jan 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Valentin-119637 said: You love the idea of marriage, you pray for your future spouse, you're on this site.....h...
(Quote) Valentin-119637 said:

You love the idea of marriage, you pray for your future spouse, you're on this site.....hmmm....I'd say you have a calling for marriage. Nothing wrong with that. I think what God wants is for us to share His Love with the people we encounter. I think if the reason that we choose our vocation is to help us fulfill this great commandment, then I think we have made the correct choice!
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This is a leap of logic worthy of Evel Knievel. The factors you cite demonstrate only her personal desire, not necessarily her calling: seaqrch on the Internet and you can find any number of priests or nuns who were in similar positions (usually dating rather than on a dating site, which essentially amounts to the same thing). It is incredibly reckless to make any pretense of being able to discern another person's vocation based on a few comments in an Internet forum.

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Jan 20th 2013 new
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: This is a leap of logic worthy of Evel Knievel. The factors you cite demonstrate only her per...
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This is a leap of logic worthy of Evel Knievel. The factors you cite demonstrate only her personal desire, not necessarily her calling: seaqrch on the Internet and you can find any number of priests or nuns who were in similar positions (usually dating rather than on a dating site, which essentially amounts to the same thing). It is incredibly reckless to make any pretense of being able to discern another person's vocation based on a few comments in an Internet forum.



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Sorry for sharing my thoughts and my opinion. Please feel free to delete my post.
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Jan 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Elizabeth-462557 said: In reading this thread, the Baltimore Catechism came to mind. Question number one: Why are we...
(Quote) Elizabeth-462557 said:

In reading this thread, the Baltimore Catechism came to mind. Question number one: Why are we here? "God made me to know Him, to love Him, and to serve Him in this world, and to be happy with Him for ever in heaven."

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Good choice to go back to the Baltimore Catechism!

To pick a nit (for the benefit of anyone who might want to research further) the question you reference is #6 in the older Baltimore Catechisms; in the New St. Joseph edition it is split between questions 3-5 (IIRC). Question 1 is "Who made the world?"

For those not familiar with the Baltimore Catechism, a copy of book no. 2 is available online at www.ourladyswarriors.org

The Nazareth Master Catechism, which contains the catechisms of Aquinas, Trent, Baltimore, Pius X, and the CCC (the current catechism) may be found at www.cin.org

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Jan 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Marita-847688 said: (Quote) Kristen-878108 said: So why would God call you to a v...
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So why would God call you to a vocation that you don't want? Is God so cruel to force people to do something they hate for the rest of their lives? This is not the vision of what I think God reveals to us in Divine Revelation. Isn't this what Valentin was saying? That God wants us to respond in LOVE to our vocation? God doesn't want you to be a sister if you dislike the idea so much. You would have some desire for this vocation if you were called to it.



I don't dislike the idea of me being in Religious Life, but I love the idea of marriage for me. I've prayed for my future spouse, but I've never really asked God what He wants for me. Does that make sense?

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Marita, just some friendly advice, in order to be a true follower of Christ you need to ask what God wants from you and trust in him that it will be something wonderful.


But it may not be what you think it is :)

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Jan 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: Good choice to go back to the Baltimore Catechism! To pick a nit (for the benefit ...
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

Good choice to go back to the Baltimore Catechism!

To pick a nit (for the benefit of anyone who might want to research further) the question you reference is #6 in the older Baltimore Catechisms; in the New St. Joseph edition it is split between questions 3-5 (IIRC). Question 1 is "Who made the world?"

For those not familiar with the Baltimore Catechism, a copy of book no. 2 is available online at www.ourladyswarriors.org

The Nazareth Master Catechism, which contains the catechisms of Aquinas, Trent, Baltimore, Pius X, and the CCC (the current catechism) may be found at www.cin.org

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You are absolutely right, Jerry. It is question #6 from Lesson One. All nit picking aside, it is a great lesson. Thank you for posting the sites. smile

- Elizabeth

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Jan 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Elizabeth-462557 said: You are absolutely right, Jerry. It is question #6 from Lesson One. All nit picking ...
(Quote) Elizabeth-462557 said:

You are absolutely right, Jerry. It is question #6 from Lesson One. All nit picking aside, it is a great lesson. Thank you for posting the sites.

- Elizabeth

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Hi Elizabeth! Love, love, love the new picture! It's very feminine. Chelle

PS Sorry to hijack the thread for a moment!! embarassed

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Jan 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Marita-847688 said: I'd like to hear from a widow/widower who has actually gone through marriage.
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I'd like to hear from a widow/widower who has actually gone through marriage.

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Marita, ask and you shall receive...an account from a widower. lol. I always assumed that I would get married some day, but spent my 20's in school and working in isolated reseach labs, so not a lot of opportunity to meet any women (let alone the one meant for me). Eventually I met my wife to be. We were in school together for a couple years and casual acquaintances. Finally I asked her out on a date and after a few dates found out we had a lot in common - especially a deep love for our Lord. After six weeks of dating I asked her for her hand in marriage. I then knew my vocation was not to be married, but to be with her. All things happen according to God's will and in His time.

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