(Quote) Patrick-341178 said:
(Quote) Elizabeth-626798 said:I agree with most of what you wrote with the ...
(Quote) Patrick-341178 said:
I agree with most of what you wrote with the exception "We do not need to tell her what a horrible thing she's done, because she already knows." Is that really the case? Then why are there over 1 million abortions a year in America and why are there so many women who get multiple abortions. I'm sure that is true in some cases but I don't necessarily think that is necessarily a majority of time. You probably deal with women who actually have a conscience and thinking of abortion is actually a moral dilemna. I think for too many it is the equivalent of going to the dentist... a mere inconvience to take care of a much larger "problem."
Patrick, our main service is free pregnancy testing, and many of our women think we do abortions as well, so we do deal with the type of woman you're describing. I've encountered women who've had multiple abortions, as if it were birth control. It's very sad. Now, because our pregnancy tests are free, we are serving a low-income demographic, so that could be a valid difference between your experiences and mine. Also, I realize that I deal with many more pre-abortion women than post-abortion women. I don't know of any hard numbers describing how many women are aware that they are aborting a baby. Certainly, if a woman is completely ignorant that she has participated in killing her baby, then it would be good for her to receive information so she can then face her sin. Yet, when dealing with this population, it's necessary to have a merciful perspective. A woman who knows she is aborting a baby does so because, and I quote, "I have no choice." Such a woman questionably commits mortal sin because the degree of her "full consent" is in question. This is not unlike the compulsiveness of people who "cannot not masturbate" or "cannot not watch porn" or "cannot stop eating." They act out of a distorted compulsion and deficiency in understanding and in self-control. Many women who abort do so out of fear. There is psychological imbalance going on here, and an improperly formed conscience. In the case of the woman who doesn't have "full knowledge," it's not mortal sin. Regardless, both women need healing, love, forgiveness, and a practical way to deal with their sin.
I'm not sure why the issue of blame is important unless the goal is to try and pin-point how to better prevent abortions in general. You asked why we have over one million abortions in America. When a woman accepts the reality that she is carrying a baby, it doesn't necessarily change her mind. The deciding factor in whether a woman aborts is the degree to which she believes that her unborn baby has a right to live at her inconvenience. These are some common reasons that women give when they state they are going to abort: I already have too many children; the father of the baby is not supportive or is abusive; I'm too young; I'm too poor; I'm completely overwhelmed with life; I'm very sick and have really hard pregnancies; it's not a good time for me to have a baby. So, it seems that women either have a practical problem, or they are not using sex the right way. The former can be fixed with Church community support and resources, and the latter can be addressed with correct Catholic teaching on sexuality. But those things do not guarantee an abortion-free world, regardless of whether abortion is legal or not. The real key is do these things with love, because that is what people respond to. Our attitude has to be, "How can I love this woman who has committed this sin?" Is it loving to focus on blaming her? Does that give effective help?
This article from the National Catholic Register is interesting because it puts the issue in perspective: www.ncregister.com