You were doing really good until you got to here: For the women -- well, if you're bound by tradition and wait for the guys to contact you, it could be quiet for you on weekends. No harm in an innocent "Hello" and a few words to encourage someone to get moving.
Unfortunately for a large percentage of us women the 'innocent Hello' never leads to an actual date.. All it leads to is a day or two of emails if we are very lucky. Then he drops out of sight.. It's still up to the man to be doing the asking on a date..There is precious little asking going on around here.
I agree with Donna. Despite coming from a strong tradition that the man should take the first step, I have sent a simple hello and sometimes even a message to some of my matches. I did not get a single response. Yes I firmly believe that there are enough men and women on this site that there should be much more dating and even marriages than those that have happened. Yes, there is a lot of fear but I believe if you sincerely seek, you will find and that faith can overcome fear. "Feed your faith and your fears will starve to death." ~Author Unknown
And sending a friendly message is just that. I had one man message me when I just started. I responded making him aware of some of my committments (I have two young children) he messaged me back stating he did not think it would work out. I was so impressed with this man that he had the decency to respond.
Since I am in Australia where there are not many members, I was thinking of discontinuing my paid membership but now decided to continue my membership as I find this site very helpful and I enjoy reading the forums.
"Where fear is, happiness is not." ~Seneca. I wonder how many of us here are letting go of our happiness due to fear.
For God gave us not a spirit of fearfulness; but of power and love and discipline. (2 Timothy 1:7) (American Standard Version)