[quote]Lauren-927923 said: I wonder why making the space our own seems to be an important theme?
Perhaps because we are the ones left...and we need to carry on...this may be one way to help us and give us the courage and confidence that we will be O.K.
That could be :-). I know it was really important to me and I had a vision of what I wanted it to be like. I must have looked at twenty or thirty houses and when I walked into the one I bought I just knew this was it. I hadn't even wanted to look at this one, but my daughter kept insisting so to make her happy we added it to the list, we had no sooner gotten there and it started pouring rain. Pete and I had downsized everything, stayed with my mother for a bit, then moved back home and stayed with our married daughter. We were making plans for when I finished school and we had no idea where in the world we might end up. So I literally had nothing but a bed, Pete's tools and our clothes. My books and bookshelves are still stored at my mom's. My daughter and son-in-law didn't want me to move but it seemed almost urgent. LOL, then once I bought the house, furnished it, it took me two months to actually live at my house LOL. I had never ever lived alone. I moved from my parent's house the day we married and we shared a house with my brother and his girlfriend at first, then we had kiddos and Pete's brother lived with us for several years. My friend Simone asked me if I was going to just use the house as a party house or actually live there lol. Once I did move in I didn't want to leave it. I wanted it to be comfortable and safe. . .a sanctuary. Guess I pulled it off lol.