Hello Mari. I can imagine how hard things must be for you right now. This morning I read a quote that might bring you some consolation or help you put things in perspective. Here is my translation of it:
"Love Without Expectations:
When we pay too close attention to the flaws of others, we lose insight. We gain to approach others with unconditional love over personnal interest. That way, for not having held them to our own standards, their inherent goodness may be revealed." (24 heures a la fois - mars - recueil de pensees quotidiennes; Collection la semaine; publication Charron et Inc.; 2007, 12 mars.)
This certainly is not an easy thing to do. Especially since it is in the nature of us women to hold grudges and to fantasize about revenge. The sacrament of confession helps keep us in check; it calls us to remain fully honest about what we really do feel and think that make us unholy and bring our downfall. We are called to surrender our worries, our transgressions and our unholy selves to God. When we are truly repentent we are forgiven and cleansed of these. Confession always helps better understand how to proceed in areas of my life where things are unclear. All the best to you, Mari, in figuring out what you should do in your case. Blessings.
Merci bien, ma chere Francine. Je suis tres heureusse maintenent.
I will deffinitely go talk to a priest so that he may help me find out if I have trensgressed. In my heart, I know that I have not done what my natural self would have wanted. Today's battle has been won because I've had all of you by my side. One battle at a time. Then the war that I'm in will be won by Him. I'm a mere vessel. I know that doing His will will help much more than any material compensation I will ever have.
I will sleep in Peace, my dear Sister in Christ.
Yes, yes, yesssss... I've alwys said that the stork dropped me off at teh wrong address!
I trow seeds around and they sprout... I don't even have to plant them! I was telling a CM friend the other night on Skype that I wnat to have chickens - the only problem is that I cannot imagine taking the egges from them, even if they're not fertilized! Oh, and I want a goat to learn to make cheese - but I can't milk it because the milk is her baby's!!!
This has been a catalyst to push me to do what I really want to do... Until I can devout my life to a special man that Papa Dios has already assigned to me.
Mari, I'm going to offer here what I would do at this point in my life (when I was younger I would have done something different). I would walk away from this situation without doing anything other than praying for your coworkers and for the management that is not acting in a righteous manner. I would let go of this situation and focus on the amazing new opportunity you have of being on a strong spiritual and charitable path toward Jesus by serving the sick and the elderly and the poor. I would ask myself what would Jesus want me to do now. In most cases, Jesus turned the other cheek. Every employee who works at that company must do whatever he or she thinks is best - whether that be leaving the company, complaining to management (which will get you nowhere- and I know this because I worked in the corporate environment for 10 years - in the last few years as a project manager and training manager), changing jobs to be under a new manager, or just staying in their jobs and trying to make the best of it. I think that it is doubtful that anything you do would result in any changes, not because you are not right, but because that is the way corporations work.And, if you start legal proceedings you will be involved in that for years (if your legal system is anything like ours). I believe your company will ignore what you have to say or try to discredit you. And, you will effectively have burnt your bridges (so to speak). I don't think it is worth the time, energy, stress, etc. that doing this would cause. And, I believe it would totally undercut your focus on your amazing new opportunity. Just let it go. Say goodbye, bless everyone there - your friends, your coworkers, and even your managers. This will have more effect for good than any action taken against the company because good has more power over evil than negative actions have over evil (if that makes any sense to you).
So, bless them, say goodbye to them, pray for them, and move on to your new life. You will have more peace and you will be able to focus on doing good works for Christ and Mary. That is what is important. I'm not saying this is easy to do because I know it is not. But, if you can do this, you will truly feel God's grace at work in your life - and this I do know from personal experience. Money is not important in this life and even less so in the next life. All that is important is living a life of faith, hope, and love. And, as St. Paul said, the greatest of these is love (or charity). So, even though you may not want to, be charitable to the people in management who don't deserve it. We don't realize how our good actions toward others affect them. Doing this may result in far more changes than taking them to task or sticking lawyers on them.
I will keep you in my prayers when I go to Daily Mass tomorrow!
You know I appreciate your imput. Fortunately, our laws are on the side of the employee until proven the opposite. I toatly agree on the $ thing. I will get about 20% of what's due, and that is OK. I really don't need anything.As I told a wonderful man the other night on Skype, I'm low maintenance when it comes to material things, but very high when it comes to emotional ones... well, He was not discouraged! He knows I'm trying!!!
Seriously, I've hidden from comfrontation all my life. This is a cause I believe in. Thanks to all the prayers, I feel so much more confident that my soul will not be indanger if I let the Graces of the Holy Spirit work though me, as I'm seeing them flow throught all of you.
I think you are right. In my younger days, I would have felt different too, but now I think you are definitely right. Well, in the Bible who is it that said if you can't change them than "wipe the dust from your feet" as you leave? In my younger days I was always believing that justice and right should win...went through the court system where that definitely isn't true and finally realized sometimes we just don't see that justice in this world and have to leave it up to God to determine in the next. In the meantime, we need to take care of our own souls.
Thanks, Ceryl. The court system is very flawed, and worked against me in my divorce proceedings because I did not know how to stand to my beliefs. This time around, that I'm fighting for others, it just seems so much easier. If it were for my personal gain, I'd probably shy away... as I have done for over 13 months, waiting for what was rightfully due to me. I did the work of 2 people for 1 salary... and only said: STOP when it came to others, who do not have anyone to defend them.
Dear CM Friends:
As some of you know, I'm quitting my job. By July I shoud have moved to the countryside to work in a little town inside a dormant volcano to work with the Parish priest and the few nuns who tend to the sick, the extremely poor and the elderly (sometimes all packed into one person).
I know that there is a very fine line bewteen Justice and revenge (note that I don't capitalize it). Management is trampling all over everyone in the office, and I'm the only one with the guts / freedom to say: Enough.
My "problem" is that I have so much political clout that I just have to make one phone call and they willl have so many inspectors, that the company will pay a lot of fines, and shake all the way to Spain (our main offices) and Abu Dhabi (our owners).
I feel that I'm standing over a cliff, and I'm afraid to fall into a pit. It's my soul's life that's at stake. I understand perfectly well that this temptation has come to me now that I subscribed again for a month, and I'm learning / remembering what being a Child of God is all about; I'm trying to pray the 54 day Novena & go to daily Mass (can't always, but try); I adopted a Cardinal for the Conclave and more... above all, it's Lent!
I don't want to be selfish and ask for prayers today, of ll days, when I wish we were all in a retreat praying for the Conclave, but I'm really in a life or death situation.
"And do not be afraid of those who kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul. But instead fear him who is able to destroy both soul and body in Hell." Mt 10:28
Bless you all,
What would Jesus do? He died on the cross for everyone, including His enemies, He forgave all and offered all pain and sufferings to God. So I pray for you, Mari, that God's shining light will protect you. And I pray for those who have hurt you... "Ask God to open their eyes and hearts so they might know him and his people, reflect on their motivations, regard their sin, search their heart, wail against their unholiness, offer up their lives as asacrifice, and place their trust in Him." Leave it to God...
Jesus, we trust in You!
One morning, on praying the Liturgy of the Hours (Domingo II del Tiempo Ordinario, Primera Lectura, Año I), I read this from St. Paul's Epistle to the Romans: "Now to the one who works, his wage is not credited as a favor, but as what is due." I will not even get my due, nor will I ask for it. I just hope that, by exercising patience and defending others' rights, I will get my due in Heaven. I hope to make a deposit in a bank where moth or thieves can get to it.