Awesome post being resurrected. Thank you for this!
I was recently ENGAGED to such a man who made all kinds of excuses for holding on to "friends" and then it turned out also women with whom he had the marital act with outside of marriage. He eventually started LYING (or at least, eventually things he as saying were becoming self-evident to be lies), all the while he was telling me daily that he loved me, and wanted to marry me as we planned our future. Then I tagged him on FB with a photo of us together and that weekend it fell apart. (Go figure!) Suddenly he split when I asked him a question about a phone number of a friend (married woman) who he said he had a "lot in common with" but didn't have "se.... uhhh, I wasn't actually pursuing her romantically...!" (He had originally told me he had her number in his phone just to see if she calls him so he would ignore it, but he had said she never phoned him. Uhhh... that would be he pursued her. doh! I don't buy that superman stuff that he needed to be there for her emotionally. It was obviously not a one-off thing, from his own words.)
You know the old saying, "Liar, liar, pants on fire!" Yep! His pants were on fire ... no doubt! All the while, he told his family that he broke up with me because I was ungrateful for all that he did for me! Wow! I trust him and NEVER accused him of cheating, and actually didn't believe he was until AFTER he broke up with me suddenly, then it all started making sense. I could tell you more, but believe me, he is a LIAR. I met him HERE; and he pretends to be a traditional, Catholic man who is chaste and virtuous, yet, he actually used to tell me (each time before he's split) that I made him "feel like (he) wasn't good enough" admittedly NOT for anything I said or did, but for my very virtue that he pretended to share in order to win my trust and affection in the first place.
Yes, your post was awesome. People really need to consider this. Old baggage should be tossed out. Either you want to cling to God and HIS Holy Will, or you want to cling on to memories of sin and access to doing it again.
Can't get to heaven by always presuming on God's grace. Presumption in this manner is a GRAVE SIN.
Pray for these types because they otherwise won't make it.+