> Lat night, I heard the audio that posted. All I could think of on the kissing part was: One thing is to feel and another to follow up. I have many emotions and thoughts that come to me from outside and inside that I cannot control. Nevertheless, I have the power to let them take over me.
While you are correct that feeling and following up are different, the difference is irrelevant to the end result: while they are two different sins, both are grave.
> I don't think I can have a relationship that I hope leads to mariage without kissing.
The rule isn't no kissing; it is no intimate kissing. It may not be easy, but it can be done. And the sacrifice made will result in many graces. Something to reflect on (for those who are unfamiliar with the passage you alluded to further on in your post):
Then the angel Raphael said to him: Hear me, and I will shew thee who they are, over whom the devil can prevail. For they who in such manner receive matrimony, as to shut out God from themselves, and from their mind, and to give themselves to their lust, as the horse and mule, which have not understanding, over them the devil hath power. But thou when thou shalt take her, go into the chamber, and for three days keep thyself continent from her, and give thyself to nothing else but to prayers with her. And on that night lay the liver of the fish on the fire, and the devil shall be driven away. But the second night thou shalt be admitted into the society of the holy Patriarchs.
And the third night thou shalt obtain a blessing that sound children may be born of you. And when the third night is past, thou shalt take the virgin with the fear of the Lord, moved rather for love of children than for lust, that in the seed of Abraham thou mayst obtain a blessing in children. (Tobias 6:16-22)
Note that I am not suggesting that one wait three days to consummate their marriage (though clearly there is great benefit to doing so with the proper disposition): the point is that having patience and offering the sacrifice to God is to our spiritual benefit.
> On the Sacramental Marriage, I'd like to share with you how I see it. I'm a story teller, so please be patient. I'll get there!
> I met a cousin in the produce dept at the local grocery store. We ended up talking about our young sdult kids & sex. This is what I told her. Rememebr the meteor that fell in Russia the other day? Well, Making Love with your spouse is like that: It's a blast from Heaven. The Power of Crreation that God entrusts us with is SOOOO mighty, that it not only engulfs the couple: it goes out like a wave of PURE LOVE into the rest of the world. That LOVE is PURE because it is God itself. I kept on... and just planted another seed on her wonderful brain: Why do you think we make love facing each other?
Think of how much more intense the first explosion will be on your wedding night when you haven't been nipping away at it along the way...
Good evening, Sir. Without any hint of sarcasm, let me tell you that I am honored to have you respond in detail to my post. I highly appreciate any help I can get on my journey, so that I may eventually get to Dad's.
I do not know if I explained myself correctly or not. I'd like to say t: whjat if I got a thought, like a revenge on someone who has hurt me, I would still have a choice: to feed it or to discard it. The same happens with lust or gluttony or any of the other sins. I might unwillingl feel something because I'm made out of these wonderful sensors in my body that shoot electrical currents in my brain. Unlike animals, we have the God given gift of choice.
I think no intimate kissing (thanks for clarifying) is way too hard... for me... NOT impossible. Agreed. I'm just merely acknowledging my frailty. As I said, now I'm forwarned by Bernard's post. God has many ways of teaching. CM is an example of how we must keep each other's Faith... how we must care for each other. This train of thought leads me to the path of how much blessed we are for the Sacraments, and how much we need to pray for the priests. What would I do without a priest, a brother in Christ, flawed like me, to dispense the Sacraments?
I like your words " intense the first explosion"... I know it's worth waiting for. I know how hollow it can be if one has only sex. I'm sure may of us have been hurt by it. The beauty is that we have Reconciliaton! I just hope I don't kill my future husband after the dry spell!!!