(Quote) Moire-630682 said:
I'm giving this site another shot after trying (at last count) 6-7 other dating sites over th...
(Quote) Moire-630682 said:
I'm giving this site another shot after trying (at last count) 6-7 other dating sites over the past few years. I originally signed up two or three years ago, but after "chatting" with guys for weeks on end none of them ever asked me out, so I wound up canceling my subscription. This time around it seems even worse; I've only been in contact with one guy and he IMs, rather than messages me, which I have a harder time with personally since I am up and around a lot. I've sent emoticons/short messages to several other guys with no response.
I mean, I'm fully aware it might just be me, but... I don't get it. Again, I've been on other sites, and even though I may not be in a relationship I at least got lots of dates and met some nice/interesting people. What's the deal? Has anyone else encountered this?
It's not just you, Moire. I've sent out many messages lately, but haven't had ANY of the ladies respond. It does tend to get you down a little bit, but I do have two friends of mine (that I know IRL and have been friends with for years) that both found their wives on CM, so it does work.
I myself have been off-and-on the site for a few years and have met several ladies face-to-face. I ended up dating a couple of them, but unfortunately those relationships didn't work out in the long-term. Doesn't stop me from trying, though, to find the one God has chosen for me.
I would definitely encourage you to meet face-to-face (safely, of course) as soon as practical with someone you've been messaging or chatting with. You can find out so much more by meeting in person than you can find out online. Myself and the last lady that I met face-to-face with weren't compatible at all personality-wise, which I didn't get the full sense of until we actually met in person.
Don't get too discouraged if you don't hear back from a guy you send a message to. Many people have set up a profile but aren't paid members of the site, so they can't send you anything more than just a blank emotigram in response to your message. And they can't even read your message if they aren't paid members. That may be a large number of the guys that you've sent messages to that haven't responded.
Also, not everyone responds to your messages. I myself try to respond to every message I may get even though I may not be interested in the sender. However, there are a significant number of people who do not respond at all. Also, things can get busy for everyone on CM sometimes, so they might take a long time to get back to you because of that.
Or they might be taking a break from the site for one reason or another and haven't seen your message. That happened to me and one CM lady I ended up dating for a while. I had sent her a message, but she was taking a break from CM and never saw it (CM auto-archives old messages after several months). She ended up sending me a message after she rejoined the site, and we eventually met face-to-face.
I have noticed a bit of a change lately here at CM, though. It seems that not as many people are posting in the forums (some topics last on the first page of a particular forum without a new post for days longer than ever before), and I'm having trouble getting ANY responses to messages. I even can't seem to get more than 2 people interested in an area get together of CM members. I'm hoping that it's just a short-term slow-down caused by winter and that spring will bump up participation at CM.
Just give it some time and see what happens, Moire. After all, it only takes one.