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I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty!

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What do you think of this approach to modesty with those you date and how you dress yourself?

Jan 24th 2013 new

*positive . . . that is what I get for not using the spell check laughing

Jan 24th 2013 new

(Quote) Sarah-901988 said: I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty! www.youtube.com.
(Quote) Sarah-901988 said:

I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty!

www.youtube.com

What do you think of this approach to modesty with those you date and how you dress yourself?

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I really like that Sarah. If we are to allow men to see us for who we are a whole person our modesty in dress and in speech is so important. The kind of man who can see and appreciate that beauty is the kind of man that we deserve as women of God.

It is just so important in any relationship at any and every stage for both of you to respect each other and to care for each other's souls. Recently I realized how important it is for both parties to have a committment to chaste thought and deed and how beautiful it is when it happens. When a man truly is committed to that it is worth its weight in gold. If we are committed as women to presenting ourselves in that manner then our modesty becomes the homing beacon for such a man.

More than just finding a good spouse, we are pleasing God and that is the pearl above price. Even if our modesty never results in a spouse if we gain our eternal spouse we have gained everything and He is DEFINITELY worth the effort and the wait.

Jan 24th 2013 new

(Quote) Sarah-901988 said: I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty! www.youtube.com.
(Quote) Sarah-901988 said:

I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty!

www.youtube.com

What do you think of this approach to modesty with those you date and how you dress yourself?

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I also wanted to say that this is such a timely topic on the feast of St. Francis de Sales. Hemust be smily at this one. biggrin

Jan 24th 2013 new

I particularly liked how she talked about the "reverse equation". We sometimes think if I dress a certain way . . . then men will find me attractive . . . then I will be desirable . . . then I'll have worth. But reality is, if we know our worth that is what is truly attractive. Anyhow, I enjoyed lots of fresh perspectives on an important topic.

Jan 24th 2013 new

Men with any sense will treat you how you advertise yourself. If you are purposefully or blatantly revealing yourself, then you come across as attractive, but cheap.

You want to be attractive, but you don't want to come across as easy.

Sadly, though, there are plenty of boys who just treat all women are cheap by default, but that's a separate thread.

Jan 24th 2013 new

Nice video and I agree that we need first (as women) to protect our dignity by the way we dress. So true also we want to be seen as a person made in the image and likeness of God.

After reading Jason and Crystallina Evert's book, How to find your soulmate without losing your soul, I have not worn my bikini when I am not for a swim and would never do so again. It is hard to be close to God and to wear clothes that can affect your purity and mystery and also cause other to sin.

May God bless us all with thoughts, words and actions which are pure, lovely and honourable. Praying

Jan 25th 2013 new

(Quote) Sarah-901988 said: I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty! www.youtube.com.
(Quote) Sarah-901988 said:

I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty!

www.youtube.com

What do you think of this approach to modesty with those you date and how you dress yourself?

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I very much think modesty is great. The video is fine in terms of expressing the good of modesty. But as a bustier person, I often find myself feeling guilty when modesty is brought up. I am still getting used to wearing "normal clothes" (you can find out why in my profile) and I don't really appreciate some of the attention I get because it is not ordered to the recognition of my dignity. I do not feel I am dressing immodestly and (get this - awkward question, huh?) I've asked a number of women I work with if they feel that I am dressing immodestly and all have said no. But I wonder sometimes if perhaps people like me have to follow more strict guidelines than other women? I like to be attractive and dress attractively, but I have not always done so because of this very fact. For several years I consistently wore baggy t-shirts and even had what I called my "Amish period" (not meant to be derogatory but descriptive) in terms of clothing. If anyone has input for me, I'd appreciate it, but I do wonder if the American obsession with chests is in part to blame. I doubt they have this problem in other cultures where the chest is considered more in terms of its functional reality (like Africa). Or maybe I need to change.

Jan 25th 2013 new

(Quote) Sarah-901988 said: I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty! www.youtube.com.
(Quote) Sarah-901988 said:

I love this balanced and postitve view of modesty!

www.youtube.com

What do you think of this approach to modesty with those you date and how you dress yourself?

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I very much think modesty is great. The video is fine in terms of expressing the good of modesty. But as a bustier person, I often find myself feeling guilty when modesty is brought up. I am still getting used to wearing "normal clothes" (you can find out why in my profile) and I don't really appreciate some of the attention I get because it is not ordered to the recognition of my dignity. I do not feel I am dressing immodestly and (get this - awkward question, huh?) I've asked a number of women I work with if they feel that I am dressing immodestly and all have said no. But I wonder sometimes if perhaps people like me have to follow more strict guidelines than other women? I like to be attractive and dress attractively, but I have not always done so because of this very fact. For several years I consistently wore baggy t-shirts and even had what I called my "Amish period" (not meant to be derogatory but descriptive) in terms of clothing. If anyone has input for me, I'd appreciate it, but I do wonder if the American obsession with chests is in part to blame. I doubt they have this problem in other cultures where the chest is considered more in terms of its functional reality (like Africa). Or maybe I need to change.

Jan 25th 2013 new

(Quote) Kristen-878108 said: ... even had what I called my "Amish period" (not meant to be derogatory but descriptive) in...
(Quote) Kristen-878108 said: ... even had what I called my "Amish period" (not meant to be derogatory but descriptive) in terms of clothing...
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Amish Chicks are cool. I really liked an ex-CM woman from June 2004 - March 2005. She and I discussed her modest dressing, and even agreed to nickname her "AC", for Amish Chick. Oh, how I wish she'd rejoin CM and send those emails to me ending w/ AC.

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