It's not you Marion, in the cyber world of dating we circumvent Mother nature, we only see a picture and what we write for others to see and are judged solely on that, it's not the same as running into somebody at the store or at an event where a person can see you and feel your Spirit, i find it very disapointing and guilty at the same time.
Agreed, Jim. I've liked a lot of the things on here - sunglasses! who'd have thought? but it makes sense - anyway, when I send messages I always keep it to 4-5 lines at most, just saying that I enjoyed reading his profile and would like to learn more about....x...y...z.... Then I give him the option (sweetly, of course) to reply back with a "sure, we can message" or a "not interested at this time" sort of suggestion. Leaves the door open either way for future contact, keeps things a bit neutral at first, and says that I won't be bugging him if he's just up front with me right away. I don't have time to do the guessing thing, and what the heck is this site designed for anyway?!?!?! don't worry, my "viewed me" guys usually don't get past the line where it says I have five kids. still at home. ages 5-16. Great advertising huh? ;-)