(Quote) Ann-119096 said:
I agree that this is the GOOD life and if we stay close to God at all ti...
(Quote) Ann-119096 said:
I agree that this is the GOOD life and if we stay close to God at all times, it is not difficult to follow His teachings. My sadness comes from how few others there are that are following the teachings and/or willing to speak about them. One of my prayer group friends from church has said that God has given me a special grace in this area. But I don't know if I agree. While I do believe that God has given me a special grace in being able to say no, I think that grace is really there for everyone. Do you? I think it is a special grace that is given to be able to teach people about this though. I have done this many times, in person, on dates. I don't think any of them have changed their ways, but I hope they have at least thought a little bit differently after that. I don't know. That's not really for me to judge, I don't think.
What I really wonder about is why God doesn't just send someone quickly for people like us that are faithful and waiting? When you are called to marriage and that person can't be found how do you live out your vocation without settling? My priest advises me against settling, and I agree, but where does that leave us? It makes me feel like I'm living a life that doesn't fit. It's so heartbreaking to me. I feel like so many are in this position.
Like salvation, grace is a gift that must be freely accepted, by us. My favourite image of Christ has always been Him knocking on a door with no handle. Its the door to your soul and only you can open it - from the inside!
I heard it once explained that say you're in jail, and you cannot afford bail, Oprah rocks up with a wallet full of cash and she's on one of her moral high horse benders, she offers to pay your bail. If you accept, you're free. If you don't, well, you sit there and rot.
Accepting chastity, the grace and power to say no, that's a gift that God has offered to all of us. Like all sin, we can say no to it. Its just our flesh fights against us.
I agree with you that its certainly heartbreaking that so many of us feel like we're stagnating in the limbo before vocation. I tend to view the situation as just another example of how much damage is caused by sin. We suffer because of the sins of others, and because of our own personal sin.
I do find it irritating [and kinda a downer] when people try to set me up, when people want me to head out on the town with them to pick up a guy. They don't understand my faith, and the role it plays in my life, I'm not going to find a good Catholic man in the places my friends want to drag me.
The world doesnt understand us. Not by a long shot. But Christ told us that was the deal. If I didn't like the deal, I'd pack up and go join some other frilly easy-as-pie religion, but in all actuality, I'd probably be an atheist. But No. God exists. I can't deny that fact. Not with what He's shown me.
I know what's on the other side of death. If I have to cross through that door a curmudgeonly virgin spinster, with 128 dead cats in the freezer, so be it. I don't know what sex is like. I don't know what marriage is like. But I know Heaven and hanging out with God forever is like infinitely better than the physical. That's how I get through the grumpy low moments when all my secular/protestant/whatever friends are shagging like rabbits and co-habitating with their "life partners".